GemGems

Hey ladies. I'm afraid i'm gonna need an agony aunt for this!!

I have a problem. I'm a size 14/16 and quite curvy and wobbly in places. My boobs have grown funny (and they are huge!!), they grew downwards instead of out!! Even when i was skinny this is how they were. The thing is.........i really want my OH to see me naked. I mean, i am having his baby for christs sake!!! But i'm just soooo scared that as soon as he sees my body, he's just gonna be totally digusted and go off me. In his last relationship his ex had no problem with walking around naked and lounging about all wkend naked having sex. Afterall, she was a size 10!!! I feel totally inadequate compared to her. I know OH just loves seeing and touching is womans naked body but you just have no idea how much it scares me, the thought of him looking at me and thinking "UUURRRGGGHHHH!!!"

It just really upsets me sometimes and i just wonder why i cant get over this!!! There's no spontenaity (?) due to my hang-ups, sex is normally always in bed, under the covers with the light off. I'm just so scared that what little fire we have is going to completely fizzle out.

Any advice please???

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Spartacus

oh babe sorry to hear you feel like that I am sure your oh adores your body but unfortunately if you don't feel sexy then me telling you that or him telling you that probably isn't going to help. Not sure what to suggest but to try and love your body maybe even try buying some sexy undies and surprising him with them (they love that!) a curvy body like yours is what most men love hun. I used to be like that but the more comfortable you get the better the sex! I used to be a size 8/10 and now a 12/14 and I must say I do feel a lot sexier.

Have you tried talking to him about your insecurities as that may help?

GemGems

Yes, he knows about my hang-ups but he says he doesn't care and just wants to see me, and i want to believe him but i'm just really worried that when he does see my body, he's gonna think otherwise.
I mean, i'm 26 years old and i really should sort myself out. My stupid worrying is going to ruin our relationship isn't it???

polo_princess

I think we should send you off on "how to look good naked"

GemGems

Sounds like a good idea!! But he turns his nose up at the women on there, so god knows what he's gonna think about me!!!

Uvlollypop

ooo how to look good naked pregnant addition!

Spartacus

Well hun I think you are going to have to listen to him! I mean he feels your body and he obviously has seen your body so you gotta love it babs! I don't think it will help your relationship as you will always feel insecure and yes you are 26 years old and going by your pic bloody gorgeous so go down to ann summers and treat yourself to something that you feel flatters you and wow him! Once you have done it once you will be able to do it again and again! enjoy!!

toriaaaaTRASH

Tell him how you feel.

nemmie

I had a similar problem with a close friend of mine, she was a size 18. We took her down to get some underwear that wasnt her usual sports bra and things and she wore them all day and she did feel different when we got home she striped off to her underwear infront of the mirror I myself am very small chested and she is huge. I asked her what she saw when she looked in the mirror it was the usual wobbley bits droopy bits. I then told her what I saw, great tits, lovely curvey waist (mine is just straight up and down) and gorgeous skin not to mention the hair colour of my dreams; we then went through everything she LIKED about her body and didnt mention anything she hated. she repeated this excercise of going through and standing and looking at her body and saying aloud the things she liked, every morning before she got dressed and every evening when she got undressed, until she felt confident enough to ask her OH what he liked about her body, she then added these to her list. sadly me and this girl have lost touch so I don't know how she feels about it now, but something like this may help build up your confidence. write a list of the things you hate burn it rip it up destroy it and write a list of the things you like and keep it clos to you when you feel down about the way you look, look at the list. It can be silly little things like i like this one freckle on my thigh and things. I think I am rabbiting on ... if you get what I mean.. it may help you it may not.... good luck

MrTashaAndBum

As a man, I know that if he truely loves you, he'll appreciate your body. When Tasha got pregnant I just loved her body even more (but shhhh don't tell her that)... sure she has a couple of marks on her tummy now but she's still the woman I love....

Try doing the naked thing willy nilly. Things always feel so much better being done willy nilly.