But, that's not what I believe to be best. If I were in the forces, I wouldn't return upon having children because it's such an all consuming vocation. I would much prefer to see my child as often as I can and be the one to make her stable, happy and independent.

You see hun thats what I mean it's Not what you feel best for your child which is the same for me as I wouldnt put aidan in a boarding school. Purley because I would miss him too much (Proberly a selfish reason

But some do fee it is best. I suppose it comes down to your parenting descions and what each parent feels best for their child
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Not watched it yet, everytime i try to Brooke distracts me

Im neither here nor there on it really ... if it suits your family and lifestyle then go for it, a lot of people disagree with mothers returning to work full stop let alone them having a career, so what are we to do? Im sure in an ideal world everyone could afford to stay home and raise their kids but the harsh reality is, is that living costs, surviving not so much so, but who wants to scrape by month to month? I certainley dont ... anywhoo im going slightly off tangent there and deviating from the OP

If as a parent you feel that it is best for your child then thats fine by me, i wouldnt do it with Brooke because its not something id ever need to consider, but i dont think id knock anyone for putting their child into a boarding school

But for some children/families, many children and families in fact, it is right. Just because it is not right for everyone, doesn't mean it is right for no-one.

I know a huge number of people who boarded - not just at my school, but at many other schools, from different ages. I don't know anyone who didn't find it a positive experience, not just "not harmful" - positive.

It may not be right for you, but that certainly doesn't mean that it is wrong in principal. And if it wasn't available for families such as military families, or like the family of a close friend who had to move to various countries for civilian work, they would almost certainly still have children but those children would not have enjoyed the stable school life that was available to them.

It is very easy to make a blanket judgement and say that something is not right - you can certainly tell very easily whether it would be right for you, but you can't say that it is not right for anyone else. I went - it was right for me. I can't be the only one!

It was right under those cicrumstances. I don't think it's right for anyone, How are you to know that, if things had been different at home, you wouldn't have been far happier?

All 3 families stated they were putting their kids in boarding school for educational consistency. I would muuuuch rather I had my 8 year old home with me, than give them a stable education. I just think 11 is so much better than 8!

Sorry, but the experience is mine - please don't try to undermine it. I am telling you that it was right for me and you should respect that.
I respect your right to make a judgement as to what would and wouldn't be right for you. I even respect your right to have a fairly blanket opinion of the general rights and wrongs of the whole idea, although I don't agree with it. However you are absolutely not in a position to make a judgement about my own situation based on the limited information you have available and I am very surprised you would try.
I repeat, it was right for me. I am therefore in a position to disagree that it is not right for anyone.

It's possible to challenge and respect an opinion at the same time... I'm glad you were happy, I'm glad you have no issues with it. I don't understand your offence at me questioning if things could have been better, however.

I'm not offended - I just find it a most bizarre that you would go beyond asserting that it is not right overall to challenging an individual's personal experience, or that individual's account of that experience.
It wasn't the question about whether things could have been better that surprised me - it was the fact that you seemed to be correcting me. I said "It was right for me" Your response was "It was right under those circumstances." No - it was right for me. Not under any "circumstances", just right full stop. There are people in my life who can have an informed opinion as to that - but the only person in a position to actually know for certain is me! It's not an opinion, it's not a view, it's not a moral stance - it is a fact about my own life, experience and self. To correct me about that is to effectively suggest I am either lying or exaggerating my experience or that somehow you know me better than I do!
I am, as most people know, very keen that people should be allowed to express their views, disagree with others, not be shouted down. I do prefer people to express things in an open manner, by saying "I don't agree" rather than "This is wrong" but I can live with the very strong, broad opinions.
But, really, to disagree with something that only the person posting can possibly know about, that is a little odd in my view. It comes across as slightly arrogant.

Education is very important, you wont get very far in this world without a good education.

My OH has found that one out.

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