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Old Mar 16th, 2008, 02:36 AM   #1
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For the past month or so I've been thinking, really thinking about my relationship.
I seem to have this block up against my OH, whenever i'm not with him I think how good he is to me and how much he loves me and I look towards our future. I want to spend the rest of my life with him... I think. But i'm not sure if it's coz he is so good to me. He is so loving and does so much for me, and I know he is going to make then perfect dad. But I don't know if my head is telling me I should be happy with him, or if I actually am and need to sort myself out first.

He gets annoyed because I can't talk about my feelings or anything to him. My family have never been open about our feelings so it's so hard for me, but I find it is easier to open up to my friends. I don't know if it's coz they know all I want is a shoulder to cry on, and males like to try fix the problem or make it seem smaller. Everyday i am fighting with my feelings wondering if I actually am happy and if I want to be with him.

I keep thinking that if I only could open up to him then we would be alot happier, but everytime I do I freeze. I try to do nice things for him and tell him i love him but again, I just freeze. If I buy him something I know he'll like, I give it to him but I act like it's nothing when he thanks me and tries to kiss me.

I know that the 'butterfly' feelings and all the tinglies wear off once you've been together a while, but why am i finding it so hard to open up and appreciate him for the wonderful man he is?

My SIL said that she and Adam used to fight all the time when they got together and now they don't, they just learnt not to be so picky and get over it all. But how can I do that? Theres nothing wrong with my OH, it's all me and my problem
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Old Mar 16th, 2008, 03:01 AM   #2
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I have been with my Dh going on 7 years now. I also find it hard to open up to him at times when something is bothering me. I have now learned that once I do tell him, I feel oh so much better. It just takes time and trust. Oh, and the butterfly feelings, they tend to last when you find the right man!!
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Old Mar 16th, 2008, 03:03 AM   #3
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Maybe I should try opening up, perhaps then I can be happy and want to spend more time with him.
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Old Mar 16th, 2008, 10:50 AM   #4
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Well,it seems like you guys haven't been together for that long and you're having a baby...Maybe you are just scared how sudden and soon everything changed...You should definitely talk to him about it because if you want to spend the rest of your life with him you've got to learn to share your problems...
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