If anything happened to me I wouldnt want to leave LO with him without some guidance

Aidan's Mummy · Nov 3rd, 2009, 08:34 AM

So my OH (Aidans dad) can be a great dad soemtimes but only when he wants to be. I was reading a story in take a break i think it was when a mum died and left the children with their dad but gave him instructions on how to bring them up. But i would be worried about aidan if i had to leave him with his dad. The reason is, he just doesnt think. This morning OH let me have a lay in and when I came down aidan was still in in ababygro had breakfast all over him and hadnt even had his nappy changed. Then another example is yesterday it was freezing cold and I went to put aidans coat on before we went out oh said 2 He doesnt need a coat on he has got a foot muff and blanket" :dooh: I mean for chirst sake it was freezing outside. I put a coat and hat and gloves on him with a banket.

and do you know what he gave him for breakfast crisps BLOODY crisps I could go on and on

Mum2b_Claire · Nov 3rd, 2009, 08:41 AM

My OH has some odd ideas sometimes, he also regularly insists Ruby doesn't need to wear a coat, and plays with her a bit roughly. But that said, he would certainly be the best person to look after Ruby if the worst did happen.

leeanne · Nov 3rd, 2009, 09:41 AM

Sometimes men don't think. Afterall, they are not normally the ones looking after LO's 24/7.

With that said though, if anything did happen to you, your OH would have full care of Aiden.

asacia · Nov 3rd, 2009, 09:48 AM

I wonder about the damage it would do to a child, to know that they have a capable and willing (if a bit dim) parent who could look after them, but for some reason, is not allowed to. The way I understand it, you can state your wishes about who would look after LO, but they'd still have to prove they were the most suitable person, and anyone could contest it.

OH doesn't parent in the same way as me, but I he is LOs Dad and loves him incredibly. He also feeds him very spicy curry!

Blah11 · Nov 3rd, 2009, 11:26 AM

My OH is kinda like that too. He left her in a wet nightime nappy for 2 hours before he changed it before

nikkip75 · Nov 3rd, 2009, 11:29 AM

i think if something happended to me my OH would probably go crazy lookin after our 3 kids

i think if i knew i was going to die i would have to leave him a list of dos and donts aswell

i was in town a few weeks ago and OH rang me to ask if eden could have a lick of a banana

she was only 12 weeks!!!

helen1234 · Nov 3rd, 2009, 11:33 AM

my oh doesnt think sometimes, doesnt matter how many times i say when you out him to bed shut the blinds and curtains, he never does, he never feeds rhys because he wouldnt know what to give him, actually i dont think my oh knows what we have in our cupboards lol.

asacia · Nov 3rd, 2009, 11:37 AM

That said, OH thinks I let LO get too cold, and pick him up too soon. I wonder how he'd feel about me looking after him alone.

Aidan's Mummy · Nov 3rd, 2009, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by asacia

I wonder about the damage it would do to a child, to know that they have a capable and willing (if a bit dim) parent who could look after them, but for some reason, is not allowed to. The way I understand it, you can state your wishes about who would look after LO, but they'd still have to prove they were the most suitable person, and anyone could contest it.

OH doesn't parent in the same way as me, but I he is LOs Dad and loves him incredibly. He also feeds him very spicy curry!

I didnt say he wouldnt be allowed to i just said that i would be worried anf probs leave him a list of dos and donts
xx

Jkelmum · Nov 3rd, 2009, 11:45 AM

I know what u mean but if the worst happend he would change i am sure as he would become the person who thinks /does everything for Aidan 24/7 xx

Nov 3rd, 2009, 08:34 AM	#1
Aidan's Mummy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Hull Posts: 11,002	If anything happened to me I wouldnt want to leave LO with him without some guidance So my OH (Aidans dad) can be a great dad soemtimes but only when he wants to be. I was reading a story in take a break i think it was when a mum died and left the children with their dad but gave him instructions on how to bring them up. But i would be worried about aidan if i had to leave him with his dad. The reason is, he just doesnt think. This morning OH let me have a lay in and when I came down aidan was still in in ababygro had breakfast all over him and hadnt even had his nappy changed. Then another example is yesterday it was freezing cold and I went to put aidans coat on before we went out oh said 2 He doesnt need a coat on he has got a foot muff and blanket" :dooh: I mean for chirst sake it was freezing outside. I put a coat and hat and gloves on him with a banket. and do you know what he gave him for breakfast crisps BLOODY crisps I could go on and on

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Mum2b_Claire Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Kent Posts: 13,907	My OH has some odd ideas sometimes, he also regularly insists Ruby doesn't need to wear a coat, and plays with her a bit roughly. But that said, he would certainly be the best person to look after Ruby if the worst did happen.

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leeanne Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: BC, Canada Posts: 26,691	Sometimes men don't think. Afterall, they are not normally the ones looking after LO's 24/7. With that said though, if anything did happen to you, your OH would have full care of Aiden.

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asacia Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Surrey Posts: 1,708	I wonder about the damage it would do to a child, to know that they have a capable and willing (if a bit dim) parent who could look after them, but for some reason, is not allowed to. The way I understand it, you can state your wishes about who would look after LO, but they'd still have to prove they were the most suitable person, and anyone could contest it. OH doesn't parent in the same way as me, but I he is LOs Dad and loves him incredibly. He also feeds him very spicy curry!

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Blah11 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 32,886	My OH is kinda like that too. He left her in a wet nightime nappy for 2 hours before he changed it before

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nikkip75 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,354	i think if something happended to me my OH would probably go crazy lookin after our 3 kids i think if i knew i was going to die i would have to leave him a list of dos and donts aswell i was in town a few weeks ago and OH rang me to ask if eden could have a lick of a banana she was only 12 weeks!!!

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helen1234 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Dudley Posts: 7,833	my oh doesnt think sometimes, doesnt matter how many times i say when you out him to bed shut the blinds and curtains, he never does, he never feeds rhys because he wouldnt know what to give him, actually i dont think my oh knows what we have in our cupboards lol.

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asacia Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Surrey Posts: 1,708	That said, OH thinks I let LO get too cold, and pick him up too soon. I wonder how he'd feel about me looking after him alone.

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Jkelmum Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In my own bubble Posts: 17,575	I know what u mean but if the worst happend he would change i am sure as he would become the person who thinks /does everything for Aidan 24/7 xx

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