willow

Hi im new here and was not shure where to post. I would like some help and advice.
Im 25 and just found out im pregnant on friday, it was a huge shock, my boyfriend is 29 and we rent a house together. He wants me to have an abortion but i really dont think I can, ive tried to talk to him but he just gets angry. He says its the wrong time and it would ruin his life, and that he would resent the baby and it wouldnt be fair for me to have it when its farther dosnt want it. Ive been sent home from work today because i was so upset, he is expecting me to make an appointment at the docs tonight as to get it sorted as soon as possible. I carnt stop crying, I justdont know what o do. My boyfriend isa good person, he has had a tough life and his mother died suddenly in september. We are just gettig on our feet and planed to buy our own house this year. I just dont know what to do.

cupcake

i really feel for you
all i can say is if your truley dont want to have an abortion you should not feel pressured into doing so. your boyfriends feelings are understandable as he is in shock but maybe you could try and talk to him again in a few days.

as much as this is both of your child, you have to do something that you will be able to live with too. good luck

nikkybaby

I am soo sorry that you have to go through this. Nobody should.

Honestly, if you want to keep the baby, keep the baby. It's that simple. If he is too selfish to even think about you, then he is not worth it. Every man is scared to become a father, but the good ones come around.
Just think of how you would feel if you did go through with the abortion. Could you live with that decision? It's all up to you. Do what you feel is right. Don't make a very important decision based on what your boyfriend says. Everything will work out for you. We are here to support you every step of the way. If you do decide to keep your little one, and your boyfriend leaves you, or something along that line, he wasn't worth it anyways.

I hope everything works out for you.

Jules

If you want to keep the baby then keep it! don't be pressurised into thinking you should have an abortion, its your choice.

Do you feel able to have the child on your own if the father doesn't want to be involved?

willow

I have a wonderfull family and friends who i know will be there for me but my boyfriend says how could i bring a baby into the world when its really not wanted by one parent. I love my boyfriend very much, and if he said we can do this id be over the moon, but i can't seem to talk to him without him getting really angry.

Jules

Not everything always goes to plan, but your not going to get anywhere if he's not even willing to talk about it without getting angry, its not your fault, takes two to tango!

If you want to keep the baby keep it, like you said you have supportive friends and family, if you let him know your decision he might come round, if not then its his loss. You don't want to feel guilty forever because you had an abortion and didn't want to, i reckon you'd end up resenting your boyfriend for this too! would he want it to ruin your relationship by not having the baby?!?

Mynxie

don't feel pressured into anything, if you want your baby, you have it. He might be a good person, but right now he's being very selfish, uncaring about you or your baby.

cutie_wutie

doctordeesmrs

Follow your heart and don't let anyone tell you what to do with your body. Remember you have a family that love and support you.

jo27

Yer agreed with pp don't rush into any decision you have time to think about what you want to do. Maybe let the air settle a bit before trying to discuss it again. Don't agree with how he has reacted but that's men for you hey! good luck i hope it all works out x