lilmumma

ive forgotten

i'm so tired out lol, any one with ANY tips at all, no matter how stupid, or legendary or mythical, i dont give a damn, i just want sleeeeeeeeep lol, i got 4 hours almost this morning, which was sooooooooo good lol, but now we're back to square one again i think, it's 6:17am and i still never made it to bed, i have to litteraly squish him into me to make him sleep, and i get scared of suffocating him! he just doesnt sleep at all, ever!

any tips on making him sleep are greatly appreciated and i will love you forever x

lilmumma

i give up, it's 8:14am and the others are up, im going to try and wake the OH, make him get up for a bit lol

have a good day x

cupcake

is there no way you can do shifts so you get some rest
you really need to be able to sleep in order not to get exhausted.
maybe you can have someone come over for 3 or 4 hours just so u can sleep if your other half cant help you.

lilmumma

he could help, if he wanted to, he's just being an arsehole saying he's done it for 7 months whilst i was pregnant, now its my turn, thats all i get! im rather tempted to put a rocket up his arse! his parents are trying to help as much as they can, but other than have Kabe overnight i doubt very much anything wil change around here. I'm nearing the exhausted point already and seriously if i dont get my sleep usually im all snappy and horrid, its not fair on the other kids. I slet fo3 just over an hour this morning in bed whoch was like heaven lol, its the forst time ive actually slept in bed since he came home lol, ive been sent to the sofa lol

cupcake

hmmm... maybe you should tell other half not to keep scores, you carried all your children, felt all the lovely and not so lovely things that go with that..
just coz he helped you out doesnt mean that now its over to you to do everything , there are lots of lil ones in your house imagine if you said
well ive had the kids so i think now everyone can fend for themselves ive done my bit!

lilmumma

lmao, i wish!!! truth betold, i dont think he could do it. I mean, i know he's having issues at the moment, we both are with stuff, but he loves them both, thats more than apparent, it's just him refusing to do anything really. During the day and out in public he;s fantastic, today we went food shopping, lol, first time with ALL of us lol. we got stopped so many times, when all i wanted to do was just go home and lie down. But he played doting dad all afternoon and whenever we see people we know, he;s always making out like he's going for dad of the year or somethingm when in fact he's being an arse at home. not once has he stayed up since Kabe came home, and not once has Kabe had a decent night. so since he came home on the 23rd we've done nothing but fall out. I'm fed up of it, i love him to bits and know he adors the kids, but i feel like i cant go on, every day is a struggle to just continue and keep going right now.

Iwantone!!!

which one is not sleeping babe?

y not get him in a bath with lavenda oil to relax him dnt go bk downstairs again as this will get him active again put him in on his own bed read a bookd bottle whatever he has to drink at night do u have a childgate but its against his door so he cant egt out if he gets out of bed put him bk dont say anything he will settle the first night will be hard but he will know u meqan buisness and the next night it will get easier good luck

LilysMummy

I think youve answered your own question - you need your bed. Tell yor OH he can have the sofa for a few nights. As for setteling Kabe i cant help as i dont have my LO yet. hope you can sort it out

xx

lilmumma

he's 5 weeks lol. he just wont settle, hasnt sorted out a routine etc yet, he sleeps, but only for half an hour then wakes, and i have to have him downstairs cos he wakes the others and then they dont go back to sleep

Lil_Baby_Boo

I was having a similar prob with Noah. He wouldn't sleep unless he was cuddled....he was always trying to burrow under my armpit?? I uesd to have to hold him against me and lie down before he went off and then as soon as i put him in his cot he'd wake again.

I really had to take control.....started getting him in to a routine....

8pm, nice warm relaxing bath (NO PLAYING OR SPLASHING!) Then it was straight in to the bedroom where I'd just have a lamp on while I dry him.

Then I'd switch the lamp off and put the landing light on and give him a warm bottle.

Put him in to bed, I have to swaddle Noah (I know they say not to but I spoke to my HV and she said its fine so long as it not too tight and they are able to move if they want to) It ovb makes them feel secure.

Then door shut, dummy in and some relaxing music (from a light show or cot mobile)

I just sit with Noah incase his dummy falls out as if it does he wakes up again!

NO PICKING UP OR TALKING TO HIM IF HE WAKES!!

I still do that now! I know it seems a bit harsh not playing with them or fussing them but I just thought 'he's the baby, not me!'

It takes time & he will prob cry for a few nights but once you start getting him used to the routine he knows whats coming.

Its so hard at first but stick with it.....it does work!

xx