i do the swaddle thing lol, i have to, or he scratches everything lol. i'd love to be able to do it like that, but with the set up we have, i dont have the time or the room to devote all my attention to him like that, it sounds harsh, i know that, but when they are all bathing, like Brandon and Benj in one, Ethan jumps in the next one and then Izzie and Kabe have one together or izzie go ins with benj and kabe showers with me lol, he loves it lol. but with the milk thing, we all sit and have milk together, the whole family, and me n josh have a drink too, so we do it together and try and relax, but it still wont work with kabe, even though all we have on is the lights :'(
i spoke to my HV today, or rather cried down the phone at her

and she said she was coming first thing tomorrow and hopefully can sort something then