Little debate/discussion

Would you turn to surrogacy if you had permanent fertility problems?

Would you be a surrogate for a woman who could never carry her own child so she can complete her family?

There is two types of surrogacy:

Traditional (Straight) surrogacy:- The surrogate uses her own egg fertilised with the intended father's sperm. This is done by artificial insemination using a syringe or there are an increasing number of infertility clinics willing to help with traditional surrogacy.

Gestational (Host IVF) surrogacy:- The surrogate carries the intended parent's genetic child conceived through IVF, for which specialist doctors are needed. For this treatment the infertile woman must still have working ovaries.

i would do it for someone i think...probably the 2nd one more likely tho, Gestational, just because then i wouldn't feel as much of an attachment because i know its not my egg and what not that made the baby. i think its horrible that there are so many good people out there who can't conceive and if someone asked me to help them out i definitely would i don't see any reason why not as for using a surrogate mother...why not? its like adoption, but you can know the mother and watch her progress through her pregnancy. i think surrogate mothers are a good idea

Not sure if i could do it myself but i would have no probs using a surrogate if we needed to.

I would donate my eggs, i dont feel an attachment with eggs like i would if i were pregnant.

I could imagine to turn to surrogacy, but I can hardly imagine that I would do it myself.

I don`t think I could stand the feeling to give "my" baby away (and it would be "my" baby if it grew up in my stomach - no matter if it was not my egg or my husbands sperm).

I couldn't to it, I couldn't carry it for 9 months and give it up even if it wasn't my egg.
I don't think I'd like someone to do it for me either, I couldn't think about her having sex with another man with my baby inside her.
It would kill me not to know exactly what she's feeling, symptoms, kicks etc
And having a baby that I couldn't be with when I wanted whilst it's growing.

I've thought about this a lot as my friend offered to be a surrogate for me, she has 2 children and her and her OH want another baby in a couple of years but she said after that she wants no more but would carry mine and DH.
But she drinks and smokes throughout her whole pregnancies which would also worry me to death.

Doesn't the birth mother have to go on the birth certificate even if it isn't her egg?

Like AG said I could quite happily donate eggs but I couldn't give birth and hand it over.

If I was even in a situation where I couldn't have another child then I think I would like to try the adoption route first.

I think the people that do it are brave and I applaude them, but there is so much to thinkabout.

Makes you think though...

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I would do it. I would be a surrogate with or without egg.

Knowing full well that couple want a child so badly they are willing to go through the process of another person carrying their child. I would be honoured.

I dont think my OH would be too keen on me doing it though so it would need major discussion before hand, but i'm sure i could convince him.

I am a person who is always willing to help out someone else. In whatever way i can.

This is something Iv thought about before, I love to do things for other people, I sailed through my last pregnancy, and it is something I would consider. It would have to be with the mothers egg though, so the baby isn't genetically mine, then I wouldn't feel as attched to it.

Also I would want to have a c-section, I dont know why but I think If I didnt go through the birth experience i wouldnt get as attached and could see it more as an operation (no offence to anyone who had sections, Im not saying you only bond with your baby if you have a vaginal birth)

and If I was infertile, then surrogacy is definaly something I would consider before going along the adoption route.

I would be able to donate eggs but that is it.

I would and i know for a fact i would get to attatched to the child xxxxx

I wouldn't be able to Spending that long with a child inside you feeling it kick and move around and having to give birth to the baby i know i would feel attached to it.

I would Donate an egg/eggs though, i do think it is really mean for people who do deserve children have to go through all that they go through to have the children.

I do wonder sometimes how life can sway you answer! Like would a parent who knows how important & special a family is be willing to consider being a surrogate but another woman blessed with her own children know that special meaning & donate eggs! Would you say no to both?

Would a woman with no kids say she couldn't yet would that woman if she sadly fell into the position of infertility or recurrent pregnancy loss change her opinions?