Ok, i'm just thinking ahead here and starting to worry about some things. We're getting a referal to see a fertilitly specialist next week. We're willing to undergo all treatments and commit to appointments and all that sort of thing, but i've only just got a new job, and what makes me so valuable to my employee is the fact that I am super flexible and can work with a minutes notice.

What if through all these appointments I lose that major flexibility? What if I have to do IVF or ICSI and have all hormone injections - how will I react to that and how will that affect my job? We're in a very small town and have kept all of this VERY private, and it doesn't bother me so much but DH doesn't want anyone to know.

So should I wait till our appointment, make plans of what we're going to do and what road we're going to head down, then talk to my boss? I don't want them to feel sorry for me and keep me on out of sympathy when they may not need me if I lose my working flexibility, but I really love my new job (vet nursing) and want to keep it, the extra money is really helping, but at the same time we want to get pregnant more than anything else?

How would I approach this situtation? My boss and co-workers are very understanding, they're all in their late 30's with young children so would understand and all, but i just think it is a really hard conversation to have and I don't want to burst into tears

What should/can I do??? I'm so confused!

I would wait and see. If it turns out that the treatments will need a bit more of a priority then your being flexible at work, then I would ask to talk to my boss privately and see what ya'll can work out, and ask that s/he keep it between the two of you.

I personally would see how it goes. If you find that you have to go to clinic in work time I would tell my boss I am not well and I'm having appointments or something along those lines, you do not have to disclose anything personal to your boss. And to be quite honest, why is it that bosses seem to think that flexability is a one way street? Surely it is give and take, unless you are on-call and in that case he should be paying you for such.
Sorry, but i have the same thing with the nurse bank. They would call me and expect me to drop everything, If I refused stateing that I was in the middle of an assignment (My degree is more important to me) I would have a row that would end in me reminding them that I get paid min wage and I am not "on-call".
At the end of the day sweety this is a life decision and a job is just a job.

There is a simple clean cut answer - what's more important!?

I went through fertility treatment and the first for me was a tablet called Clomid. And to be honest, unless you fall pregnant straight away then it won't effect your work.