Hi all..

I think I am having sort of depression now. I have a nice job, excellent salary, who cares about money when u arent happy? my boss is a stupid arrogant man, he doesnt appreciate what everyone does, and he is really mean, the kindda person that, if u dont do what he says he is mad at u and shows it by being mean... he stops you when u r talking to say stupidities..

After this second miscarriage I had this year.. I am depressed, I just dont feel like going back to work, I know I have been given the great favor of taking 3 unpaid months bec i wanted to rest as being pregnant, but if it wasnt bec of one of our managers, my stupid boss would not have given it to me.

I want to take a break from work, I dont really need to work, it's just that i am wasting time since we are away from our country, no family is here with us, its me, DH, cousins, and friends only. We all live away from each other so we see each other maybe every weekend only..

Now the plan is that my doctor told us to wait 2 months to try again to get pregnant. I will have D&E done in 2 days (i am freaking scared btw) and when I feel good physically i want to join a gym to lose weight bec i gained some kilos after my first miscarriage this past summer...

Am I doing the right thing? I really dont feel like working and seeing that man (boss) and I just wana concentrate in healing bec I am seriously not ok, I think I am starting to suffer from depression.

Suzan firstly
I really think u need to talk to ur doctor hun, i would also consider asking him to sign u off work for a bit, i found it very hard to come to terms with my loss last year i was signed off for a good few weeks and felt ready to come back after that few weeks!
I think its very early days for u to be back at work hun but i would def not just quit. Thats just my thoughts anyway!
Sorry im not much help.
xx

Definitely go and see your doctor Suzan. I was off for 2 months earlier this year, just through stress, and I hadn't been through the heartache that you have. i was so close to quitting, but my occupational health suggested part-time. I now work 3 days a week, and am loving it.

Sounds like you need someone to talk to hun.

I agree. as someone who has suffered from Manic depression and clinical depression I would say don't be scared. I know you are but you will heal and you need time and support, you will get through it, you will feel better and you will be stronger.

Thinking of you. Please talk to the GP

Amy

First off,

Second of all, go see your doctor! I suffer from depression and have for years. I am trying to go med free (except for St. John's Wort) and it's tough. Even though we are ttc, I am thinking I have to talk to my doc about meds again...please, speaking as someone who has gone through the depression (not the m/c - for your loss, I can't even imagine, but seeing my SILs go through them I know it's hard) go see your doctor! If you have to, take some time for yourself to think and heal. Medication can be very helpful, and if it's just needed for a little bit to help you over this time, it can be worth it. Just don't stop taking it without your doctor's approval! Just make sure that they know you will be ttc.

You will get through this. Take some time for yourself and talk to your doctor.

i suffered from depression for about 4 years and thought id never feel any better. When you feel low and you feel that you are getting depressed work is the last place you want to be. I think you are doing the right thing not going to work. Your coming to terms with your loss and your not able to see your family and friemds as much as you would like right now which would make things harder! Remember that how you are feeling is totally natural and totally understandable.

Health and happiness is more important than work, i turned down a really god career opportunity which meant i would have been on a great wage for life because i knew the stress of the job, responsibilty etc. would have made me miserable. I think most people would rather be poor and happy not rich and miserable!

You should def have a chat with your doctor about it aswell!

Ive suffered from depression since I was 14... thats about 7 years now. Ive been so close tor esigning a few times but I decided that it was a bit irrational, Id probably regret it when I was thinking clearly and I needed the cash, so I spoke to my doctor and I got signed off a few times. I think Ive been signed off 5 times.

I think thats what you should be doing really.I know how tough it is to suffer from depression (although I havent had a loss like yours) especially when trying to hold down a job.

I hope everything works out for you hun and if you need anyone to talk to just drop me a line Cant promise I can help but Im a shoulder to cry on

xxx

aaawww hunni hugs for u go see ur doc and get soem help well done for realising that u need help and want it hunni e are here to talk if u need to rant ((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))