OMG!!

Waiting4Bump · Mar 1st, 2009, 15:28 PM

I feel like I should bang my head against a wall LOL I know really it is nothing to do with me at all, and I should just keep my nose out but I can't help it!

One of my best friends has been with this guy for like 4 months. He has just changed his status on Facebook to something like:

".....Has just asked someone the biggest question of his life!"

He has been hinting at proposing to her for ages! That in itself is really sweet, and lovely, and I want OH to get the message and propose to me! I think I'm going to leave this page open LOL!

But anyway, the problem is she doesn't love him. She tries to convince herself she does (She has told me this btw, last night!) and she only has sex with him to keep him happy. Why would you get engaged to him then?

Sorry, I just needed to rant! xx

Pops · Mar 1st, 2009, 15:31 PM

I know of so many people in similar situations, just go with it as it's easier than finishing it, the other person hasn't done anything wrong etc etc and it just breaks my heart for the people involved because eventually, it will end in someone getting hurt far more than anyone had to and all the while they are together, both are missing opportunity of finding someone who loves them the way they should

I hope she does the right thing in the end and all you can do is be a friend to her

xxx

Mynxie · Mar 1st, 2009, 15:32 PM

Waiting4Bump · Mar 1st, 2009, 15:34 PM

It is just silly isn't it? I really feel for my friend. She has been through so much in her life, and this boy is a well known player. Don't get me wrong, he is lovely, but she can do better. I can't say anything to her, but I am always here for her 100%!

She is like my little sister, and I really don't want to see her getting hurt!

xx

PixieKitty · Mar 1st, 2009, 15:36 PM

Must be so frustrating to see that situation! I'd be unable to stop myself giving an opinion, but I'm just a mouthy cow

hopefully they both have a good talk about their feelings and sort it out, it'd be awful if they got married and were stuck in a loveless relationship

to you

Waiting4Bump · Mar 1st, 2009, 15:39 PM

He "loves" her, but I have a feeling it's because she would do anything to keep him happy. She has lost her Mum, and I think she just needs to feel loved, and wanted, because she has had rejection in her life. I can't imagine ever being in that situation!

It must be awful, and that's why I just can't let her have any more pain in her life!

I love her to bits, and it's horrible to watch!

Thanks for the hugs guys!

xx

Tam · Mar 1st, 2009, 16:51 PM

Nowt stranger than folk!

Waiting4Bump · Mar 1st, 2009, 16:56 PM

Very, Very true! There's some right wierd people. I had this conversation with another friend today LOL! xx

**Wobbles** · Mar 2nd, 2009, 07:38 AM

4 months - why does she feel she needs to convince him she loves him. If so quick into the relationship she doesn't have feelings for him and is only having sex to keep him happy then she should have pulled out long ago. I know people who have been LT relationships try to do this but 4 months

Maybe she needs a voice of reason from a close friend x

Waiting4Bump · Mar 2nd, 2009, 10:56 AM

I rang her this morning, and burst into tears! I told her I needed to talk to her, but that I am working all day today, well a 2.5 hour break now, but I need urgently to talk to her! So we are meeting up tomorrow evening for pizza and a chat!

I need to make sure she realises what she is doing! xx

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Waiting4Bump Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: North West Posts: 4,473	OMG!! I feel like I should bang my head against a wall LOL I know really it is nothing to do with me at all, and I should just keep my nose out but I can't help it! One of my best friends has been with this guy for like 4 months. He has just changed his status on Facebook to something like: ".....Has just asked someone the biggest question of his life!" He has been hinting at proposing to her for ages! That in itself is really sweet, and lovely, and I want OH to get the message and propose to me! I think I'm going to leave this page open LOL! But anyway, the problem is she doesn't love him. She tries to convince herself she does (She has told me this btw, last night!) and she only has sex with him to keep him happy. Why would you get engaged to him then? Sorry, I just needed to rant! xx

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Pops Other BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Surrey Posts: 9,350	I know of so many people in similar situations, just go with it as it's easier than finishing it, the other person hasn't done anything wrong etc etc and it just breaks my heart for the people involved because eventually, it will end in someone getting hurt far more than anyone had to and all the while they are together, both are missing opportunity of finding someone who loves them the way they should I hope she does the right thing in the end and all you can do is be a friend to her xxx
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Waiting4Bump Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: North West Posts: 4,473	It is just silly isn't it? I really feel for my friend. She has been through so much in her life, and this boy is a well known player. Don't get me wrong, he is lovely, but she can do better. I can't say anything to her, but I am always here for her 100%! She is like my little sister, and I really don't want to see her getting hurt! xx

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Waiting4Bump Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: North West Posts: 4,473	He "loves" her, but I have a feeling it's because she would do anything to keep him happy. She has lost her Mum, and I think she just needs to feel loved, and wanted, because she has had rejection in her life. I can't imagine ever being in that situation! It must be awful, and that's why I just can't let her have any more pain in her life! I love her to bits, and it's horrible to watch! Thanks for the hugs guys! xx

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Waiting4Bump Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: North West Posts: 4,473	Very, Very true! There's some right wierd people. I had this conversation with another friend today LOL! xx

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Wobbles Mum (Mom) Administrator Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Chester Gal By Heart Posts: 50,081	4 months - why does she feel she needs to convince him she loves him. If so quick into the relationship she doesn't have feelings for him and is only having sex to keep him happy then she should have pulled out long ago. I know people who have been LT relationships try to do this but 4 months Maybe she needs a voice of reason from a close friend x
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