I've made the decision

....Jess.... · Feb 10th, 2010, 06:35 AM

not to have any bridesmaids.

are they really a necessity? everybody a work says it wont look proper, but i can honestly say i dont want any.

i know a lot of people, but i cant pick any that i would want to support me on my day.

icy1975 · Feb 10th, 2010, 06:39 AM

when we got married we had one bridesmaid, the only thing she did was help me fasten my dress, held my flowers during the service and just made sure I looked okay before I walked down the aisle, the 3 people we couldn't have done without were the 2 ushers and best man, they were fantastic and helped out loads! It's your wedding and your decision, don't let others influence you!

(I'm a mum2be posting this on my husbands log in btw, he didn't wear a dress to our wedding lol)

Connah'sMommy · Feb 10th, 2010, 08:24 AM

Hiya hun,its up to you if you have bridesmaids or not,dont let other people tell you what is right or wrong!
Its your day so do it how you want

x

Lil_Baby_Boo · Feb 10th, 2010, 08:36 AM

I'm only having the one and at one point did actually consider not having any. My OH was saying 'why don't you ask so and so' but he was saying people I'd not known for too long and somone that I wouldn't share things with etc.

I think its very personal my MOH has been my friend for 11 years - we actually met because she was going out with one of the lads I knew at school. They spilt up but we always remained friends, went clubbing etc etc. She's actually the only friend I went out drinking etc with years ago.

I went to a wedding last year and there was no BM's & nobody noticed.

You could always have a 'Man of Honor' rather than a BM? I've seen that done before too.

You have what you want - its YOUR day, don't let anyone boss you about.

xx

Vici · Feb 10th, 2010, 08:44 AM

If you don't want any hun, don't have any!

I have 7 - 4 adults and 3 FGs. I have twin sisters so both of them and they are fab and very helpful, my SiL2B who has been such a massive help with all my stationary stuff etc and my best friend who is always there for me when I need her. Couldn't imagine not having any of them

I did however not pick my 2 half sisters - which i'm not sure went down too well, but they couldn't even be bothered to come to our engagement party so I knew along time ago I wouldn't asdk them

Blob · Feb 10th, 2010, 11:50 AM

I have 2 but TBH may as well have had none, my sister has been good but then she would have done the same if she wasnt my bridesmaid

emmajane · Feb 10th, 2010, 15:49 PM

I agree that it is completely up to you however my BM has been amazing so far. She has been so supportive and been with me to everything and arranged an amazing hen night. I couldn't have done it without her really and has been really nice to share it with her. We have been friends for years but hadn't been so close recently but it really has made us close again which is lovely. She really has appreciated being asked I think. But you have to do what is best for you and no one else!

lollylou1 · Feb 10th, 2010, 16:00 PM

this may sound selfish of me but the i didnt want any! my best friend who i felt i had to ask or she would be disappointed would have driven me insane asking me constantly if she looked ok etc and i know she would have been no use to me LOL luckily for me she got preg and was due week after wedding so when i spoke to her about it we jointly decided not to have her and i chose not to have any full stop, it worked good for me, i had a close family friend who had lost her daughter to cancer help me get in my dress there wasnt really a need for bridesmaid
so all that waffle and im trying to say do what you want to do hunny if u think u need their support have them if u think u can do without u will do fab
Lou
xxx

....Jess.... · Feb 10th, 2010, 16:31 PM

thanks everyone!

i've deffinately made the decision, i wont be having any. i dont want to sound selfish or ignorant, but i cant think of anybody that i would want to support me on that day.

ahh back to the planning hehe!

how is everyone getting on?

24/7 · Feb 10th, 2010, 17:18 PM

I'm not having any either.

Feb 10th, 2010, 06:35 AM	#1
....Jess.... Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Somerset Posts: 53	I've made the decision not to have any bridesmaids. are they really a necessity? everybody a work says it wont look proper, but i can honestly say i dont want any. i know a lot of people, but i cant pick any that i would want to support me on my day.

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Feb 10th, 2010, 06:39 AM	#2
icy1975 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 1,134	when we got married we had one bridesmaid, the only thing she did was help me fasten my dress, held my flowers during the service and just made sure I looked okay before I walked down the aisle, the 3 people we couldn't have done without were the 2 ushers and best man, they were fantastic and helped out loads! It's your wedding and your decision, don't let others influence you! (I'm a mum2be posting this on my husbands log in btw, he didn't wear a dress to our wedding lol)

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Feb 10th, 2010, 08:24 AM	#3
Connah'sMommy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: South Yorkshire Posts: 5,667	Hiya hun,its up to you if you have bridesmaids or not,dont let other people tell you what is right or wrong! Its your day so do it how you want x

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Lil_Baby_Boo Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Holywell, North Wales! Posts: 2,870	I'm only having the one and at one point did actually consider not having any. My OH was saying 'why don't you ask so and so' but he was saying people I'd not known for too long and somone that I wouldn't share things with etc. I think its very personal my MOH has been my friend for 11 years - we actually met because she was going out with one of the lads I knew at school. They spilt up but we always remained friends, went clubbing etc etc. She's actually the only friend I went out drinking etc with years ago. I went to a wedding last year and there was no BM's & nobody noticed. You could always have a 'Man of Honor' rather than a BM? I've seen that done before too. You have what you want - its YOUR day, don't let anyone boss you about. xx

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Vici Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Suffolk Posts: 5,931	If you don't want any hun, don't have any! I have 7 - 4 adults and 3 FGs. I have twin sisters so both of them and they are fab and very helpful, my SiL2B who has been such a massive help with all my stationary stuff etc and my best friend who is always there for me when I need her. Couldn't imagine not having any of them I did however not pick my 2 half sisters - which i'm not sure went down too well, but they couldn't even be bothered to come to our engagement party so I knew along time ago I wouldn't asdk them

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Feb 10th, 2010, 11:50 AM	#6
Blob Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Posts: 12,735	I have 2 but TBH may as well have had none, my sister has been good but then she would have done the same if she wasnt my bridesmaid

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Feb 10th, 2010, 15:49 PM	#7
emmajane Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Brighton Posts: 801	I agree that it is completely up to you however my BM has been amazing so far. She has been so supportive and been with me to everything and arranged an amazing hen night. I couldn't have done it without her really and has been really nice to share it with her. We have been friends for years but hadn't been so close recently but it really has made us close again which is lovely. She really has appreciated being asked I think. But you have to do what is best for you and no one else!

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Feb 10th, 2010, 16:00 PM	#8
lollylou1 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Telford Shropshire Posts: 4,906	this may sound selfish of me but the i didnt want any! my best friend who i felt i had to ask or she would be disappointed would have driven me insane asking me constantly if she looked ok etc and i know she would have been no use to me LOL luckily for me she got preg and was due week after wedding so when i spoke to her about it we jointly decided not to have her and i chose not to have any full stop, it worked good for me, i had a close family friend who had lost her daughter to cancer help me get in my dress there wasnt really a need for bridesmaid so all that waffle and im trying to say do what you want to do hunny if u think u need their support have them if u think u can do without u will do fab Lou xxx
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....Jess.... Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Somerset Posts: 53	thanks everyone! i've deffinately made the decision, i wont be having any. i dont want to sound selfish or ignorant, but i cant think of anybody that i would want to support me on that day. ahh back to the planning hehe! how is everyone getting on?

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24/7 Other BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 18,262	I'm not having any either.
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