My OH is really giving me a hard time about not wanting to breastfeed. It's come to a point where I'm tip toeing around the subject and when it does come up, he gets really annoyed with me, for example i was going to pick up some formula from the shop early with my weekly shop, when i asked him his opinion he basically just muttered something and told me he was putting his phone in the other room and not to ring him. The best I can do for him is tell him that I will not rule breastfeeding out when the baby is born and I will see how I feel, and give it a go, but this isn't good enough for him. im beginning to feel like ive failed before ive even begun, everyone else is really supportive but his opinion is what matters most to me and i feel like i really need his support. has anyone elses partners been the same and how did it work out?
I really dont want to feel pressurised into a decision which i dont feel comfortable with.
Any advice would be really appreciated x

Just wondering why you don't want to breastfeed?
It is totally your decision and it's not him who will have to do it.

my Oh really wanted me to breastfeed and didnt want me buying any formula at all,
I was worried that i might not be able to but i knew that i wanted to give it a go, and my Oh couldnt have been more supportive, when i wanted to give up he reallly helped keep me focused. If you are intent on not feeding then you will both have to sit down and talk about what you want, skipping around it won't help.
Breastfeeding doesnt come naturally unlike how they describe it!! and i dont think some men realise this.

I never considered breastfeeding but my OH insisted and eventually I wanted too anyway. You propbably have your own reasons why you don't want to breastfeed but I would advise buying formula too as sometimes your LO may have problems with latching etc. My MW said to keep some in just incase

I'm not sure what more you can do other than telling him that you'll give it a go if you're comfortable with that. He shouldn't be forcing you into something you're not comfortable with at a time when you should be enjoying your new baby! I think some people get the impression that it's the easiest thing in the world, and while it is for some people, if you don't get everything right straight away it can be very painful for the first few weeks (I had really badly cracked nipples and was in so much pain for weeks after Sam was born, then I got thrush a few months later which was very painful as well). If you do want to give it a go, I'd really advise you to get some support from someone right from the start or even before you give birth - loads of places run free clinics. But if you're not comfortable with the idea at all, you need to explain that to your OH - have you asked him why he feels so strongly about it? Whatever you're most comfortable with is the best thing for your baby, as the happier and more relaxed you are, the happier your baby will be x

maybe have a talk with him and ask him why he actually feels so strongly about you brestfeeding....i myself am choosing not to bresfeed. and i do think there are sum good advantages with not bresfeeding as bottle feeding makes it so much more easyer for OH to feed bubs aswell i no people say wel ya can express but i dont want to feel drained i want to be in a nice routine with bubs...thers other reasons i dont want to bresfeed to but thats a diff story...i jus think u need to make DH aware of the good sides of not brestfeeding even if it means googling it and writing it down for him to see if he wont listen xx

It sounds completely ridiculous but it's something I feel completely uncomfortable with, I don't think I'll be able to cope with the stress if it doesn't work out and I really want my partner and family to be really involved with the feeding.
I am going to try and stay open minded and I have told him that I may feel completely different once she's here and want to BF, I'm not ruling it out completely, but he is just the most stubborn person, and thinks its not fair that he doesn't get a say in the matter.

To be honest I was completely surprised but how strongly he felt about it, and I have no idea why, his family are very open minded and supportive about prefering to bottle feed, and his brothers were bottle fed.

I feel the same way candeur!

Although my OH isnt really insistent on it, and I haven't really gotten into a convo with him about it. He is happy with me trying, or expressing. He only thinks its the best because of his sisters influence.

My big thing will be being pressured at the hospital. Ours is ok, if you tell them before your admitted about your choices, but if you say you want to BF they really push you to it.

Basically im going to have a pump, formula and bottles ready for when I get home, just in case.

You should not be made to feel guilty about not wanting to BF. And it definately should not be your OH pressuring you into it!

my OH is still very unsupportive about me bottle feeding. So much so that until he had time off work this week I hid how much formula I was giving LO. It does feel awful to not have your OH on side (I am almost crying about it now - what an idiot!) so you need to try and get him to understand that you'll try but at the end of the day he really needs to support you. Feeding either way is difficult and you definitely need him onside.

BF is hard enough for some women & pressure from OH or anyone else is simply not needed!!
Do what u feel is best for u & baby, dont worry about anyone else!

All the best