Does your baby have a dummy? - Page 3

madasa · Mar 12th, 2010, 09:48 AM

DS had a dummy. I think they can be a not-bad thing... Not a GOOD thing, but they can be useful and not-too-harmful in some situations if used carefully. They can also be over-used. IMO they are NORMALLY over-used. At one point DS got quite attached to his and wanted it a lot... and if there's one sight I hate seeing, it's a kid with a perma-dummy in its mouth

I'd far rather have/see a kid always on the breast, but that's just me. After 12 months we used them only for bedtime and nap times... and gradually stopped them at naptimes. The Christmas after he turned 2, he left his dummies out for Santa and we have not looked back.

The great thing about being "okay" with being their soother.... is that it doesn't hurt their mouth and they DO outgrow it. I know kids who still used a dummy at 8, 9 yrs....

popular79 · Mar 12th, 2010, 10:27 AM

My DS has a dummy only a nap times and bed time in his cot - he uses it for comfort to bring on sleep and usually spits it out after 5 minutes. At all other times he is allowed the breast when he wants to increase supply as reqired and meet his feeding needs, also to provide comfort at other times we cuddle, talk, sing, massage walk around but do not use the dummy to stop crying, as a gobstopper!

eddjanuary10 · Mar 12th, 2010, 11:42 AM

ds would not take to a dummy. i tried a couple of times when he was really colicky but he wasnt interested, his face looked like id just put a lemon in his mouth. so the boob it is.lol!

Abigailly · Mar 12th, 2010, 14:08 PM

My daughter has her dummy as and when she wants it. She decides, I know when she wants the breast and when she's fed up of it. I let her 'comfort suck' then when she comes off and won't go back on I know she's had enough. She's got into a 'dummy routine'. Just as she has with naps. She doesn't have it when she gets up, wants it at about 11, falls straight to sleep, doesn't have it until about 4, has another sleep, has it in the evening before bath, then has it when she goes to bed. She doesn't have it all the time in those times, as she also has a teething ring, feeds, and her hands and bib. But she always wants something to chew and suck on.

The older she gets the less and less she has it. I'll wean her off it when she starts to wean herself if I feel its time. I won't let her have it when she starts walking though. That's my limit with it.

mommyhav · Mar 13th, 2010, 02:43 AM

I really think it depends on the baby, my LO was caught sucking her hands on an ultrasound....so she is a baby that likes a lot more comfort than others i think.....I gave her a soother at around 5 weeks and she doesnt use it a lot but it helps if she gets overtired and needs to suck to sleep. i make sure not to put her to sleep with it as i was worried that that may cause a dependancy or an association between the soother and sleep. she is now so into her hands that she doesnt like the soother as much as she used to. comfort feeding is a part of our daily lives still, though, as my LO likes to graze her way through the day and feed every 2 hours or even less sometimes still....i think that they need to be comforted by the intimacy of the breast, especially the skin to skin contact....so a soother might not be able to replace that feeling for your LO but once again, it depends on the baby. long story short, I dont see anything wrong with it, if it works for you

Rydia · Mar 13th, 2010, 15:41 PM

i have never used a dummy, I have never liked them and worried that it might decrease my supply. MY LO was very cranky in the evenings before bed during the first few months and was hard to settle. I am not sure why--could have been colic or he was over tired and a dummy might have made things easier. However, now that he is older I as so glad that I didnt use one because now i dont have to wean him off it.

Brockie · Mar 14th, 2010, 03:52 AM

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Originally Posted by anothersquish

Nope. Personally I feel there is a purpose to "comfort" sucking. It can actually be a suck to increase supply an you stop it and you end up with not enough milk for baby (vicious circle) also I have no issue with him using me as comfort, Im his mum, its my JOB.

I disagree, i gave my boy a dummy at about 6 weeks old as he was always on me, it had no effect on my supply and we happlily BFed till he was nearly 9 months old. Yes its your job to feed and comfort baby but you also have to have a LIFE!!!! just my personal experience and opinion x

i really wouldn't feel guilty about it hon you do what you feel is right xx

Monkeh · Mar 14th, 2010, 04:10 AM

I agree with Squish. I never gave Dexter a dummy, and he never needed one. I let him comfort suck when he wanted to, although yes, that did mean he was stuck to me 24/7 for those first couple of months

I too feel that it was my job to do it.

(eta: whether 'comfort' sucking increases supply or not, I still think it's an important part of bf, and helps strengthen the mother/baby bond)

cleckner04 · Mar 14th, 2010, 13:24 PM

I comfort feed Emma all the time. If she gets hurt, I'm there to scoop her up and soothe her. Same with getting shots and anything else for that matter. I see nothing wrong with it.

She's a boobie monster for sure!

I used a pacifier in the car only when I couldn't soothe her myself and that only lasted a few months. Now she just plays with it and chews on it like it's a toy.

madasa · Mar 14th, 2010, 14:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Monkeh

I agree with Squish. I never gave Dexter a dummy, and he never needed one. I let him comfort suck when he wanted to, although yes, that did mean he was stuck to me 24/7 for those first couple of months

I too feel that it was my job to do it.

(eta: whether 'comfort' sucking increases supply or not, I still think it's an important part of bf, and helps strengthen the mother/baby bond)

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Mar 12th, 2010, 09:48 AM	#21
madasa Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Shropshire, UK Posts: 2,988	DS had a dummy. I think they can be a not-bad thing... Not a GOOD thing, but they can be useful and not-too-harmful in some situations if used carefully. They can also be over-used. IMO they are NORMALLY over-used. At one point DS got quite attached to his and wanted it a lot... and if there's one sight I hate seeing, it's a kid with a perma-dummy in its mouth I'd far rather have/see a kid always on the breast, but that's just me. After 12 months we used them only for bedtime and nap times... and gradually stopped them at naptimes. The Christmas after he turned 2, he left his dummies out for Santa and we have not looked back. The great thing about being "okay" with being their soother.... is that it doesn't hurt their mouth and they DO outgrow it. I know kids who still used a dummy at 8, 9 yrs....

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Mar 12th, 2010, 10:27 AM	#22
popular79 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: uk Posts: 51	My DS has a dummy only a nap times and bed time in his cot - he uses it for comfort to bring on sleep and usually spits it out after 5 minutes. At all other times he is allowed the breast when he wants to increase supply as reqired and meet his feeding needs, also to provide comfort at other times we cuddle, talk, sing, massage walk around but do not use the dummy to stop crying, as a gobstopper!

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Mar 12th, 2010, 11:42 AM	#23
eddjanuary10 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Glasgow Posts: 2,083	ds would not take to a dummy. i tried a couple of times when he was really colicky but he wasnt interested, his face looked like id just put a lemon in his mouth. so the boob it is.lol!

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Mar 12th, 2010, 14:08 PM	#24
Abigailly Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 838	My daughter has her dummy as and when she wants it. She decides, I know when she wants the breast and when she's fed up of it. I let her 'comfort suck' then when she comes off and won't go back on I know she's had enough. She's got into a 'dummy routine'. Just as she has with naps. She doesn't have it when she gets up, wants it at about 11, falls straight to sleep, doesn't have it until about 4, has another sleep, has it in the evening before bath, then has it when she goes to bed. She doesn't have it all the time in those times, as she also has a teething ring, feeds, and her hands and bib. But she always wants something to chew and suck on. The older she gets the less and less she has it. I'll wean her off it when she starts to wean herself if I feel its time. I won't let her have it when she starts walking though. That's my limit with it.

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Mar 13th, 2010, 02:43 AM	#25
mommyhav Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Cultus Lake, British Columbia Posts: 484	I really think it depends on the baby, my LO was caught sucking her hands on an ultrasound....so she is a baby that likes a lot more comfort than others i think.....I gave her a soother at around 5 weeks and she doesnt use it a lot but it helps if she gets overtired and needs to suck to sleep. i make sure not to put her to sleep with it as i was worried that that may cause a dependancy or an association between the soother and sleep. she is now so into her hands that she doesnt like the soother as much as she used to. comfort feeding is a part of our daily lives still, though, as my LO likes to graze her way through the day and feed every 2 hours or even less sometimes still....i think that they need to be comforted by the intimacy of the breast, especially the skin to skin contact....so a soother might not be able to replace that feeling for your LO but once again, it depends on the baby. long story short, I dont see anything wrong with it, if it works for you

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Mar 13th, 2010, 15:41 PM	#26
Rydia Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Warwickshire Posts: 394	i have never used a dummy, I have never liked them and worried that it might decrease my supply. MY LO was very cranky in the evenings before bed during the first few months and was hard to settle. I am not sure why--could have been colic or he was over tired and a dummy might have made things easier. However, now that he is older I as so glad that I didnt use one because now i dont have to wean him off it.

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Mar 14th, 2010, 04:10 AM	#28
Monkeh Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Posts: 3,662	I agree with Squish. I never gave Dexter a dummy, and he never needed one. I let him comfort suck when he wanted to, although yes, that did mean he was stuck to me 24/7 for those first couple of months I too feel that it was my job to do it. (eta: whether 'comfort' sucking increases supply or not, I still think it's an important part of bf, and helps strengthen the mother/baby bond)

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Mar 14th, 2010, 13:24 PM	#29
cleckner04 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 21,311	I comfort feed Emma all the time. If she gets hurt, I'm there to scoop her up and soothe her. Same with getting shots and anything else for that matter. I see nothing wrong with it. She's a boobie monster for sure! I used a pacifier in the car only when I couldn't soothe her myself and that only lasted a few months. Now she just plays with it and chews on it like it's a toy.

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