At the start ...

ellie · Mar 10th, 2010, 12:41 PM

I know I should have 'let go' and moved on now, but our horrible birth circumstances still nag at me, as well as the start my LO had.

I had am emergency section due to LO being in severe distress, he was rushed to NICU with breathing difficulties before I'd come round from the anaesthetic, and given formula (not my choice). we met the following day for about 10 mins, I could only touch him through his incubator.

I started trying to hand express and pump from about day 2-3 to try and get my milk going, with no success. Through the week I managed to get him a few drops which the nurses added to his formula. We started bf'ing at 8 days and have been exclusively bf'ing since (with the exception of a few formula top ups in weeks 2-3).

i'm proud and pleased that we managed to get it going, but it keeps niggling at me that he didn't get 'the best' to start with i.e. hardly any colostrum or milk. I know I shouldnt worry really, he's doing fine now, but I do! can anyone offer any reassurance?

Seraphim · Mar 10th, 2010, 12:45 PM

lyre · Mar 10th, 2010, 12:48 PM

i think he probably had the best start in the circumstances, so don't stress about it. things dont always turn out the way we plan, through no fault of our own. concentrate on enjoying the present with your gorgeous boy.

anothersquish · Mar 10th, 2010, 14:30 PM

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Originally Posted by lyre

i think he probably had the best start in the circumstances, so don't stress about it. things dont always turn out the way we plan, through no fault of our own. concentrate on enjoying the present with your gorgeous boy.

Agree with that.

gills8752 · Mar 10th, 2010, 14:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by lyre

i think he probably had the best start in the circumstances, so don't stress about it. things dont always turn out the way we plan, through no fault of our own. concentrate on enjoying the present with your gorgeous boy.

I third that. You've done the best you can in the circumstances and every drop of bf that he gets is beneficial and its constantly passing on all the goodness that boobie can.
xx

TennisGal · Mar 10th, 2010, 14:56 PM

You've done a wondeful job - and quite rightly proud! Your DS is getting lots of wonderful stuff right now, so concentrate on that. Try to put what happened in the past, I know it must be hard, but know that you're doing great things now for your lovely boy.

andypandy2 · Mar 11th, 2010, 15:58 PM

I too say well done to you! BF at day 8 after your lo had been given formula mustn't have been easy! My lo too was poorly and after a few hours had to go to Special Care and although i expressed my colostrum and bf straight away after, she too had to be tube fed additional formula (but i knew for her health that was necessary!) Every BF you have given since that day is great for your lo so try not to dwell xx

Rebaby · Mar 11th, 2010, 16:00 PM

You've done so well and given him a great start inspite of all the difficulties so i think you should feel very proud

Samantha675 · Mar 11th, 2010, 16:11 PM

I have only just in the last month or so come to terms with Brennan's birth, a planned home birth that ended up in hospital with a c-section. Don't expect to just be able to get over something traumatic, you will need time to heal from it emotionally. Give yourself that time, and it will happen.

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ellie Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: south wales Posts: 3,818	At the start ... I know I should have 'let go' and moved on now, but our horrible birth circumstances still nag at me, as well as the start my LO had. I had am emergency section due to LO being in severe distress, he was rushed to NICU with breathing difficulties before I'd come round from the anaesthetic, and given formula (not my choice). we met the following day for about 10 mins, I could only touch him through his incubator. I started trying to hand express and pump from about day 2-3 to try and get my milk going, with no success. Through the week I managed to get him a few drops which the nurses added to his formula. We started bf'ing at 8 days and have been exclusively bf'ing since (with the exception of a few formula top ups in weeks 2-3). i'm proud and pleased that we managed to get it going, but it keeps niggling at me that he didn't get 'the best' to start with i.e. hardly any colostrum or milk. I know I shouldnt worry really, he's doing fine now, but I do! can anyone offer any reassurance?

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lyre Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 735	i think he probably had the best start in the circumstances, so don't stress about it. things dont always turn out the way we plan, through no fault of our own. concentrate on enjoying the present with your gorgeous boy.

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TennisGal Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Bucks, UK Posts: 5,057	You've done a wondeful job - and quite rightly proud! Your DS is getting lots of wonderful stuff right now, so concentrate on that. Try to put what happened in the past, I know it must be hard, but know that you're doing great things now for your lovely boy.

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Mar 11th, 2010, 15:58 PM	#7
andypandy2 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: North Yorkshire Posts: 93	I too say well done to you! BF at day 8 after your lo had been given formula mustn't have been easy! My lo too was poorly and after a few hours had to go to Special Care and although i expressed my colostrum and bf straight away after, she too had to be tube fed additional formula (but i knew for her health that was necessary!) Every BF you have given since that day is great for your lo so try not to dwell xx

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Rebaby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 4,698	You've done so well and given him a great start inspite of all the difficulties so i think you should feel very proud

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Samantha675 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Austin Texas Posts: 8,123	I have only just in the last month or so come to terms with Brennan's birth, a planned home birth that ended up in hospital with a c-section. Don't expect to just be able to get over something traumatic, you will need time to heal from it emotionally. Give yourself that time, and it will happen.

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