I always used to think it was really bad to co sleep but guess what has happened to me!!! katie is three weeks old and decided she loves it in my bed its like she wakes up inher crib and gets scared because she is on her own it is easier to breast feed through the night and i get sleep as well which is the best part of it im just worried now i wont ever get her to sleep on her own anyone else had this problem? obviously worrying because its dangerous as well

It really isn't dangerous. Co-sleeping without thinking about your arrangements is. Personally, I would feel far worse putting her to sleep in her own room (not having a pop at anyone who does, it's just my preference!). Make sure you keep heavy bedding and pillows away from her, and make sure she can't fall out of bed. We use a bed guard. Also, you should obviously not cosleep if anyone in the bed has been drinking or taking drugs or is exhausted. A lot of the statistics about cot death include sleeping on sofas and armchairs under the umbrella of 'co-sleeping'. When you have your baby next to you you can keep an eye on their temperature and breathing as well as it being a great way to establish breastfeeding. You also get a decent sleep yourself!

I can't advise on the getting her out of your bed again bit, because we haven't reached that part yet. I know that there is some strong evidence to suggest that children who have coslept actually end up being better sleepers later in childhood though. If you want to find out more about it, have a read of Three in a Bed by Deborah Jackson.

thats really good to know she does seem much happier with me and i have been moving bedding etc im much better the next day as well when your not as shattered.

I co-sleep through choice, did last time too. It definitely helps with night feeding (Theo was up a good five times between midnight and 6am last night yet I still feel I slept well!!) and feeding well through the night is good for your supply.
It is important to follow safe co-sleeping guidelines, if you want to continue think about getting a rail for the side of your bed as well as keeping pillows and duvet etc away from baby. It is no more dangerous co-sleeping when you follow the guidelines than it is for baby to be in a moses basket. It is unsafe co sleeping that causes problems (ie falling alseep on the sofa or in a chair with baby etc) so be safe and sleep well
RE getting them to sleep by themselves this really isnt an issue. My 5yr old co-slept until we got him his own "big bed" and the day we bought it and put it up he was in it and sleeping beautifully, not one night of disturbed sleep, no fuss. Hopefully the same will apply with Theo!
Co-sleeping worked and is working extremely well for us

I co-slept till Brenn was about 18 months then I put his crib in our room and would start the night with him in the crib, and slowly moved him into the crib through the night for longer and longer periods. Now at 21 months he sleeps in his crib in his room with no problems.

Why wouldn't she want to sleep next to you, it's warm and safe and familiar to her. These baby's are pretty smart.

It always amazes me that babies spend 9 months in the womb hearing the sound of your heartbeat etc and then we expect them to sleep in a moses basket etc.. Anyways!

We co-sleep - until a few weeks ago she'd start the night in her cot but we're pretty much completely co-sleeping again at the moment as she was poorly with a bug and then moved onto teething 4 molars straight afterwards and we're actually sleeping so much better as a family (in particular jocelyn) that we're leaving it as is!

She sleeps in between us now but it wasn't until she was well over a year old that she did that, to start with she'd sleep to the left of me with a bedguard to start with to stop her rolling out and then, when she was able to crawl, the bed was pushed to the corner of the room so that she'd be safe! By having her on the edge (so to speak) she didn't get both of our body heat and hubby wasn't worried about rolling on her in the night.. I never once worried about that personally, as much as my sleep was much enhanced for co-sleeping, I still always seemed to know where she was (usually about a cm away from my boob - boob seeking missile we used to call her as she'd follow me round the bed all night! ) and it meant it was much less likely duvets would be pulled up over her etc!

I used to sleep with the duvet up to my waist but also I'd be higher up the bed - I used one of those squidgy travel pillow things (the tube shaped ones) as it was much shorter than a regular pillow and meant that hubby could have the duvet pulled up to his shoulders without worrying about how high it would therefore be on me and jocelyn. I know some people who have slept with their baby on top of the duvet in a sleeping bag but I found that quite claustrohphobic (sp) so didn't do that..

One thing I would say, we kept our duvet at a 4.5tog one all year round (still do) and hubby has a blanket over him if he's cold. Our mattress is also quite firm and doesn't sag in the middle at all - so there's no dip for jocelyn to roll in to.. We did use a bedside cot to start with but I had a bit of a scare at 10 weeks when I woke up to squeaks one night and found her facedown in the little dip between the two mattress (not that much of a dip either and the mattresses were the same height, just where the edge of the mattresses curve iykwim) I stuffed a blanket in the "gap" so that it created a rasied mound between the two mattresses, fed her and popped her back into her cot. I woke again 3 hours later to more squeaks to find her flapping on the mound.. It would have never occured to me just how much a 10 week old baby can move, genuinely.. She must have flapped like a fish to get over to me because she certainly couldn't roll until she was 5 months although she could turn over on to her side prety early, probably from the co-sleeping with easy boob access! In some ways it was safer to have her in with us completely and, from that moment, we didn't use the cot as a bedside cot again!

I have co-slept from the beginning. Didn't plan to, but LO had other ideas! Now I wouldn't change it and plan to co-sleep with the next one. If done safely, it is better for babies and moms than any other form of sleeping, IMHO.

i get worried about co-sleeping but my son sleeps better in our bed at times.
He sleeps on one half of the bed and my hubby and i sleep on the other half. i wasnt sure what we needed to do so place pillow on the floor next to bed, worried he roll out but he tends to come towards me, will look into getting a bed rail though. he wears a 1 tog gro bag but i know he shouldnt use a pillow but he gets so snuffly that i put his head and shoulders onto a flattish pillow to help him sleep-will this harm him? i dont co-sleep if im very tired.

They shouldn't use a pillow until 12 months sweets, they don't have the neck control etc etc to move themselves properly! I must admit we don't use a pillow with our toddler even as she favours the face down/bum in the air approach to sleeping so I don't think a pillow would add to that mix well!

We're a co-sleeping family. It's not dangerous if you do it correctly. We let Hunter decide when he wants to sleep in his own bed. There are good books out there to help with the family bed to own bed transition when you think the time is right.