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Old Nov 6th, 2009, 14:41 PM   #1
Clare Bear
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Need a rant about me b/f


Sorry i just want to rant as sitting here thinking and its getting to me a little so here goes..

I had a "FRIEND" say to me recently
"how long are you going to b/f for" i said "i dont know"

as i dont we are both enjoying it at the moment so were not ready yet!

Then she said "he looks massive now if you do it any longer he will be huge"

Another day i got "i watched super nanny and you should of seen it this woman was b/f her 3 year old little girl" and really dissing the woman like she was getting at me cos im still b/f my 3 month old son.

I've also had comments like "hes going to be hard work as he always wants me", he doesnt want me all the time his dad has him in the mornings at the weekends from about 9-11 so i can have a lie in or bath or do my own thing, he will quite happily sit with someone else if i'm doing something or if i go see people or they come to us he will sit with people. i can even do the school run in the afternoon with him at home with his dad!

Another time i had he's going to be trouble at night (as we were talking about me going out on new years eve) and not let me go out! he goes to bed a 11pm and sleeps to 6-7 am already and has been since 8 weeks so im sure by then i will have him in bed earlier!

Another time her friend walks in and im feeding she says "shes got her boob out again" um yea im feeding my Son thanks

Why is this such a problem to them, you get the whole breast is best while your pregnant by people then when you do it longer than they done it it's like your doing the wrong thing.

He weighs 7oz more than a friends baby boy born 1 day before him and hes f/f so im doing a great job with my boy, maybe coz she fed her boy 10 years ago for 1 month she doesnt know all about what b/f is all about, all i know is we love it and ill do what i want to do when i want to do it and stuff what others think


 
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Old Nov 6th, 2009, 14:45 PM   #2
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Sounds like the ignorant comments my BIL comes out with. Don't you feel sorry for these people?! I do!


 
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Old Nov 6th, 2009, 15:00 PM   #3
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you're doing fab hun!

my god...do they not realize he is only 3 months old?!?!?! Jesus...


 
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Old Nov 6th, 2009, 15:19 PM   #4
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Ugh! Jealousy and ignorance are the two main reasons people act like this I think. Your doing fab!


 
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Old Nov 6th, 2009, 17:24 PM   #5
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Ugh! Jealousy and ignorance are the two main reasons people act like this I think. Your doing fab!
i totally agree with this!


 
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Old Nov 6th, 2009, 17:26 PM   #6
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You're doing great, carry on and ignore them.

I did, however, see that episode of supernanny. It wasn't so much that she was still breastfeeding a 3 year old, as that is up to her. It was the fact she was doing it up to ten times a day!!!! I'm not sure I ever fed Abby that much in one day. I really felt sorry for the poor woman.

One thing that pissed me off was I thought it would have been great if Supernanny had made some comment about how great it was that she had breastfed her child - instead she just said how bad it was that it was taking over her life.


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Old Nov 6th, 2009, 17:45 PM   #7
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You keep it up! You're doing the best possible thing for him. If he's growing quickly then it's what he's meant to do. At 3 months old he's still a tiny baby as far as I'm concerned. My daughter (now 27 months) was fully breastfed until 6 months, during the day til nearly 12 months, at bedtime an dduring the night until 12 months and first thing in the morning til 21 months. As a young baby - almost til 1 in fact - she was very clingy, a total boob-monster and using me for comfort a lot of the time. Anyone who told me I was making a rod for my own back was ignored - she's our baby, we'll feed her how we want.
The monday I decided to stop feeding her during the day I was prepared for trouble but she didn't bat an eyelid (FYI, she'd been practically attached to me the entire weekend). I gave up the bedtime/night-time feeds in a slightly ad-hoc manner, having gone out with a friend during the day and accidentally drinking too much - she moved seamlessly to cowsmilk - and although she whinged a little bit the morning I said "no", she did it with no conviction and got over it immediately.
My point is, you carry on with what you want to do. Don't believe anybody who tells you you're doing the wrong thing. No-one would have believed me when my LO was 4 months old if I'd said she'd be fine at 1. Your child will change more than you could believe over the next 9 months. The one thing you can be certain of is that breastfeeding him is the right thing if it's the right thing for you both.
Abi x


 
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Old Nov 6th, 2009, 22:12 PM   #8
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why do people always feel the need to comment? People need to keep their opinions to themselves!

And you know what?? Why do people always say "oh your making it so hard for yourself?" Frankly, i think breastfeeding is way easier than bottle feeding. I know if i have to leave Thomas for a few hours with someone, its a total pain in the a$$ to organise a bottle and milk as well as all the other stuff a baby needs. I dread the thought of having to do that everyday, everytime you want to go anywhere (and in the middle of the night! ugh!)

And im sorry, but i love that my baby needs me and wants to be with me. He still goes to my husband with no dramas and ive never had a problem leaving him with a friend or family member to be babysat. He will take a bottle of ebm, but he knows if im there, then im the one who feeds him. i love that! i love that he knows ill always take care of him. Isnt that my job as his mother?

Oh and by the way, my lil man is a chunky monkey too. Hes a total chubster. I always get comments about how big he is and i just say, "yep, mamma got good milk!". He'll grow out of this chubby stage once he starts moving around or has a growth spurt. He just looks like a healthy chubby baby to me, so theres no way were stopping anytime soon!

ok, my rant is over. lol


 
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Old Nov 7th, 2009, 03:27 AM   #9
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i love that he knows ill always take care of him. Isnt that my job as his mother?

EXACTLY!!!!

I've not had any negative comments to my face about BF my LO but I only have 2 friends that have BF and both of them have had to combine it with FF as they had supply issues...I consider myself SO lucky to be able to exclusively BF...and heaven help anyone if they do decide to criticise me for it!!!

Its your baby, you raise them how you believe is right for you and him, be that FF or BF, no one elses business!!!


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Old Nov 7th, 2009, 04:27 AM   #10
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People get confused, I think. I get asked how long I'm carring on for and I don't know either, butt Finn doesnt really take any milk in the day now (he will if offered, but a yoggie snack is just as good!) so it's not like it's cramping my style. He has milk in the am and last thing at night. I dont have to whop me boobs out in public any more. I think a lot of the publicity is unusual cases that makes it seem like anyone feeding their LO after a few months is feeding them all the time and that's not true.

And as to feeding at night, well, if he's teething I do and it puts him to sleep and I personally think it's REALLY useful. I had the whole 'he'll be waking till he's 2' from the HV but he doesnt wake if hes not teething and I don't see how stopping him feeding atnight when he's say, one, is any harder than stopping it now? Ppl are weird.


 
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