Kinda Struggling

Babydance · Jul 11th, 2009, 17:08 PM

Hey ladies,

Im just looking for a bit of advice, ive been feeding my LO for 3 weeks now but sometimes she is latched on for about 3 hours other times she will feed for 30 mins and then want back on 10 mins later. She was really bad for falling asleep for the first week and she had to be fed by syringe which was so hard! Then her weight dropped alot and we had to give her a bit of formula. Is this normal feeding times?
Also when we go out anywhere i panic so much that i dread leaving the house as i just cant feed her infront of people, i dont know how to get my booby out discreetly!!
Also she hasnt pooped since Wednesday night and this is now Saturday night and im getting quite worried!
I havent been eating alot i keep forgetting could this be the reason atall?
Any advice would be great! xxx

Samantha675 · Jul 11th, 2009, 17:13 PM

Totally normal love. It takes a baby a good few weeks to get nursing figured out. It is a huge learning curve for the both of you. She maybe really hungry sometimes, and looking for a snack and comfort others. My son didn't have a feeding schedule for a long time, I just fed him on demans.

BM doesn't give a lot of waste, so a BF baby can go up to a week without a poo, and it is considered normal. You can try to massage her tummy and see if that helps her get things moving.

You have got to make sure you eat and drink plenty of water, it will make YOU feel much better.

Don't worry about feeding in public, it takes time, and is a learned thing. The first time I tried, I panicked and bolted for the car. So I ended up finding a quiet 'public' place to feed my son when out for the first time and I didn't feel so anxious or exposed. It really just takes practice and confidence.

Mervs Mum · Jul 11th, 2009, 17:17 PM

Congrats and well done on making it this far hun!

In the early weeks feeding times can vary enormously. You are both still learning to BF and her technique will get better. You yourself dont always want a 3 course meal - sometimes a quick snack is enough so it's fine for times always to vary. She will have had a big growth spurt around 2 weeks too which throws their times and pattern out too.

Why dont you prcatice feeding under a cover or whatever while you are at home - you might feel better about it if you have worked out your tactics! I found it was more about WHERE I fed her in the early days than how.

BF babies can go anything up to 10 days without pooing and that's fine too - there is so little waste in BM.

Try to look after yourself hun

Babydance · Jul 11th, 2009, 17:30 PM

Thanks ladies! Im worried about her poop she has had 2 formula top ups since Wednesday as she was on me so long i was completely empty and she was screaming for more so i reluctantly gave her 30ml which settled her and today she's been on me plenty but not enough to suck me dry lol which i was pleased about, but with those top ups should she not have pooped? oh and i thought being pregnant was stressful lol! Thanks ladies its nice to know someones there to chat to about all this! xx

Samantha675 · Jul 11th, 2009, 17:37 PM

Also remember that her little system is brand new as well, and just figuring itself out. She has never had to poop or eat or breath before, so it takes a little time to smooth things out. She will probably fill her diaper big time when you least expect it. I know my son would do this. I remember nights of sitting on the sofa for hours with Brenn and I would switch him from side to side every 45 minutes or so. The first six weeks are the hardest by far, and you are half way there and just doing fantastic!

Gorgeouserin · Jul 12th, 2009, 09:45 AM

Don't worry thats the key and look after yourself I have been told to drink 1 and a half times more than normal. I find downing a couple of pints of water increases my supply and also a bath with baby and feeding in the bath really helps it makes her relax and you! I have been BF for 6 weeks and yes it has been tough but we are getting there. I also had to top up with syringed formula at the beginning. I find I have one boob that spurts and one that is quite slow. Erin likes the slow one last thing at night to relax.....strange but true!! Take care x x x

mrsholmes · Jul 12th, 2009, 13:03 PM

Scott has only ever pooed 3-5 days since he was born he is 3 weeks and 4 days, I know feeding in public is hard, I bought a nursing bra from debahams which has a little bit of extra inner cup so u dont see the whole boob!

Babydance · Jul 12th, 2009, 15:09 PM

Thanks for all your advice ladies its great to hear! I think i'll try the bra from debenhams! I hope i get a poop tonight.. i dont think i've ever been so excited about poo!! xx

Mervs Mum · Jul 12th, 2009, 16:03 PM

When it comes.....STAND CLEAR!!!

Samantha675 · Jul 12th, 2009, 16:08 PM

And don't go to change her diaper immediatly. Give her a good 10 minutes or more to get it all out. I learned that lesson very quickly.

Jul 11th, 2009, 17:08 PM	#1
Babydance Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Uk Posts: 3,948	Kinda Struggling Hey ladies, Im just looking for a bit of advice, ive been feeding my LO for 3 weeks now but sometimes she is latched on for about 3 hours other times she will feed for 30 mins and then want back on 10 mins later. She was really bad for falling asleep for the first week and she had to be fed by syringe which was so hard! Then her weight dropped alot and we had to give her a bit of formula. Is this normal feeding times? Also when we go out anywhere i panic so much that i dread leaving the house as i just cant feed her infront of people, i dont know how to get my booby out discreetly!! Also she hasnt pooped since Wednesday night and this is now Saturday night and im getting quite worried! I havent been eating alot i keep forgetting could this be the reason atall? Any advice would be great! xxx

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Jul 11th, 2009, 17:13 PM	#2
Samantha675 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Austin Texas Posts: 8,123	Totally normal love. It takes a baby a good few weeks to get nursing figured out. It is a huge learning curve for the both of you. She maybe really hungry sometimes, and looking for a snack and comfort others. My son didn't have a feeding schedule for a long time, I just fed him on demans. BM doesn't give a lot of waste, so a BF baby can go up to a week without a poo, and it is considered normal. You can try to massage her tummy and see if that helps her get things moving. You have got to make sure you eat and drink plenty of water, it will make YOU feel much better. Don't worry about feeding in public, it takes time, and is a learned thing. The first time I tried, I panicked and bolted for the car. So I ended up finding a quiet 'public' place to feed my son when out for the first time and I didn't feel so anxious or exposed. It really just takes practice and confidence.

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Jul 11th, 2009, 17:17 PM	#3
Mervs Mum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: somewhere over the rainbow..... Posts: 21,347	Congrats and well done on making it this far hun! In the early weeks feeding times can vary enormously. You are both still learning to BF and her technique will get better. You yourself dont always want a 3 course meal - sometimes a quick snack is enough so it's fine for times always to vary. She will have had a big growth spurt around 2 weeks too which throws their times and pattern out too. Why dont you prcatice feeding under a cover or whatever while you are at home - you might feel better about it if you have worked out your tactics! I found it was more about WHERE I fed her in the early days than how. BF babies can go anything up to 10 days without pooing and that's fine too - there is so little waste in BM. Try to look after yourself hun
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Jul 11th, 2009, 17:30 PM	#4
Babydance Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Uk Posts: 3,948	Thanks ladies! Im worried about her poop she has had 2 formula top ups since Wednesday as she was on me so long i was completely empty and she was screaming for more so i reluctantly gave her 30ml which settled her and today she's been on me plenty but not enough to suck me dry lol which i was pleased about, but with those top ups should she not have pooped? oh and i thought being pregnant was stressful lol! Thanks ladies its nice to know someones there to chat to about all this! xx

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Jul 11th, 2009, 17:37 PM	#5
Samantha675 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Austin Texas Posts: 8,123	Also remember that her little system is brand new as well, and just figuring itself out. She has never had to poop or eat or breath before, so it takes a little time to smooth things out. She will probably fill her diaper big time when you least expect it. I know my son would do this. I remember nights of sitting on the sofa for hours with Brenn and I would switch him from side to side every 45 minutes or so. The first six weeks are the hardest by far, and you are half way there and just doing fantastic!

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Jul 12th, 2009, 09:45 AM	#6
Gorgeouserin Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 14	Don't worry thats the key and look after yourself I have been told to drink 1 and a half times more than normal. I find downing a couple of pints of water increases my supply and also a bath with baby and feeding in the bath really helps it makes her relax and you! I have been BF for 6 weeks and yes it has been tough but we are getting there. I also had to top up with syringed formula at the beginning. I find I have one boob that spurts and one that is quite slow. Erin likes the slow one last thing at night to relax.....strange but true!! Take care x x x

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Jul 12th, 2009, 13:03 PM	#7
mrsholmes Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 2,686	Scott has only ever pooed 3-5 days since he was born he is 3 weeks and 4 days, I know feeding in public is hard, I bought a nursing bra from debahams which has a little bit of extra inner cup so u dont see the whole boob!

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Jul 12th, 2009, 15:09 PM	#8
Babydance Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Uk Posts: 3,948	Thanks for all your advice ladies its great to hear! I think i'll try the bra from debenhams! I hope i get a poop tonight.. i dont think i've ever been so excited about poo!! xx

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Jul 12th, 2009, 16:03 PM	#9
Mervs Mum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: somewhere over the rainbow..... Posts: 21,347	When it comes.....STAND CLEAR!!!
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Jul 12th, 2009, 16:08 PM	#10
Samantha675 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Austin Texas Posts: 8,123	And don't go to change her diaper immediatly. Give her a good 10 minutes or more to get it all out. I learned that lesson very quickly.

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