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Mervs Mum · May 19th, 2009, 14:52 PM

I'm gonna be honest....I'm a tiny bit worried this will affect the main BF board.

I'm not comfortable that I will have ALL the answers for someone I'm paired with. Surely the beauty of a forum is that lots of people pool their knowledge and opinions so the poster can get a broader range of info than they would from asking one person. Sometimes I read a post where I think everything has been covered so I wont add but other times I read the posts and think there could be more to add.

I'm happy to talk to anyone one to one - I have via PM or occasionally MSN if someone asks - but I think I'm going to stick to just general help in the main board I think

**Arcanegirl** · May 19th, 2009, 14:56 PM

Hmmm its difficult to seperate, i think more the principle is support for a certain area rather than having actual answers, though you have always come up with some brilliant answers for me

Mervs Mum · May 19th, 2009, 14:59 PM

I can see what it's trying to achieve from a support perspective I just worry that people wont post questions in the main area as much and there wont be the same amount of threads to reference for new members or existing lurkers

**Arcanegirl** · May 19th, 2009, 15:06 PM

maybe some clarification in the title and main thread to say this isnt for posting questions but to get paired with someone and questions should go in the main section.

Pyrrhic · May 19th, 2009, 16:17 PM

The point was kind of that some people don't want to come forward publicly for help, and would rather talk to someone in private about their issues, and that they would feel it was ok to PM someone, rather than that they would be troubling them by randomly PMing someone and hope that they have experienced something similar, or know specifically how to help them with their problem..

Also, that they would feel more supported if they're champion checked in with them on a weekly basis or so, even if they hadn't been posting to make sure they were ok.

But if it's a bad idea, then fine. Mods can delete it I guess. I felt the thread title was pretty straightforward saying 'get you won Champion', plus my explanation.

thelilbump · May 19th, 2009, 17:13 PM

i thought it would work more like the pregnancy buddy section really. you get a buddy, or a champion in this case, to support you, congratulate you and get you through the down times but they're still going to post in the main board as 1st/ 2nd/ 3rd triers do?

Mervs Mum · May 19th, 2009, 17:16 PM

I think I understand. The title says 'Q's about BFing? Problems? Issues?' maybe that's where I'm getting confused. I thought that the questions, problems etc were posted in the board....

If I'm understanding it right then, this is basically a place to find your own personal 'Peer Supporter' effectively? Only you are matching peoples problems when they ask for a supporter, up with the most appropriate from the list?

I'm certainly not suggesting it's a bad idea Nic - it's like anything on here...it's in text so not always easy to interpret.

I'll help anyone, I just dont want them to only get my perspective on things.

mommyof3co · May 20th, 2009, 00:09 AM

Ithink it would be especially helpful to be paired with someone giving birth soon that plans to breastfeed so they can ask any questions that they may feel are "stupid" or that they "should know" that they may feel weird asking on the main board, and then trying to get it down over the first few weeks/months, that way we could check in see how it's going, cheer them on, answer any questions they may have on that part?

Sarah88 · May 20th, 2009, 02:37 AM

Great thread raf

Mervs Mum · May 20th, 2009, 02:45 AM

Thanks Lil' - it's a buddy system effectively. Excellent! I totally get it in that case

MO3 - I think linking up with someone prior to giving birth is a fantastic idea too!

May 19th, 2009, 14:52 PM	#21
Mervs Mum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: somewhere over the rainbow..... Posts: 21,342	I'm gonna be honest....I'm a tiny bit worried this will affect the main BF board. I'm not comfortable that I will have ALL the answers for someone I'm paired with. Surely the beauty of a forum is that lots of people pool their knowledge and opinions so the poster can get a broader range of info than they would from asking one person. Sometimes I read a post where I think everything has been covered so I wont add but other times I read the posts and think there could be more to add. I'm happy to talk to anyone one to one - I have via PM or occasionally MSN if someone asks - but I think I'm going to stick to just general help in the main board I think
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May 19th, 2009, 14:56 PM	#22
Arcanegirl Pregnant (Expecting) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Glasgow Posts: 25,658	Hmmm its difficult to seperate, i think more the principle is support for a certain area rather than having actual answers, though you have always come up with some brilliant answers for me

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May 19th, 2009, 14:59 PM	#23
Mervs Mum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: somewhere over the rainbow..... Posts: 21,342	I can see what it's trying to achieve from a support perspective I just worry that people wont post questions in the main area as much and there wont be the same amount of threads to reference for new members or existing lurkers
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May 19th, 2009, 15:06 PM	#24
Arcanegirl Pregnant (Expecting) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Glasgow Posts: 25,658	maybe some clarification in the title and main thread to say this isnt for posting questions but to get paired with someone and questions should go in the main section.

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May 19th, 2009, 16:17 PM	#25
Pyrrhic Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 14,567	The point was kind of that some people don't want to come forward publicly for help, and would rather talk to someone in private about their issues, and that they would feel it was ok to PM someone, rather than that they would be troubling them by randomly PMing someone and hope that they have experienced something similar, or know specifically how to help them with their problem.. Also, that they would feel more supported if they're champion checked in with them on a weekly basis or so, even if they hadn't been posting to make sure they were ok. But if it's a bad idea, then fine. Mods can delete it I guess. I felt the thread title was pretty straightforward saying 'get you won Champion', plus my explanation.

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May 19th, 2009, 17:13 PM	#26
thelilbump Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: lancashire Posts: 9,670	i thought it would work more like the pregnancy buddy section really. you get a buddy, or a champion in this case, to support you, congratulate you and get you through the down times but they're still going to post in the main board as 1st/ 2nd/ 3rd triers do?

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May 19th, 2009, 17:16 PM	#27
Mervs Mum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: somewhere over the rainbow..... Posts: 21,342	I think I understand. The title says 'Q's about BFing? Problems? Issues?' maybe that's where I'm getting confused. I thought that the questions, problems etc were posted in the board.... If I'm understanding it right then, this is basically a place to find your own personal 'Peer Supporter' effectively? Only you are matching peoples problems when they ask for a supporter, up with the most appropriate from the list? I'm certainly not suggesting it's a bad idea Nic - it's like anything on here...it's in text so not always easy to interpret. I'll help anyone, I just dont want them to only get my perspective on things.
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May 20th, 2009, 00:09 AM	#28
mommyof3co Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Waxahachie, TX Posts: 10,076	Ithink it would be especially helpful to be paired with someone giving birth soon that plans to breastfeed so they can ask any questions that they may feel are "stupid" or that they "should know" that they may feel weird asking on the main board, and then trying to get it down over the first few weeks/months, that way we could check in see how it's going, cheer them on, answer any questions they may have on that part?

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May 20th, 2009, 02:37 AM	#29
Sarah88 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 3,573	Great thread raf

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May 20th, 2009, 02:45 AM	#30
Mervs Mum Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: somewhere over the rainbow..... Posts: 21,342	Thanks Lil' - it's a buddy system effectively. Excellent! I totally get it in that case MO3 - I think linking up with someone prior to giving birth is a fantastic idea too!
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