Sparky0207

I seem to forget that Lucy has two parents. I am so protective of her and hardly let my OH (or anyone else for that matter) do anything with her. Shes been poorly the last few days and hasnt slept very well so ive been shattered. Yet when my OH offers to look after her so I can get some sleep, I cant sleep for worrying about her!
Whenever he changes her nappy I have to check hes done it right and even if he walks out of the room with her I have to follow him. We're starting to bicker over it because he feels like he cant do anything right and as though I dont trust him with her and I desperatly want to stop my behaviour before any big arguments start.
Im breastfeeding her and love the fact that only I can feed her but I know he is feeling left out. I find myself constantly saying things like 'watch her head' and 'dont do that' when hes got her. He said this morning that I need to remember shes got two parents, shes not just mine, but as awful as it sounds I do think of her as mine, rather than ours. Help!

Sarah88

No advice sorry but hope u figure something out!

Vickie

I'm afraid I don't have any advice either, I didn't really have this problem but I was so tired and in so much pain after her birth that Stan did a lot of the work. Yes we still bickered (I think most new parents do--the lack of sleep plus the stress and worry makes for a tense situation) but I did trust him with Hannah, always have.

Samantha675

I was the same way at first with my son, and I think it is quite normal. You just gotta learn to let go, and allow him to do things his way. Trust me, it is hard, and there are still times, when I don't want to hand my son over or just hate the way my DH does things, but as you said she belongs to him as well. It also gets easier as they get a bit bigger, my DH now handles much of Bren's bedtime routine, and I think that helps him feel more involved.

ricschick

first let me say great choice of name, great minds think alike!
just try to remember he loves her just as much as you and has her best interests at heart and just try to hold back before saying anything that may come across badly. he has to learn what she likes and dislikes.

ladymilly

oh hun i know how you feel. i hate anyone else holding Jack. i keep watching when someone else is holding him, not so much my OH though. today he brought Jack to the school to collect the girls and i stayed at home. its the first time ive left him. i hated it. i couldn't wait for him to come back and he was only gone about an hour.
when he is holding him though i do say to him to mind his head and stuff like that which he hates. i feel awful after ive said it

Sarah88

I personally don't have that problem... I feel horrible coz I think I should not want anyone else to hold her but I don't mind... I'm hoping it's coz i'm proud of her.

toriaaaaTRASH

I felt like this, it does get better!

Sparky0207

Thanks girls, im glad im not the only one whos feeling/felt like this! Hope it gets better in time

clairebear

i was the same now im so greatful for any help from dh x