cupcake

Everyone is entitled to parent the way they chose and i therefore ask that this thread not become a debate about letting a baby cry it out or not. ( if thats ok with the mods) I would just like to hear from moms who did let their babies cry it out how they did it. In particular to get the baby to just go back to sleep in the crib, and not in order to make him sleep all night long.

Thanks

HatterasSarah

I tried to let my son cry it out, he got better after a week of doing so. Normally with CIO, you put the baby in the crib (assuming s/he) is tired, and let them cry it out for about 5 minutes, and then you go back in, pat their back (do NOT pick them up!!) and try and soothe them...and then leave after 30 seconds. Go back in 10 minutes later (assuming the baby is still crying), pat their back and soothe them, and leave after 30 seconds. Wait 15 minutes and go back in. You just add 5 minutes time between each visit. With my son, however, we couldn't go in and soothe him...it just made him more upset. Unfortunately, right after we started CIO, my mom called me and told me to turn on the Today show, and there was someone on there talking about how the CIO method leads to brain damage. I dont know if I believe it or not, but it made me not want to CIO anymore. I think its very effective!

toriaaaaTRASH

I tried, I couldn't do it.

cupcake

My son also just gets more upset if you go and pat him, so what can u do then?
You want him to know you are there...

~KACI~

I did it but i didn't start til after 6 months, don't ask me why then, i just felt they were old enough to understand abit better, it worked for my son and sometimes it works with my daughter (but i have only been doin it a couple of weeks)

I will carry on because of the results with my son, he goes to bed no trouble x

cupcake

Dont worry toria, its so hard...
but you know i made him cry it out in the car seat and now he sits in it
i let him cry it out in the stroller and now he will sit in it,
so for him i guess it works for him..

HatterasSarah

Yeah, I didnt do it until my son was 8 months old.

If you can't go in and pat him, you just have to leave him in there and let him cry. After a couple of times crying it out, it will get easier. The point of crying it out is teaching babies to self soothe, and if he thinks your in the room, it probably wont work as quickly. Good Luck!

sabby52

I needed to do it with Dec when he was about 71/2-8 months and it worked great, I put him to bed and left the room (only outside the door) I let him cry for 5 mins then went in to settle him, something like okay baby mummy's here. Then left again, let him cry another 5 mins then went in again this time no talking and I would try and avoid eye contact to, gave him he dummy and rubbed his back for a while then I would leave again. I would continue doing this for as long as it took and believe me the first night it took for ever, but within 3 nights it was only taking 1/2 an hour to settle him and by week 2 he was going to bed and talking himself to sleep.!!! Great

But I will admit there have been times when he has been left to really CIO and it has done him not an ounce of harm, he has never been left more than 15 mins which is what a doctor would advise. Now if he wakes during the night and cries for his dummy I just go give him it and he will occupy himself until he goes back to sleep and mummy has a good night sleep!!! lol

Wobbles

Perfectly ok

tinytoes

i am of no help advise wise but just wanted to add that I am trying to get Teddy used to sleeping on his own and tonight was the first time I left him to cry. Was only for 2 minutes and I couldnt handle any more...maybe he's too young (2 months 2 weeks) but he just seemed more awake and adamant to not sleep than when we'd left him...OH is now up there rocking him (OK; we failed, we picked him up...but he is still little)...
I fear we're too soft for CIO....