Terrie, you are not a crap mum, it sounds like you Have Post Natal depression to me! Please speak to your health visitor and get some help before you get really down! We all feel crappy from time to time particularly when you are isolated. Can someone give you some time off?

If I could drive I would be over like a shot! If you want to talk pm me. Don't go through this on your own!!

Please talk to the health visitor, they are trained to help you through this. ?You are coping, you just need someone to point out how well you are doing. It is really hard looking after a baby and don't forget you are the one getting up in the middle of the night NOT your mum! Besides if she is anything like my mum she,d have you believe she is superwoman!

Don't beat yourself up over this, thousands of women suffer every year and it can get really serious if you don't get help!

As soon as I am allowed to drive I'll be there. By then I may be feeling the same way as you!

There are some piccies of Frankie in the photo section If you're interested?

Oh Terrie hun I just want to give you a BIG BIG

Look after yourself sweety & take Lynnies advice won't you & speak to your health visitor asap.

x

Hi Terrie

It does sound like you might have postnatal depression, please go and see the DR or your health visitor and be honest with them how you are feeling - life is too short to be feeling this way and to be missing out on your wee baby's early days.

It sounds to me like a good rest will do you the world of good so don't feel bad at accepting your mum's offer to take care of your baby for a while so you can get a good sleep. Things always seem worse when you're sleep deprived.

Work on your relationship with your baby, it might take time but you'll get there - before you know it the wee one will be giving you kisses and cuddles and melting your heart.
You're not a bad person for feeling this way, loads and loads of new mums feel like this - don't beat your self up, you are human and talking to the Dr or HV will get you the help and support you need to come through it.

Lucy

hi terrie

right i am going to admit something now,when i bought my DD home i wanted to take her back as was just too over-whelmed it was scarey and as hubby was such a natural he made me feel more and more crap.
This is post=natal sweetie and it is such a hard thing to admit to your G.P or HV but you must tell them. They will help you and I am not saying a miracle will happen over night but eventually thiongs will even out and things you find hard now will get easier.

When he has his first full nights sleep that will help heaps,you will be rested an dmore in control of how you feel. Your OH may look like he is finding it easy but he didnt have to give birth and go throgh all the major hormone adjustments. I think you are doing a great job by coming on here and saying how you feel.

It is good you have your mum to help,talk to her and talk to OH. Things will egt better there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

I love being a mum now although am crap when it come s to playing and things that DO come natural so cant say I am 100% good at it and am scared of the prospect of having depresiion when the next babe is here. Do you know I am the only one of all my friends.more concerned with losing my sleep than anything else,lol,how bad is that?

If you need to talk please,please PM me and I will give you my phone number,I have been here and it is a dark place on your own and you needn't be on your own.

Bex.x