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Minxy · Jan 14th, 2007, 09:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Terrie

I didnt bond with Rhys after i had him and its just too late now.

It really isn't too late! All babies are little strangers. It took me a good couple of months to really bond with Stanley, it's much more common than you think.

It does sound like you might have PND and I agree with others, get some professional help if you can

xxxxxxx

ImTheDaddy · Jan 14th, 2007, 11:19 AM

Terrie,

If I were you I would get straight to the GP and discuss with them, I am of course assuming your GP is reasonably good.

We're really lucky, Tam's had such a bad pregnancy that both the MidWife and GP have said they'll make sure she gets all the support she needs. Midwife said she;ll talk to the Helath Visitors.

I would say you sound as though you've been having a difficult time, and from what you've said and I have read/heard, you are not any different to a lot of women.

Bonding is not always a given, also the whole "Baby's are hard work" is missed by some people and I think that's what you're finding and it's easy to see how you can get so down about it.

I hope you get help soon.

Try and remember you're not doing anything wrong!

Tezzy · Jan 14th, 2007, 13:28 PM

thanks for all your advice everybody.

im taking Rhys to see the HV on tuesday and will try to pluck up the courage to say something. i completley broke down lastnight after writing on here and had a good cry.

Rhys was awake 3 times in the night and as i was so stressed out i just couldnt get him back to sleep. my mum has Rhys right now so im off for a bath and some sleep as i think i may just fall over if i dont sleep soon.

thanks for being so understanding everybody i really thought i was the only person to feel like this.

Caroline · Jan 14th, 2007, 14:33 PM

I agree with other posts, please speak to helath visitor, and get some help. I had a difficult time with Alisha initially, as she feed continuously day and night. I'd get 2-3 hours sleep. I spoke to hv and with her support got through it. Its good you've got your mum around to help, I'm sure she is not judging you, she will no doubt be concerned for your well being. We're here for you if you need us, Good luck with hv on Tuesday.

Wobbles · Jan 14th, 2007, 14:55 PM

Hope you get a good sleep Terrie hun

Thinking of you & please don't *think* about mentioning this to your HV you do it hun it will make all the difference to you & your family from what I've heard about PND x

Iwantone!!! · Jan 14th, 2007, 17:16 PM

ur not a crap mum this must be really hard for you to deal with with ur OH away for a week is there anyone you cna talk to ?

Wobbles · Jan 14th, 2007, 20:33 PM

Her Mum is helping her as she mentioned on page one!

weestar21 · Jan 14th, 2007, 20:47 PM

terri hunny i want to give you a massive hug

i know what its like to be feeling that way, i went through it with my first daughter. She was born prem and was in hospital and had a ruiten for comming home but i just felt like i didnt get to spend the forst few days feeding bathing chnaging her we werent allowed

i found it so hard to bond when she came out of hospital, and i was put onto anti depresants

i only needed them for a short time hun and i felt sooooooooo mych better and i just couldnt stop playing,hugging,kissing and loving ma wee girl

Iknow you will be the same hun and it will be soon, youve already taken the biggest step and opening up to all of us

you just need to be honest with your doctor and you will start to feel a whole lot better soon, i promise

its never too late to bond with your baby, it took me just over 3 months :wink:

take care chick
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Tezzy · Jan 14th, 2007, 21:44 PM

ok didnt have a nice sleep this afternoon but had a reaallllly long chat with my friend Brigitte about everything..had another good cry too. it wasnt too bad admitting that there was problems and i also found out the she went through the same thing (she has 3 girls) shes gonna come with me on tuesday to the HV to make sure i mention it...

thanks again everybody x

Iwantone!!! · Jan 14th, 2007, 21:56 PM

thats great hunny all the best for tuesday xxx

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