foxyroxie

i got christened and i dont go to church just because hes christened doesnt mean he has to go to church and can still make his own choice i think you should both sit down and talk about it explain why you dont want him to be christened i hope you get it sorted

smartie

These are my thoughts too.

TashaAndBump

But that just shows how hypocritical most christenings are:

When you christen a baby you make a promise in front of everybody present and in front of God, to raise the baby as a christian (you promise essentially to take away their freedom to choose their own religion/beliefs...) If you believe that you will not uphold those promises, it is reason enough not to get your baby christened.

Beltane

This is a sore subject for me as I was forced into a religious ceremony when my child was small. It was one of the worst experiences of my life! I was the only one who was against it so I was all alone in my agony. Don't do it if you don't want to. I regret not fighting for what I believed in.

taughtandlost

would you be able to have a religious ceremony, but chose the words you use yourself? you might be able to word it so that you're not making any promises that you know you won't keep.......you can have a dedication service which is half way between christening and a naming ceremony. that's what we're gonna do so that when Jacob's older he can decide for himself.

Nemo and bump

me and oh are not religious and are choosing not to get little one christened as its their choice. we're going to have guardians instead of god parents and put it in our wills. christenings really dont have the same meanings as they used to and i think it is fine not to christen a child.

o0oCharlieo0o

i think a naming ceromony is a lovely idea, thankfully my OH didnt want brendan christened either, im with you i dont beleive its my choice to make it is up to him when he is older and im sure your OH and his family will understand your views on it xx

bexy_22

I am not religious at all and neither is my OH except he is catholic although not a practicing one. We argued and argued because he wanted her christened and I didn't especially as my dad's side of the family who are from Northern Ireland are protestants and so pretty much hate catholics lol (they don't though but you get my drift) but I decided to go with it in the end only because I know catholic schools tend to give a better education x

lorrilou

we have just been through this. Neither me or oh are religious, we've both been christened but only ever go to church for weddings, funerals and christenings so dont see the point in having either of my children christened.

our nphew was christened at the wkend and really it was just for the presents and the after party. He will never go to church. i personally think it is hypocritical to be christened if you never have any intentions of going to church, but then it is everyones own choice.

I will let them decide what they want to do when they are older.

sweetsammi

I agree with u 100% Lauren- i also believe its just an excuse to have a party if you're not religious yourself and i think it should be the child's decison as to what if any religion he follows rather than forcing him into one. A naming ceremony is a much nicer way to celebrate Ryan's birth At the end of the day, its a similar ceromony just without the legal part etc. That in my opinion is a good compromise. Hope you can both come to soem agrrement hun xx