cant spell but i mean downs children how would u feel if u had a downs child with the responabilites my aunty got rid of her baby as it was downs and it was her first did u have teh test and how did u feel when it came bakc ok or not ?

I can imagine this subject could cause a stir as many have different opinions & some opinions change if you were ever faced with the reality.

Personally I won't be having the test done - Again that could change but I can't imagine going through our journey to consider termination of any life because bubs may be special care. me & OH had this convo & I think my answer is NO I would not terminate my babies life!

We haven't had the blood tests cos we wouldn't terminate if there was a risk. When I had my 12 wk scan it was with the registrar, and he seemd quite shocked that we wer not having the test done so we said we would, but my mw was great when we talked to her. we explained we felt we ought to have it done but after a long chat with her she agreed with us that it ws really pointless having the test done. I work with someone who came back as high risk, didn't want amnio due to risk of miscarriage then spent rest of pregnancy worrinying. In the end all was ok. I think it does depend though on wheter you feel able to cope with a child with special needs.

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i dont think in my heart i could terminate any pregnancy
but if i had to fall pregnant now and discover that my baby would need special attention with teh support and surroundings i have at the moment then i would have to as it wouldnt be an option and it wouldnt be fair on teh baby to bring into my situation as it is at the moment.

every situation is different and i personally think it depends of the circumstances but in my heart i dont think i could
and to be honest with you im doing everything i can not to get pregnant again so i wont have to make that descision

im blessed with 2 lovley childresbn and i thank my lucky stars every day for that

but im afraid fro me sorrybut no more kiddies for me

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I would ve the test as i no its in the family but i dont i would consider ternmiraing but i dont if i was faced it in reality as things change coz i would liek 2 babies so do i put my life on hold for a down baby or do i terminated and have 2 healthy babies possiabley i no i sound like a rite bitch but no one can tel u how u would feel in that situation its one reason my aunty got rid of her first baby and now she has 3 healthy boys was it worth taking the risk for her it work as 3 healthy boys or it coudl of been teh other way 1 disabled baby who took all her time up and died at an early aged and felt she did not want anymore children just in case so was it worth taking the risk ?

only the person whos faced with this can decide
personally i think kids with downs syndrome are lovely, they are so pleasant and soooooo cute, it must be hard for parents but ive never seena downs syndrome child through a temper tantrum in the street sorry had to pt that Adele is getting really bad for it at the moment

anyway all im saying is you cant really answe untill your faced with it
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totally agree with u there yes tehy are lovely children but can u image living with all the problems 24/7 i have nothing against them jsut have an opion and it may not be to eveyone liking

no one ever has the same opinion hun

i did have the test done both pregnancys only because first time round i was younge and didnt really know what the tests meant and seccond time round i wanted tested for everything incase i had another pre term baby incase their was any clues if i was to go into prem labour
but thankfully all came back fine except having low BP all the time

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thats great news everything was ok for u but they ay god only gives u what u can cope with i no this sound horrible but would fine it hard with a downs baby only because my step mum di used to work with special need ppl or learning disability and it was hard for her for only a couple of hours a day

i guess another thing you would have to ask is if you had the test and it came back high risk and you had a termination would you regret it for the rest of your life? and would you keep asking yourself the same question what if it was high risk but baby was fine?

sorry im rambling but im off too bed now good luck if you ever have to make that choice
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