Iwantone!!!

tahts so true well my aunty made the right one but she did not no it til she tried again and now has 3 beautiful boys but theres not a day goes by that she does not think about her first ababy as she would of not have her boys she scarifist 1 to get 3 boys mmmi really dont no how i would feel

LynnieH

I had the tests and they came back low risk. I would not have terminated the pregnancy but I would have been more prepared for aspecial needs baby.

Wobbles

Thats a good point Lynnie!

I think if I had the test & I was high risk I would have to find out for sure but the emotions inbetween would be up & down as I would question if I was capable, I think anybody faced with that situation would & I'm sure I would consider aborting the pregnancy but I feel that would be out of shock, worry & some part of me scared.

I can understand some peoples reasons for terminating pregnancy at this stage I think it would take alot out of any person I just couldn't live with the regret.

Lauz_1601

mmm this is a hard one to answer never having been in that situation.If I came back with high risk results I think firstly Id do alot of research in to children with down syndrome becuase in all honesty I dont know much about how it affects their behaviour. Id want to be prepared and Id ask myself if I think I could "cope". But I think when it comes to it each and everyone of us would cope and love the child just as much as any other. but I couldnt judge anyone for their desicions at the end of the day its your own choice.

I had the triple test when I was pg, I didnt know we had a choice I thought it was routine. Also I was told ages ago they only test for it in older women, I was only 19 at the time.

Tootsie

I have not personally been in the situation. but i am at a higher risk of a dows baby than others as there are a few people in my family with Downs.

I know how hard the bringing up of a handicapped child can be. In my circle of friend i have a wheelchair bound woman with cerebal palsly, 3 down syndrom people who are lovley. 3 children with different levers of Autism. My partner now was born with Club feet and spent his first 2 years of childhood in plaster and has pins in his feet. My eldest son was in and out of Great Ormond Street hospital as a baby with and undesended testiclae resulting in operations from the age of 2 - 3. My cousin has a little girl called sarah with a Hormone Imbalance in the brain, meaning she is 2 years behind in her development which can increase as she gets older. one of my other cousins was born with a Clef Pallett.

So honestly reading all the people i know and all the difficulties their parents went through with them has proven to me despite their "Defects" I'll never terminate a life.

Cat

Iagree with tootsie. At the end of the day your child could be born with any number of illnesses or disabilities, and if you were told a few months after the birth that your child had CP or Autism, or Spina Bifta, you wouldnt say 'oh Idont want it now' so why should it be the same if your told this news whilst pregnant? Unfortunatly the tests are done so late in pregnancy by the time you find out you are high risk, and have an amnio to confirm, that unborn baby is very developed and aware of things around it, and for me to terminate it would be much the same as opting to kill a newborn. Many downs kids go on to have pretty normal and healthy lives, its not all doom and gloom, just as many healthy born kids go on to have all sorts of mental and physical disabilities and problems in life, Idont feel you should be able to pick and choose on what you bring into the world. If you are blessed enough to successfully become pregnant you should love what ever child you bring into the world.

Spunky Cupkake

Iwantone!!!

has any one watch eastenders rectenly i no its not real but the billy and honey story withe th petal the babes that must be so hard to give up a baby and then find out that they need an operation in any case