In your opinion ...

Just curious!

Peoples parenting routines vary from person to person/family to family so remember noones way is the wrong way!

In my opinion? Never

I've seen children who have never been left to cry always picked up - can't say the result is great Not that I am questioning your opinion Marley just one reason I would do control crying to a certain point.

We do intend on placing controlled crying in our household the point of controlled crying to us anyway is that where a child is crying for no reason other than to get their own way/having a tantrum.

IMO babies cry and I found that I learnt the difference between baby crying for the hell of it & then (what I call a sore cry) where I know something is wrong. What surprised me was when I left my baby girl crying to get older brother ready for school e.t.c that within a couple of minutes (sometimes longer) she would content herself & realise 'oh I'm wasting my time crying here not going to get picked up'. As a result I enjoyed my 2nd baby alot more that I did my 1st!!

I suppose I see controlled crying as something people do at night, haven't thought about it being used in the day. There's times that I can't and haven't been able to go and pick him up straight away, but when he was small (under 6 months) I tried to make sure I did pick him up when he was upset pretty much straight away. Now if he's just whingy and crawling around after me he has to wait.
I've not been able to leave him at night to cry until very recently, when I've let him whinge for 3 mins or so, then he settles himself.
I don't see that letting them scream until they're sick or in such a state that they fall asleep exhausted is a good route to go down. I have a friend who did crying at night and left him for 45 mins (apparently he was hysterical). That's something I couldn't do ever! But I supposed that isn't controlled?

What is controlled anyway? Who judges what's a controlled amount or time and what isn't?

I agree with you kina, minutes at a time, but until they are sick is just not for me

Depends on age of baby. Don't believe newborns cry to be awkward, they are trying to communicate something to you. As my children got older I never used to rush to pick them up at every squeak. I think you learn to recognise the different types of cry they develop as they get older.

I didn't mean until they are sick and gasping for breathe

I did mean more for night time/bedtime when you know its a whinge not a pain/discomfort.

Everyone has thir own ways (seen a debate on his before) but your Qs at the end Kina are good ones.

To me its getting to know the dif between own way/fighting sleep & discomfort & personally think 10 minutes max is more than enough. Learning baby to know when its 'bedtime'.

Tanrums are a different ball game & are down to giving child heir own way which I doubt parents do?

So the views on both would be interesting - may change origanal post,

I do not believe in letting baby cry before sleeping at all, as I think then baby will learn to associate sleeping with something bad and feeling not well and when they get older it will get difficult to put them to bed!

whereas when they learn it is nice to go to sleep they may go to bed with less difficulties when they get older.

just my pychological theorie

i havent really thought bout that one. atthe min i drop everything and go running i do believe at the min i should be doing that as she is telling me something is wrong. but when she is older maybe 5 mins here an there just to teach her that crying doesnt ge you everything.