Baby's last name?

fl00b · Jan 30th, 2012, 04:52 AM

ok so i'm 17 and i've been with my boyfriend nearly a year... but i don't know how much longer we're gonna be together (the pregnancy's putting a lot of stress on stuff so i don't know how it's gonna cope with a baby!) so i was thinking of giving the baby my last name... but he wants it to have his.

is there any rights he has to give the baby his last name? or is it up to the mother no matter what? xxx

Lil_Apple · Jan 30th, 2012, 07:39 AM

I think its up to the mother if he is not named on the birth cerficate but if he is he has a say...Im not 100% on that though x

momof2wonderf · Jan 30th, 2012, 11:01 AM

It is totally up to you- he has no naming rights. I would really recommend that you go with your last name, especially because you are already thinking this may not work out.

ZoMo · Jan 30th, 2012, 11:30 AM

Have a look at this link, it will explain your and his parental responsibility rights in UK law:

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/...hts/DG_4002954

amica · Jan 30th, 2012, 13:40 PM

Personal opinion here, but i'd really recommend you use your name. Then baby will always be the same as you until/unless you decide to either change baby's name to his dad's (or step-dad's maybe if that happens in the future) or you get married and again decide to change baby's name to be the same as the family. I've known friends and family who have given the baby the dad's name, thinking that all was going to last forever, and it didn't. And you're already thinking this relationship might not last forever....

By giving baby your name, it's your choice what to do now and in the future. If you give baby the dad's name, I think (not sure) he may have a right to block you changing it away from his name. (especially if he is named on the birth certificate - another choice for you to make). Good luck

fernie3 · Jan 30th, 2012, 14:39 PM

I agree give the baby your name, if at a later date you decide that the relationship will work and you for example get married and want eveyrine to have the same name it will be possible to change the childrens surnames with both parents agreeing.

I had my dc1 and 2 before we got married and we gave them his name BUT we were engaged and the relationship was stable, if it hadnt been i def owuld have given them my own surname.

Sorry to hear things are not working out

letia659 · Jan 30th, 2012, 18:35 PM

I think its up to you I personally think a child should take on the fathers last name but Im just traditional like that its really all up to you but if he isnt going to be a part of the childs life then baby would probably be better off with your last name

pinkandfluffy · Jan 31st, 2012, 09:28 AM

It's funny but when my brother was born (I was 9) my mum and step dad weren't married - the registrar actually tried to talk my mum out of giving him his dads name !!

I would give your name - I think you are fine to do so if not married and as someone pointed out he could block you changing it back if LO starts with his name and the relationship breaks up x x

kiki04 · Jan 31st, 2012, 20:05 PM

I would give your name as well

..katie.. · Jan 31st, 2012, 22:52 PM

It's totally up to you.
I'm old fashioned. I'm giving her her father's last name. No real explanation behind it, it just feels better to me.

Jan 30th, 2012, 04:52 AM	#1
fl00b Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Birmingham, UK Posts: 128	Baby's last name? ok so i'm 17 and i've been with my boyfriend nearly a year... but i don't know how much longer we're gonna be together (the pregnancy's putting a lot of stress on stuff so i don't know how it's gonna cope with a baby!) so i was thinking of giving the baby my last name... but he wants it to have his. is there any rights he has to give the baby his last name? or is it up to the mother no matter what? xxx

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Jan 30th, 2012, 07:39 AM	#2
Lil_Apple Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Cheshire Posts: 1,284	I think its up to the mother if he is not named on the birth cerficate but if he is he has a say...Im not 100% on that though x

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Jan 30th, 2012, 11:01 AM	#3
momof2wonderf Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 162	It is totally up to you- he has no naming rights. I would really recommend that you go with your last name, especially because you are already thinking this may not work out.

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Jan 30th, 2012, 11:30 AM	#4
ZoMo Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: UK Posts: 267	Have a look at this link, it will explain your and his parental responsibility rights in UK law: http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/...hts/DG_4002954

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Jan 30th, 2012, 13:40 PM	#5
amica Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: England Posts: 101	Personal opinion here, but i'd really recommend you use your name. Then baby will always be the same as you until/unless you decide to either change baby's name to his dad's (or step-dad's maybe if that happens in the future) or you get married and again decide to change baby's name to be the same as the family. I've known friends and family who have given the baby the dad's name, thinking that all was going to last forever, and it didn't. And you're already thinking this relationship might not last forever.... By giving baby your name, it's your choice what to do now and in the future. If you give baby the dad's name, I think (not sure) he may have a right to block you changing it away from his name. (especially if he is named on the birth certificate - another choice for you to make). Good luck

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Jan 30th, 2012, 14:39 PM	#6
fernie3 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Merseyside Posts: 1,792	I agree give the baby your name, if at a later date you decide that the relationship will work and you for example get married and want eveyrine to have the same name it will be possible to change the childrens surnames with both parents agreeing. I had my dc1 and 2 before we got married and we gave them his name BUT we were engaged and the relationship was stable, if it hadnt been i def owuld have given them my own surname. Sorry to hear things are not working out

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Jan 30th, 2012, 18:35 PM	#7
letia659 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Tennessee Posts: 2,792	I think its up to you I personally think a child should take on the fathers last name but Im just traditional like that its really all up to you but if he isnt going to be a part of the childs life then baby would probably be better off with your last name

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Jan 31st, 2012, 09:28 AM	#8
pinkandfluffy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Barnsley, South Yorkshire Posts: 3,516	It's funny but when my brother was born (I was 9) my mum and step dad weren't married - the registrar actually tried to talk my mum out of giving him his dads name !! I would give your name - I think you are fine to do so if not married and as someone pointed out he could block you changing it back if LO starts with his name and the relationship breaks up x x

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Jan 31st, 2012, 20:05 PM	#9
kiki04 Waiting To Try (WTT) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Canada Posts: 2,083	I would give your name as well

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Jan 31st, 2012, 22:52 PM	#10
..katie.. Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: SW wy Posts: 757	It's totally up to you. I'm old fashioned. I'm giving her her father's last name. No real explanation behind it, it just feels better to me.

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