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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 04:52 AM   #1
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Baby's last name?


ok so i'm 17 and i've been with my boyfriend nearly a year... but i don't know how much longer we're gonna be together (the pregnancy's putting a lot of stress on stuff so i don't know how it's gonna cope with a baby!) so i was thinking of giving the baby my last name... but he wants it to have his.

is there any rights he has to give the baby his last name? or is it up to the mother no matter what? xxx


 
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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 07:39 AM   #2
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I think its up to the mother if he is not named on the birth cerficate but if he is he has a say...Im not 100% on that though x


 
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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 11:01 AM   #3
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It is totally up to you- he has no naming rights. I would really recommend that you go with your last name, especially because you are already thinking this may not work out.


 
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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 11:30 AM   #4
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Have a look at this link, it will explain your and his parental responsibility rights in UK law:

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/...hts/DG_4002954


 
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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 13:40 PM   #5
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Personal opinion here, but i'd really recommend you use your name. Then baby will always be the same as you until/unless you decide to either change baby's name to his dad's (or step-dad's maybe if that happens in the future) or you get married and again decide to change baby's name to be the same as the family. I've known friends and family who have given the baby the dad's name, thinking that all was going to last forever, and it didn't. And you're already thinking this relationship might not last forever....

By giving baby your name, it's your choice what to do now and in the future. If you give baby the dad's name, I think (not sure) he may have a right to block you changing it away from his name. (especially if he is named on the birth certificate - another choice for you to make). Good luck


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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 14:39 PM   #6
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I agree give the baby your name, if at a later date you decide that the relationship will work and you for example get married and want eveyrine to have the same name it will be possible to change the childrens surnames with both parents agreeing.

I had my dc1 and 2 before we got married and we gave them his name BUT we were engaged and the relationship was stable, if it hadnt been i def owuld have given them my own surname.

Sorry to hear things are not working out


 
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Old Jan 30th, 2012, 18:35 PM   #7
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I think its up to you I personally think a child should take on the fathers last name but Im just traditional like that its really all up to you but if he isnt going to be a part of the childs life then baby would probably be better off with your last name


 
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Old Jan 31st, 2012, 09:28 AM   #8
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It's funny but when my brother was born (I was 9) my mum and step dad weren't married - the registrar actually tried to talk my mum out of giving him his dads name !!

I would give your name - I think you are fine to do so if not married and as someone pointed out he could block you changing it back if LO starts with his name and the relationship breaks up x x


 
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Old Jan 31st, 2012, 20:05 PM   #9
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I would give your name as well


 
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Old Jan 31st, 2012, 22:52 PM   #10
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It's totally up to you.
I'm old fashioned. I'm giving her her father's last name. No real explanation behind it, it just feels better to me.


 
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