how to deal with family??? rant

sweetniss113 · Nov 30th, 2009, 14:18 PM

My MIL seems to think she has the right to choose baby names. I have 4 kids all named after family and my youngest has MILs name. this time she thinks I should go with her name choice as she hasn't liked any of ours yet. I keep telling DH that its our baby and she don't get to have a say in the name but he don't want to piss her off.

If the baby is a girl I wanted to name her after my fav aunt in law, (also the only aunt that came to our wedding) but MIL said it will make the other aunts mad. and if the baby is a boy she wants him named after BIL, he didn't even give his own son his name because he didn't like the name. I think she is losing her mind a little and don't want to hurt her feelings but also don't want to give my baby a weird name.

sorry this is so long

RubyRainbows · Nov 30th, 2009, 14:24 PM

I think giving one of your children your MIL's name was very nice of you! It would be silly to give your baby your BIL's name, especially if his own children aren't even named after him! Maybe you can tell them it will be a surprise... and no longer share your baby name ideas until after you officially name him/her!

Seity · Nov 30th, 2009, 15:09 PM

She's welcome to give the suggestion, but at the end of the labor you're the one who puts the name on the certificate, so you can put whatever you want on there. Every now and then my mom sends some random email about a possible baby name and I just delete it.

mrskx0x0 · Dec 4th, 2009, 07:23 AM

Why on earth would she expect you to name your baby after your BIL? That's kind of odd to me, it would make sense if she was wanting to use OHs name. Anyway, I agree, none of her business either way. Ignore her and do what we are doing, pick a name and refuse to tell anyone until baby comes and they will be so distracted with the new baby they won't bitch about your name choice

BrightEyes · Dec 4th, 2009, 17:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Seity

She's welcome to give the suggestion, but at the end of the labor you're the one who puts the name on the certificate, so you can put whatever you want on there. Every now and then my mom sends some random email about a possible baby name and I just delete it.

This made me laugh - my mum does the same and I delete them too!!

She did the same for our wedding last year - "I don't want you to think I'm interfering, but..." tsk.

PrayinForBaby · Dec 5th, 2009, 03:45 AM

Just do what DH and I are doing----don't tell ANYONE the name you have picked until that baby is in this world....That way you and you DH have the freedom to change it every day if you want and no one else is involved.

Nov 30th, 2009, 14:18 PM	#1
sweetniss113 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 351	how to deal with family??? rant My MIL seems to think she has the right to choose baby names. I have 4 kids all named after family and my youngest has MILs name. this time she thinks I should go with her name choice as she hasn't liked any of ours yet. I keep telling DH that its our baby and she don't get to have a say in the name but he don't want to piss her off. If the baby is a girl I wanted to name her after my fav aunt in law, (also the only aunt that came to our wedding) but MIL said it will make the other aunts mad. and if the baby is a boy she wants him named after BIL, he didn't even give his own son his name because he didn't like the name. I think she is losing her mind a little and don't want to hurt her feelings but also don't want to give my baby a weird name. sorry this is so long

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Nov 30th, 2009, 14:24 PM	#2
RubyRainbows Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: US Posts: 4,455	I think giving one of your children your MIL's name was very nice of you! It would be silly to give your baby your BIL's name, especially if his own children aren't even named after him! Maybe you can tell them it will be a surprise... and no longer share your baby name ideas until after you officially name him/her!

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Nov 30th, 2009, 15:09 PM	#3
Seity Other BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ithaca, NY Posts: 12,807	She's welcome to give the suggestion, but at the end of the labor you're the one who puts the name on the certificate, so you can put whatever you want on there. Every now and then my mom sends some random email about a possible baby name and I just delete it.

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Dec 4th, 2009, 07:23 AM	#4
mrskx0x0 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 1,311	Why on earth would she expect you to name your baby after your BIL? That's kind of odd to me, it would make sense if she was wanting to use OHs name. Anyway, I agree, none of her business either way. Ignore her and do what we are doing, pick a name and refuse to tell anyone until baby comes and they will be so distracted with the new baby they won't bitch about your name choice

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Dec 5th, 2009, 03:45 AM	#6
PrayinForBaby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: West Virginia, USA Posts: 4,343	Just do what DH and I are doing----don't tell ANYONE the name you have picked until that baby is in this world....That way you and you DH have the freedom to change it every day if you want and no one else is involved.

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