I know both parents are gonna hate it. How to deal?

mummypeanut · Oct 14th, 2009, 17:34 PM

My MIL believes names should only be the traditional michael, thomas etc. I have nothing against those names its just not what i would choose for my child. Our choice is very unusual and i know we are really going to have to sell it to them. I actually think once people have got over the 'why did you choose it' thing it would really really suit a little boy or a grown man.

If everyone was going to initially hate the name you chose because of thier personal preferance would you still choose it?

How can we deal with this with the most minimal fall out?

fuffyburra · Oct 14th, 2009, 17:51 PM

While I respect that you don't want to upset anyone, it's not their baby! They're not carrying it round then giving birth to it, so they're just going to have to live with it. Once the LO is here they'll probably forget all about it, but in the meantime just stay calm, stand your ground, and let them get on with it!
Best of luck xx

JennieyL · Oct 14th, 2009, 18:04 PM

are you going to tell us what it is :P

beccaboo · Oct 14th, 2009, 18:09 PM

tell them the name, if they hate it? say "good, two less people i have to worry about stealing it"

or

if they say its different say "perfect!"

mummypeanut · Oct 15th, 2009, 03:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by beccaboo

tell them the name, if they hate it? say "good, two less people i have to worry about stealing it"

or

if they say its different say "perfect!"

Fantastic suggestions lol

mummypeanut · Oct 15th, 2009, 04:03 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JennieyL

are you going to tell us what it is :P

Boston charlie davies (boss for short) - my husband chose the first name and the middle name is my grandfather who passed away the weekend we were gonna tell him he was a great grandad

amazed · Oct 15th, 2009, 04:04 AM

I would still have the name i think hun.

Amygdala · Oct 15th, 2009, 05:20 AM

Hmm, I don't think it's that out there... I'm sure they'll be able to cope. And Charlie is a lovely traditional name with a beautiful reason behind it so they really cannot complain. Do you have a reason for wanting Boston? If so, I'd probably tell them, so say "His name will be Boston Charlie Davies, Boston because..., Charlie after granddad". That way they'll see that it's important to you and be less likely complain. Having said that, some people just will tell you their opinions (one of them's my mother

) and you just need to know how to take them and that at the end of the day, they're their opinions and no reason for you to get upset. Good luck!

MUMOF5 · Oct 15th, 2009, 08:12 AM

LOL, im going through similar at the mo, I love the name Madeleine (Maddie), and MIL keeps trying to come up with all different reasons to put us off it. Im more for traditional names this time and MIL keeps coming up with modern names

. I dont want to upset anyone but the more shes against it the more I want the name

. Plus its after my nan

. Id just wait until he arrives and then introduce him as Boston Charlie. xx

suzanne108 · Oct 15th, 2009, 11:04 AM

They will get used to it and when he's here they won't be able to imagine him being called anything other than Boston!

I wouldn't tell them until he's here and they are overwhelmed by his cuteness

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mummypeanut Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Midlands UK Posts: 1,106	I know both parents are gonna hate it. How to deal? My MIL believes names should only be the traditional michael, thomas etc. I have nothing against those names its just not what i would choose for my child. Our choice is very unusual and i know we are really going to have to sell it to them. I actually think once people have got over the 'why did you choose it' thing it would really really suit a little boy or a grown man. If everyone was going to initially hate the name you chose because of thier personal preferance would you still choose it? How can we deal with this with the most minimal fall out?

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fuffyburra Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: West Sussex, England Posts: 2,148	While I respect that you don't want to upset anyone, it's not their baby! They're not carrying it round then giving birth to it, so they're just going to have to live with it. Once the LO is here they'll probably forget all about it, but in the meantime just stay calm, stand your ground, and let them get on with it! Best of luck xx

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JennieyL Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 509	are you going to tell us what it is :P

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beccaboo Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Utah Posts: 176	tell them the name, if they hate it? say "good, two less people i have to worry about stealing it" or if they say its different say "perfect!"

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amazed Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Warwickshire,uk Posts: 5,378	I would still have the name i think hun.

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Amygdala Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 3,089	Hmm, I don't think it's that out there... I'm sure they'll be able to cope. And Charlie is a lovely traditional name with a beautiful reason behind it so they really cannot complain. Do you have a reason for wanting Boston? If so, I'd probably tell them, so say "His name will be Boston Charlie Davies, Boston because..., Charlie after granddad". That way they'll see that it's important to you and be less likely complain. Having said that, some people just will tell you their opinions (one of them's my mother ) and you just need to know how to take them and that at the end of the day, they're their opinions and no reason for you to get upset. Good luck!

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MUMOF5 Other BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Kent, UK Posts: 3,605	LOL, im going through similar at the mo, I love the name Madeleine (Maddie), and MIL keeps trying to come up with all different reasons to put us off it. Im more for traditional names this time and MIL keeps coming up with modern names . I dont want to upset anyone but the more shes against it the more I want the name . Plus its after my nan . Id just wait until he arrives and then introduce him as Boston Charlie. xx

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suzanne108 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Manchester Posts: 6,844	They will get used to it and when he's here they won't be able to imagine him being called anything other than Boston! I wouldn't tell them until he's here and they are overwhelmed by his cuteness

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