Never mind terrible two's... think we've hit the terrible one's

welshcakes79 · Jan 10th, 2009, 08:09 AM

Trust me to have a child who is little-miss-independent lol

From a sweet, quiet, sleepy baby Rhiannon has morphed into someone who now kicks, pushes and screams when she cant get what she wants
ie: play with toys
go outside
see the washing machine spin
not wash her hair

Im calming her down and saying no, and giving reasons (toys going to sleep its bedtime, or have to wash hair, it gets dirty) but nope... she gets to the point where she has tears, which is upsetting me...
i do sometimes use distraction like singing and pointing out the "ouff ouff cooker" or the pretty chandelier on the ceiling but 9/10 times she just pushes or kicks

How do you reason with a 11 month old

and what is she going to be like when she is older if i cant calm her now..

Yiiiikes

has anyone got any tips????

x

littlelady · Jan 10th, 2009, 08:28 AM

having the same sort of problem myself leeon purposly throws toys over the stair gate so i have to open it and if i close it and dont let him through to see the washing machine spin he starts screaming and crying and slamming his legs down waving his arms around so hel keep doing it i just try my best to distract him with something else but it never works i just leave him to it hel stand there screaming at the stair gate lol
and in the end realise hes not getting his own way but give it a try she will pick up in a week or so hopefully x

welshcakes79 · Jan 10th, 2009, 20:08 PM

Thanks hun, guess i have to become stronger lol instead of leaving the guilt-feeling take over

mommyof3co · Jan 10th, 2009, 20:12 PM

I've found that the best thing to do is be very short and direct, like don't try reasoning, or explaining...she's just too young to understand it. Best thing to do is no, that will hurt you, then move her away. Redirection is great at this age, tell them no and then get them doing something else to get her mind off of it so she isn't constantly going back and testing you.

welshcakes79 · Jan 10th, 2009, 20:18 PM

Thanks

ANy ideas about when im drying her aftr her bath, she seems to play up more then (tiredness) because she wants her toys, i keep saying no (toys alseep) but she just kicks..

x

mommyof3co · Jan 10th, 2009, 20:33 PM

Maybe she's overtired by then? Maybe you cold move bathtime up a bit, like 30min? And make sure all toys are put away before bath?

welshcakes79 · Jan 10th, 2009, 20:37 PM

tried the toys away, and her bathtime is at 6.00pm, but thanks for the idea hun

maybe ill try her with some juice, see if that might distract her..
or just wait untill she hits 3 and grows out of it lol

x

mommyof3co · Jan 10th, 2009, 20:42 PM

Oh don't count on that, I don't know why it's terrible 2s...2s hav nothing on 3s lol. I hope you find something that works

missjess · Jan 10th, 2009, 21:04 PM

Hope she gets better. Josh is starting to test what he can and can't do and will throw a tantrum when I say no.

May I suggest, maybe we could put both of them in a padded room with balls and let them play until they pass-out?

turbo_mom · Jan 11th, 2009, 00:06 AM

aww hun I have no suggestions sorry.. Angelynn is just learning in the last week how to scream and throw a tantrum. Usually when she doesn't want to sit still or sit by herself... it's terrible

next time I will try and get it on video so you can all see how much of a menace my "angel" has turned into LOL

Jan 10th, 2009, 08:09 AM	#1
welshcakes79 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: south wales Posts: 2,855	Never mind terrible two's... think we've hit the terrible one's Trust me to have a child who is little-miss-independent lol From a sweet, quiet, sleepy baby Rhiannon has morphed into someone who now kicks, pushes and screams when she cant get what she wants ie: play with toys go outside see the washing machine spin not wash her hair Im calming her down and saying no, and giving reasons (toys going to sleep its bedtime, or have to wash hair, it gets dirty) but nope... she gets to the point where she has tears, which is upsetting me... i do sometimes use distraction like singing and pointing out the "ouff ouff cooker" or the pretty chandelier on the ceiling but 9/10 times she just pushes or kicks How do you reason with a 11 month old and what is she going to be like when she is older if i cant calm her now.. Yiiiikes has anyone got any tips???? x

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Jan 10th, 2009, 08:28 AM	#2
littlelady Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Lancashire Posts: 2,137	having the same sort of problem myself leeon purposly throws toys over the stair gate so i have to open it and if i close it and dont let him through to see the washing machine spin he starts screaming and crying and slamming his legs down waving his arms around so hel keep doing it i just try my best to distract him with something else but it never works i just leave him to it hel stand there screaming at the stair gate lol and in the end realise hes not getting his own way but give it a try she will pick up in a week or so hopefully x

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Jan 10th, 2009, 20:08 PM	#3
welshcakes79 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: south wales Posts: 2,855	Thanks hun, guess i have to become stronger lol instead of leaving the guilt-feeling take over

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Jan 10th, 2009, 20:12 PM	#4
mommyof3co Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Waxahachie, TX Posts: 10,076	I've found that the best thing to do is be very short and direct, like don't try reasoning, or explaining...she's just too young to understand it. Best thing to do is no, that will hurt you, then move her away. Redirection is great at this age, tell them no and then get them doing something else to get her mind off of it so she isn't constantly going back and testing you.

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Jan 10th, 2009, 20:18 PM	#5
welshcakes79 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: south wales Posts: 2,855	Thanks ANy ideas about when im drying her aftr her bath, she seems to play up more then (tiredness) because she wants her toys, i keep saying no (toys alseep) but she just kicks.. x

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Jan 10th, 2009, 20:33 PM	#6
mommyof3co Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Waxahachie, TX Posts: 10,076	Maybe she's overtired by then? Maybe you cold move bathtime up a bit, like 30min? And make sure all toys are put away before bath?

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Jan 10th, 2009, 20:37 PM	#7
welshcakes79 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: south wales Posts: 2,855	tried the toys away, and her bathtime is at 6.00pm, but thanks for the idea hun maybe ill try her with some juice, see if that might distract her.. or just wait untill she hits 3 and grows out of it lol x

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Jan 10th, 2009, 20:42 PM	#8
mommyof3co Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Waxahachie, TX Posts: 10,076	Oh don't count on that, I don't know why it's terrible 2s...2s hav nothing on 3s lol. I hope you find something that works

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Jan 10th, 2009, 21:04 PM	#9
missjess Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Montreal Posts: 4,794	Hope she gets better. Josh is starting to test what he can and can't do and will throw a tantrum when I say no. May I suggest, maybe we could put both of them in a padded room with balls and let them play until they pass-out?

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Jan 11th, 2009, 00:06 AM	#10
turbo_mom Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: calgary alberta Posts: 1,888	aww hun I have no suggestions sorry.. Angelynn is just learning in the last week how to scream and throw a tantrum. Usually when she doesn't want to sit still or sit by herself... it's terrible next time I will try and get it on video so you can all see how much of a menace my "angel" has turned into LOL

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