Does anyone get 'your a young parent' speech

mummytobe · Mar 18th, 2010, 09:40 AM

Ive actually had enough of it, when i went to the drs he went on saying i was a young parent and assuming all i do is dump LO infront of the TV all day, dnt pay her any attention, will give her chocolate at an early age and thats why she screams at her bottle. Im like excuse me ? Yes i AM a young parent, but does that mean young parents cant look after a child as good as an older parent could, does that give us NO rights in worrying for our children. To be fair im not really that young, but 14, 16, 23, 30, 40, 50 i parent my child MY way.. why do people have to be steriotypical

feisty_filly · Mar 18th, 2010, 10:05 AM

agreed! im not even that young (20 but thats practicly an oap rould here the way the lasses pop them out!) i getit all the time, "your only young are you sure you can cope?" "do you want me to take him?"

I WOULDNT HAVE HAD A BABY IF I WASNT READY TO LOOK AFTER HIM!!!!!!!

MrsChamberlin · Mar 18th, 2010, 10:17 AM

I was young with my first 2 (17 & 19) and then quite a bit older with my 3rd (23). The only thing that changed the way I parent is exerience... not my age.

I got that speech quite a bit when I was younger, and even know when I say I have a 6year old (7 in one month), a 4 year old (5 in 2 months), and a 4 month old when I am only 24 yeah, I get the looks all the time.

But my girls are well rounded, happy, active children.

Mum2b_Claire · Mar 18th, 2010, 10:19 AM

People still doubt your parenting abilities when you're in your late twenties I'm afraid.

If you feel your doctor made unfair assumptions / comments about you, then you could make a complaint to the practice manager. Doctors should not behave like that, they should listen and not judge. Otherwise people won't go to see them!

bloodbinds · Mar 18th, 2010, 11:04 AM

I'm quite surprised that i haven't had the young parenting speech or anything! I think people are more concerned that i'm a single mum rather than a young mum!

gemsio · Mar 18th, 2010, 11:20 AM

i get the same treatment aswell and im 28! I think sometimes health care professionals just get a kick out of making you feel like crap.

purpledahlia · Mar 18th, 2010, 11:24 AM

I agree with blooblinds, i get the single mum crap rather than young mum, a few people have commented on both but i dont think 23 is too young by any means anyway so i ignore them. litterally. they get the hint

dani_tinks · Mar 18th, 2010, 11:28 AM

Yup i'm 23 and I get it

mummytobe · Mar 18th, 2010, 11:29 AM

I can imagine the single mum comments are alot worse and they prob expect you to be struggling, my friend got that alot ! ahh well no matter what age or relationship status's we're all great mummys

silly judgemental people lol x

harmonybunny · Mar 18th, 2010, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by gemsio

i get the same treatment aswell and im 28! I think sometimes health care professionals just get a kick out of making you feel like crap.

Totally agree with this. I'm 27, well educated, devoted to my child 100% and by no means stupid but still my HV speaks to me as if i'm not only deaf but mentally ********. It drives me insane

I think some health care professionals are just like this regardless of your age.

Mar 18th, 2010, 09:40 AM	#1
mummytobe Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Reading Posts: 1,966	Does anyone get 'your a young parent' speech Ive actually had enough of it, when i went to the drs he went on saying i was a young parent and assuming all i do is dump LO infront of the TV all day, dnt pay her any attention, will give her chocolate at an early age and thats why she screams at her bottle. Im like excuse me ? Yes i AM a young parent, but does that mean young parents cant look after a child as good as an older parent could, does that give us NO rights in worrying for our children. To be fair im not really that young, but 14, 16, 23, 30, 40, 50 i parent my child MY way.. why do people have to be steriotypical

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Mar 18th, 2010, 10:05 AM	#2
feisty_filly Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: edinburgh Posts: 902	agreed! im not even that young (20 but thats practicly an oap rould here the way the lasses pop them out!) i getit all the time, "your only young are you sure you can cope?" "do you want me to take him?" I WOULDNT HAVE HAD A BABY IF I WASNT READY TO LOOK AFTER HIM!!!!!!!

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Mar 18th, 2010, 10:17 AM	#3
MrsChamberlin Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: New Richmond, WI Posts: 1,105	I was young with my first 2 (17 & 19) and then quite a bit older with my 3rd (23). The only thing that changed the way I parent is exerience... not my age. I got that speech quite a bit when I was younger, and even know when I say I have a 6year old (7 in one month), a 4 year old (5 in 2 months), and a 4 month old when I am only 24 yeah, I get the looks all the time. But my girls are well rounded, happy, active children.

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Mar 18th, 2010, 10:19 AM	#4
Mum2b_Claire Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Kent Posts: 13,907	People still doubt your parenting abilities when you're in your late twenties I'm afraid. If you feel your doctor made unfair assumptions / comments about you, then you could make a complaint to the practice manager. Doctors should not behave like that, they should listen and not judge. Otherwise people won't go to see them!

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Mar 18th, 2010, 11:04 AM	#5
bloodbinds Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Birmingham Posts: 6,563	I'm quite surprised that i haven't had the young parenting speech or anything! I think people are more concerned that i'm a single mum rather than a young mum!

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Mar 18th, 2010, 11:20 AM	#6
gemsio Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 97	i get the same treatment aswell and im 28! I think sometimes health care professionals just get a kick out of making you feel like crap.

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Mar 18th, 2010, 11:24 AM	#7
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	I agree with blooblinds, i get the single mum crap rather than young mum, a few people have commented on both but i dont think 23 is too young by any means anyway so i ignore them. litterally. they get the hint

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Mar 18th, 2010, 11:28 AM	#8
dani_tinks Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Cornwall, UK. Posts: 6,349	Yup i'm 23 and I get it

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Mar 18th, 2010, 11:29 AM	#9
mummytobe Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Reading Posts: 1,966	I can imagine the single mum comments are alot worse and they prob expect you to be struggling, my friend got that alot ! ahh well no matter what age or relationship status's we're all great mummys silly judgemental people lol x

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