Does anyone get 'your a young parent' speech - Page 3

mummytobe · Mar 18th, 2010, 13:46 PM

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Originally Posted by sb22

Its funny how my docs have changed. Mine made a comment regarding TTC at 21(come on I was 21! I miscarried twice and got a new bfp and she said "well if you miscarry again you better start using protection

)

....and now wont dare question me as they know alex was an extreme preemie and have no idea what to say to us.

OMG what a thing for the dr to say!!

purpledahlia · Mar 18th, 2010, 13:55 PM

dont worry dougie, Im 24 in June and live at home still, and even my own GRAN and auntie assume i palm my daughter off onto my mum to go out shopping with friends, lunch, dinner, or just out and about. They are all '' what did you do with ava? are YOU TAKING HER?? '' '' oh you are?? '' ''yes.. of course? why wouldnt i? '' '' oh, just thought your mum would have her? '' DOES MY NUT IN. Ive left her twice, for two nights out. Any lunch's or dinners or going to friends houses or shopping or whatever, she comes with me! Its bad when people judge, but its worse when its your own family.

maybe we should all wear a badge or soemthing, tell people to stop judging!

huggybear · Mar 18th, 2010, 15:25 PM

I wish I got this!! I am 32 (and he is my first, saying that I am the youngest out of my babygroups so dont feel too old)

Ell87 · Mar 18th, 2010, 16:17 PM

People are always going to have something to say.

I've found I'm starting to ignore the negative looks and comments about me having 4 kids at 22 (Had them at 17, 19, 20 and 22) and focus on the positive. A woman stopped me in the shop the other day to tell me how gorgeous my 4 kiddies were, would much rather concentrate on comments like that than beat myself up over the bad comments I get. It's so easy to let the negative stuff get to you though.

aob1013 · Mar 18th, 2010, 16:28 PM

People are just realllllly narrow minded hun xx

lalitas charm · Mar 18th, 2010, 16:35 PM

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Originally Posted by harmonybunny

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Originally Posted by gemsio

i get the same treatment aswell and im 28! I think sometimes health care professionals just get a kick out of making you feel like crap.

Totally agree with this. I'm 27, well educated, devoted to my child 100% and by no means stupid but still my HV speaks to me as if i'm not only deaf but mentally ********. It drives me insane

I think some health care professionals are just like this regardless of your age.

I get the same at 29, I refuse to go to one of the GPs at my practice because he's so patronising like this. He was always like this though, before I had my baby no matter what I went in about he asked me if I was pregnant. "no". "are you sure", "yes, I'm sure", "do you think we should do a test just in case?" "erm, no. Please can I have my physio referral/can you check my throat infection........?"

T-Bex · Mar 18th, 2010, 16:47 PM

Yep, I get this too. I'm 22, but look younger, and get some awful looks and attitude sometimes. Health Care professionals seem to assume I'm stupid, feckless and similar things. Although, my favourite reaction is when they find out I breastfeed AND cloth nappy; you'd have thought I told them I was a fairy princess in a castle made of cheese the face they make!

Kitten · Mar 18th, 2010, 17:10 PM

I think it's really bizarre tbh.

Like has been said, everyone I know who's my age had them at around 20-25, both mine and hubbys parents had us at 24 so to me early twenties has always been 'normal'. These days people are having kids as young as 14 and yet twenty-somethings are called young mums? You'd think we'd be called old these days, you know? It's mental. It made me laugh when One Born Every Minute did their young mum special last week and the two mums were 17 and 23!

dougie · Mar 18th, 2010, 17:14 PM

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Originally Posted by T-Bex

Yep, I get this too. I'm 22, but look younger, and get some awful looks and attitude sometimes. Health Care professionals seem to assume I'm stupid, feckless and similar things. Although, my favourite reaction is when they find out I breastfeed AND cloth nappy; you'd have thought I told them I was a fairy princess in a castle made of cheese the face they make!

i often get this response - describes it to a T!!!
i find it hilarious!

Blah11 · Mar 18th, 2010, 17:18 PM

I was 21 when i had amelie and i've never had it tbh. No one would dare, theyd get a tongue lashing LOL

Mar 18th, 2010, 13:55 PM	#22
purpledahlia Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 14,871	dont worry dougie, Im 24 in June and live at home still, and even my own GRAN and auntie assume i palm my daughter off onto my mum to go out shopping with friends, lunch, dinner, or just out and about. They are all '' what did you do with ava? are YOU TAKING HER?? '' '' oh you are?? '' ''yes.. of course? why wouldnt i? '' '' oh, just thought your mum would have her? '' DOES MY NUT IN. Ive left her twice, for two nights out. Any lunch's or dinners or going to friends houses or shopping or whatever, she comes with me! Its bad when people judge, but its worse when its your own family. maybe we should all wear a badge or soemthing, tell people to stop judging!

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Mar 18th, 2010, 15:25 PM	#23
huggybear Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: London Posts: 1,044	I wish I got this!! I am 32 (and he is my first, saying that I am the youngest out of my babygroups so dont feel too old)

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Mar 18th, 2010, 16:17 PM	#24
Ell87 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Wirral, UK Posts: 792	People are always going to have something to say. I've found I'm starting to ignore the negative looks and comments about me having 4 kids at 22 (Had them at 17, 19, 20 and 22) and focus on the positive. A woman stopped me in the shop the other day to tell me how gorgeous my 4 kiddies were, would much rather concentrate on comments like that than beat myself up over the bad comments I get. It's so easy to let the negative stuff get to you though.

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Mar 18th, 2010, 16:28 PM	#25
aob1013 Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: UK Posts: 10,675	People are just realllllly narrow minded hun xx

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T-Bex Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: North Easterner in Cornwall Posts: 1,993	Yep, I get this too. I'm 22, but look younger, and get some awful looks and attitude sometimes. Health Care professionals seem to assume I'm stupid, feckless and similar things. Although, my favourite reaction is when they find out I breastfeed AND cloth nappy; you'd have thought I told them I was a fairy princess in a castle made of cheese the face they make!

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Mar 18th, 2010, 17:10 PM	#28
Kitten Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Crawley, England Posts: 6,343	I think it's really bizarre tbh. Like has been said, everyone I know who's my age had them at around 20-25, both mine and hubbys parents had us at 24 so to me early twenties has always been 'normal'. These days people are having kids as young as 14 and yet twenty-somethings are called young mums? You'd think we'd be called old these days, you know? It's mental. It made me laugh when One Born Every Minute did their young mum special last week and the two mums were 17 and 23!

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Mar 18th, 2010, 17:18 PM	#30
Blah11 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 32,879	I was 21 when i had amelie and i've never had it tbh. No one would dare, theyd get a tongue lashing LOL

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