Does anyone get 'your a young parent' speech - Page 2

mummytobe · Mar 18th, 2010, 11:32 AM

Totally agree they also judge people of any age.. its just when they start the convo with 'well your a young parent' with that patronising tone.. gets my goat ! lol

Kitten · Mar 18th, 2010, 11:33 AM

I get tutted at in the street, patronising comments etc. When I was heavily pregnant I went to Iceland to get some stuff for the cafe at work. This woman in front of me at the till decided to give me a lovely supportive chat on how hard it was for her to be a single teen mum and how lucky we are with benefits in England (she was Portugese I think). I nodded and smiled politely and refrained to inform her I was a full time working (and studying for my MSc), home owning married 23 year old. I look a lot younger than I am though so get a lot of crap.

mummytobe · Mar 18th, 2010, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Kitten

I get tutted at in the street, patronising comments etc. When I was heavily pregnant I went to Iceland to get some stuff for the cafe at work. This woman in front of me at the till decided to give me a lovely supportive chat on how hard it was for her to be a single teen mum and how lucky we are with benefits in England (she was Portugese I think). I nodded and smiled politely and refrained to inform her I was a full time working (and studying for my MSc), home owning married 23 year old. I look a lot younger than I am though so get a lot of crap.

O goodness i would of hated that !! Why do people assume, it really does my nut in !!

flower01 · Mar 18th, 2010, 12:00 PM

i get that too sometimes and im 24. people seem to forget that back in the way when our mothers had us early twenties was the "normal" age to have kids and you were weird if you had a baby in your late twenties!

you cant win really! grrrr

angelstardust · Mar 18th, 2010, 12:06 PM

Yes well, *flicks hair*, I must look a lot younger than my 28 years because I had this one day in town while out with Amber. She was in her pram crying herself to sleep (she does that) and I was jiggling the pram when this older lady came up to me and said 'that it hen, you just ignore her, you can see shes sleepy, you'll get the hang of this parenting stuff when your both a bit older.'

I said 'well seeing as how she is number 3, I should hope I've gotten the hang of it by now!'

With DS2 I was 20 and never got the young parent thing, with DS2 I was 24 and got it and now with Amber I'm 28 and STILL getting it! Come on!

mummytobe · Mar 18th, 2010, 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted by angelstardust

Yes well, *flicks hair*, I must look a lot younger than my 28 years because I had this one day in town while out with Amber. She was in her pram crying herself to sleep (she does that) and I was jiggling the pram when this older lady came up to me and said 'that it hen, you just ignore her, you can see shes sleepy, you'll get the hang of this parenting stuff when your both a bit older.'

I said 'well seeing as how she is number 3, I should hope I've gotten the hang of it by now!'

With DS2 I was 20 and never got the young parent thing, with DS2 I was 24 and got it and now with Amber I'm 28 and STILL getting it! Come on!

The cheek of the woman !!! On the bright side your looking younger as you get older

angelstardust · Mar 18th, 2010, 12:14 PM

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Originally Posted by mummytobe

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Originally Posted by angelstardust

Yes well, *flicks hair*, I must look a lot younger than my 28 years because I had this one day in town while out with Amber. She was in her pram crying herself to sleep (she does that) and I was jiggling the pram when this older lady came up to me and said 'that it hen, you just ignore her, you can see shes sleepy, you'll get the hang of this parenting stuff when your both a bit older.'

I said 'well seeing as how she is number 3, I should hope I've gotten the hang of it by now!'

With DS2 I was 20 and never got the young parent thing, with DS2 I was 24 and got it and now with Amber I'm 28 and STILL getting it! Come on!

The cheek of the woman !!! On the bright side your looking younger as you get older

Or maybe the bewildered look gets more pronounced with each one!

Becky · Mar 18th, 2010, 12:18 PM

I find I get it worse now Jacob is a bit older! He hasnt sent me grey yet clearly! x

dougie · Mar 18th, 2010, 13:18 PM

me and my OH live with my mom because he is at university nearby and we cant really afford our own home - this CLEARLY means that i palm my son off to his nana 24-7! people dont understand that he is MY baby and i am perfectly capable of looking after him (otherwise i wouldnt have had a baby...!) but because i am soooo young (21) clearly im irresponsible enough to give him to someone else to look after :/

plus i got a dirty look and a tut tut tut when i got ID'd for buying a 15 certificate film when i was heavily pregnant - she was soon shocked when she saw my real age!

AtomicPink · Mar 18th, 2010, 13:30 PM

Its funny how my docs have changed. Mine made a comment regarding TTC at 21(come on I was 21! I miscarried twice and got a new bfp and she said "well if you miscarry again you better start using protection

)

....and now wont dare question me as they know alex was an extreme preemie and have no idea what to say to us.

Mar 18th, 2010, 11:32 AM	#11
mummytobe Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Reading Posts: 1,966	Totally agree they also judge people of any age.. its just when they start the convo with 'well your a young parent' with that patronising tone.. gets my goat ! lol

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Mar 18th, 2010, 11:33 AM	#12
Kitten Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Crawley, England Posts: 6,343	I get tutted at in the street, patronising comments etc. When I was heavily pregnant I went to Iceland to get some stuff for the cafe at work. This woman in front of me at the till decided to give me a lovely supportive chat on how hard it was for her to be a single teen mum and how lucky we are with benefits in England (she was Portugese I think). I nodded and smiled politely and refrained to inform her I was a full time working (and studying for my MSc), home owning married 23 year old. I look a lot younger than I am though so get a lot of crap.

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Mar 18th, 2010, 12:00 PM	#14
flower01 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Fleet, Hampshire Posts: 2,935	i get that too sometimes and im 24. people seem to forget that back in the way when our mothers had us early twenties was the "normal" age to have kids and you were weird if you had a baby in your late twenties! you cant win really! grrrr

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Mar 18th, 2010, 12:06 PM	#15
angelstardust Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ayrshire, Scotland Posts: 2,318	Yes well, flicks hair, I must look a lot younger than my 28 years because I had this one day in town while out with Amber. She was in her pram crying herself to sleep (she does that) and I was jiggling the pram when this older lady came up to me and said 'that it hen, you just ignore her, you can see shes sleepy, you'll get the hang of this parenting stuff when your both a bit older.' I said 'well seeing as how she is number 3, I should hope I've gotten the hang of it by now!' With DS2 I was 20 and never got the young parent thing, with DS2 I was 24 and got it and now with Amber I'm 28 and STILL getting it! Come on!

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Mar 18th, 2010, 12:18 PM	#18
Becky Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Bucks Posts: 3,122	I find I get it worse now Jacob is a bit older! He hasnt sent me grey yet clearly! x

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Mar 18th, 2010, 13:18 PM	#19
dougie Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Leicester Posts: 1,047	me and my OH live with my mom because he is at university nearby and we cant really afford our own home - this CLEARLY means that i palm my son off to his nana 24-7! people dont understand that he is MY baby and i am perfectly capable of looking after him (otherwise i wouldnt have had a baby...!) but because i am soooo young (21) clearly im irresponsible enough to give him to someone else to look after :/ plus i got a dirty look and a tut tut tut when i got ID'd for buying a 15 certificate film when i was heavily pregnant - she was soon shocked when she saw my real age!

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Mar 18th, 2010, 13:30 PM	#20
AtomicPink Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 19,122	Its funny how my docs have changed. Mine made a comment regarding TTC at 21(come on I was 21! I miscarried twice and got a new bfp and she said "well if you miscarry again you better start using protection ) ....and now wont dare question me as they know alex was an extreme preemie and have no idea what to say to us.

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