Just wondering... one child

Oushka · Mar 17th, 2010, 18:41 PM

Im looking for opinions on this.

Do you think its cruel/selfish of the parents or detrimental to a childs up bringing to be an only child?

Emma1980 · Mar 17th, 2010, 18:44 PM

not if they ensure that the child has lots of interaction with other children

helent1983 · Mar 17th, 2010, 18:44 PM

mmm tricky one! I think it is a very personal opinion but for me I would want my LO to have a brother or sister.

WW1 · Mar 17th, 2010, 18:46 PM

I think it's fine to be an only child ~ the key will be to ensure they have plenty of socialising elsewhere.

anothersquish · Mar 17th, 2010, 18:55 PM

I dont think its an issue at all as long as the child gets socialising with other children from mother/baby groups, nursery, school. Not many children are kept in an adult only bubble their entire lives so you pretty much dont have to worry!

cleckner04 · Mar 17th, 2010, 19:08 PM

I agree with the socializing with other children. To teach the importance of sharing, etc. I think it'd be a bit lonely for the child at times. Most of my best childhood memories include my brother and the adventures we'd have.

sun · Mar 17th, 2010, 19:11 PM

I know several only children and they only want one child themselves because they don't like the idea of siblings!

OH and I either want 2 very close in age or just the one. It does worry me about Bun not getting as much attention and opportunity - as we can provide very well for one, but it would be harder with two. We want to make sure we have the resources to let him pursue his goals and get good life experiences

I actually think it's selfish to have a bunch of children you can't provide a good life for!

xx

britneysbitch · Mar 17th, 2010, 19:54 PM

OH and me are only having one, because he has another from a prev relationship and thinks he'd be too old for a third by the time we got around to it lol. I don't mind as I only wanted one anyway.

CatStorey · Mar 18th, 2010, 02:54 AM

Hey hun,

Long time no see :-) Hope your enjoying motherhood! Your lo is super cute x

Anyway, no i dont think it is. I only want one child, although hubby does want another so its going to be tricky!
She already has 2 nieces living close by, then my Sister is due again next week so she will have a nephew very close in age too. Then i make sure we atttend pleanty of groups so she can socialise and make friends there.

When i was younger both my sisters were much older so i did feel quite unconnected to them. But i never felt lonley. I attended lots of after school clubs like Sea Scouts and had many friends there. I will make sure Chloe has the same oppertunities.

lyre · Mar 18th, 2010, 03:50 AM

I've been pondering this too. Most of my childhood memories are with my brother, but then my parents didnt spend that much time with us. I would rather only have one so that I can provide everything he needs, but I also want him to have a friend to share his childhood with and to be there when me and his dad are gone.

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Oushka Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Durham UK Posts: 1,220	Just wondering... one child Im looking for opinions on this. Do you think its cruel/selfish of the parents or detrimental to a childs up bringing to be an only child?

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Emma1980 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Ashton Under Lyne Posts: 3,405	not if they ensure that the child has lots of interaction with other children

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helent1983 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Leeds Posts: 776	mmm tricky one! I think it is a very personal opinion but for me I would want my LO to have a brother or sister.

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anothersquish Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 5,415	I dont think its an issue at all as long as the child gets socialising with other children from mother/baby groups, nursery, school. Not many children are kept in an adult only bubble their entire lives so you pretty much dont have to worry!

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cleckner04 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 21,311	I agree with the socializing with other children. To teach the importance of sharing, etc. I think it'd be a bit lonely for the child at times. Most of my best childhood memories include my brother and the adventures we'd have.

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sun Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 9,978	I know several only children and they only want one child themselves because they don't like the idea of siblings! OH and I either want 2 very close in age or just the one. It does worry me about Bun not getting as much attention and opportunity - as we can provide very well for one, but it would be harder with two. We want to make sure we have the resources to let him pursue his goals and get good life experiences I actually think it's selfish to have a bunch of children you can't provide a good life for! xx

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britneysbitch Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 77	OH and me are only having one, because he has another from a prev relationship and thinks he'd be too old for a third by the time we got around to it lol. I don't mind as I only wanted one anyway.

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CatStorey Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Winchester Posts: 1,242	Hey hun, Long time no see :-) Hope your enjoying motherhood! Your lo is super cute x Anyway, no i dont think it is. I only want one child, although hubby does want another so its going to be tricky! She already has 2 nieces living close by, then my Sister is due again next week so she will have a nephew very close in age too. Then i make sure we atttend pleanty of groups so she can socialise and make friends there. When i was younger both my sisters were much older so i did feel quite unconnected to them. But i never felt lonley. I attended lots of after school clubs like Sea Scouts and had many friends there. I will make sure Chloe has the same oppertunities.

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lyre Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 735	I've been pondering this too. Most of my childhood memories are with my brother, but then my parents didnt spend that much time with us. I would rather only have one so that I can provide everything he needs, but I also want him to have a friend to share his childhood with and to be there when me and his dad are gone.

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