Useless doctors/Midwifes/Nursery Nurses

samsugar7 · Mar 17th, 2010, 17:10 PM

Long story short Jaden is 9 1/2 months old and still refusing to eat solids of any sort. Not sleeping through and really clingy. I have been in touch will all the people mentioned above and basically been told

he should be on stage 2 foods so only feed him them he wont starve himself

dont give him more than 13oz of milk no matter how much he cries

dont give him milk during the night he is old enough to sleep through

As long as he isnt loosing too much weight they wont help apart from the above crap advice. I know it probably is good advice but i dont want to leave him screaming for milk/food(stage 1) for hours in my book is cruel.

As a first time mum i feel utterly useless and like im hitting my head against a brick wall. I want to do whats best for my son but feel cuel.

suzib76 · Mar 17th, 2010, 17:22 PM

im sorry hun i have no idea, im guessing he wont go for finger foods either?

but tbh i dont see how that makes all the docs etc useless

vanessayogini · Mar 17th, 2010, 17:28 PM

if he's not eating solids, he's not ready to. to me it is cruel to not feed him when he is hungry. he sounds like a more "high needs" baby and he shouldn't be treated like "every other baby" because each baby is different. i think you should do what YOU think needs to happen. not what they think. YOU. your baby, your gut.
here is some info about "high needs" babies, perhaps your baby is kind of like these babies: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/T050400.asp

freckleonear · Mar 17th, 2010, 18:00 PM

Aaron didn't eat any solids until 10 months. I just let him breastfeed as much as he needed (he was still waking every 2 hours at night), and offered him finger foods regularly but without any pressure.

He will eat when he's ready, in the meantime I'd ignore their rubbish advice and offer him whatever he wants.

marley2580 · Mar 17th, 2010, 18:22 PM

^ What she said. Kaya was also like this, one day it just clicked. Relax and go with the flow

lisac25 · Mar 18th, 2010, 03:13 AM

hi hunnny, that is really crappy advice you have been given, only 13 oz of milk WTF i thought they still had to have a min of between 18-21 at that age still!!!
my little girl wasnt keen on lumpy food at first, (she would still prefer a puree if i gave it too her aswell lol) have you tried mashed foods yet rather than lumpy, to get your little man used to a diff texture rather than lumps? i found my little girl would tolerate lumps more in foods she really liked aswell like mashed bananna.
you could also try giving a spoon of puree then a spoon of lumps and keep alternating, (although from my exp of working in a nursery some babies to get wise to this lol)
like the others say he will have lumps when he is ready, despite the crappy advic eyou have been given be patient, juts keep trying different foods and textures and he will get used to it eventually, i dont think you need to force him like they suggested though x x x

lisac25 · Mar 18th, 2010, 03:16 AM

oh one more thing my little girl LOVES to eat/try food from my plate i think she thinks she is missing out on something lol, perhaps you could try feeding him food from your plate see if that works x

Mum2b_Claire · Mar 18th, 2010, 10:22 AM

I agree that the advice you have been given is crappy.

I would just offer him some of your food whenever you eat and give him as much milk as he wants. At his age I personally wouldn't push lumpy puree / spoonfeeding.

Mar 17th, 2010, 17:10 PM	#1
samsugar7 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Coventry Posts: 2,263	Useless doctors/Midwifes/Nursery Nurses Long story short Jaden is 9 1/2 months old and still refusing to eat solids of any sort. Not sleeping through and really clingy. I have been in touch will all the people mentioned above and basically been told he should be on stage 2 foods so only feed him them he wont starve himself dont give him more than 13oz of milk no matter how much he cries dont give him milk during the night he is old enough to sleep through As long as he isnt loosing too much weight they wont help apart from the above crap advice. I know it probably is good advice but i dont want to leave him screaming for milk/food(stage 1) for hours in my book is cruel. As a first time mum i feel utterly useless and like im hitting my head against a brick wall. I want to do whats best for my son but feel cuel.

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Mar 17th, 2010, 17:22 PM	#2
suzib76 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 4,693	im sorry hun i have no idea, im guessing he wont go for finger foods either? but tbh i dont see how that makes all the docs etc useless

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Mar 17th, 2010, 17:28 PM	#3
vanessayogini Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 726	if he's not eating solids, he's not ready to. to me it is cruel to not feed him when he is hungry. he sounds like a more "high needs" baby and he shouldn't be treated like "every other baby" because each baby is different. i think you should do what YOU think needs to happen. not what they think. YOU. your baby, your gut. here is some info about "high needs" babies, perhaps your baby is kind of like these babies: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/T050400.asp

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Mar 17th, 2010, 18:00 PM	#4
freckleonear Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Devon Posts: 2,733	Aaron didn't eat any solids until 10 months. I just let him breastfeed as much as he needed (he was still waking every 2 hours at night), and offered him finger foods regularly but without any pressure. He will eat when he's ready, in the meantime I'd ignore their rubbish advice and offer him whatever he wants.

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Mar 17th, 2010, 18:22 PM	#5
marley2580 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Forfar Posts: 6,100	^ What she said. Kaya was also like this, one day it just clicked. Relax and go with the flow

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Mar 18th, 2010, 03:13 AM	#6
lisac25 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: kent, uk Posts: 1,367	hi hunnny, that is really crappy advice you have been given, only 13 oz of milk WTF i thought they still had to have a min of between 18-21 at that age still!!! my little girl wasnt keen on lumpy food at first, (she would still prefer a puree if i gave it too her aswell lol) have you tried mashed foods yet rather than lumpy, to get your little man used to a diff texture rather than lumps? i found my little girl would tolerate lumps more in foods she really liked aswell like mashed bananna. you could also try giving a spoon of puree then a spoon of lumps and keep alternating, (although from my exp of working in a nursery some babies to get wise to this lol) like the others say he will have lumps when he is ready, despite the crappy advic eyou have been given be patient, juts keep trying different foods and textures and he will get used to it eventually, i dont think you need to force him like they suggested though x x x

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Mar 18th, 2010, 03:16 AM	#7
lisac25 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: kent, uk Posts: 1,367	oh one more thing my little girl LOVES to eat/try food from my plate i think she thinks she is missing out on something lol, perhaps you could try feeding him food from your plate see if that works x

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Mar 18th, 2010, 10:22 AM	#8
Mum2b_Claire Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Kent Posts: 13,907	I agree that the advice you have been given is crappy. I would just offer him some of your food whenever you eat and give him as much milk as he wants. At his age I personally wouldn't push lumpy puree / spoonfeeding.

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