I'm a first time mommy and a few days ago we semi hosted a birthday party for my boyfriend at his mothers house. Mostly due to the fact we have three dogs and two are sick, and to include his mother. Well she had a huge chip on her shoulder because I brought my mother with me and gave me major snippy-ness.

Well at one point my baby needed a butt change and her livingroom is very small filled with young children teens and adults. I normally go in a bathroom at guest home because I don't feel comfy changing my daughter infront of everyone. Well his mom home is L shapped and to get to the bathroom we had to get to a closed door that leads to a narrow hallway where the bathroom is at. She told us to change the baby on the couch ERRRR no I said I would change her in the the bathroom and bf was leading me there she nearly ran across the room to stop us and we both stepped around her, she kept insisting to use the couch. Finally bf had to get point blank and tell her no we where changing her in the bathroom (mind u how are guest suppose to use the loo lol)....

Is it wrong to want to change your daughter in private? I mean that my right as a mother to decide where I will change her at, other people where using the bathroom... so was that just her way of being a double jerk to me?

hmmmmmm very odd of her to act like that?! id understand if she was embarrassed if her bathroom was messy but if other people were using it..... i dont get it!

im like you, i have a 4month old girl and ill only change her in private it just seems right to do that! not saying theres perverts in the house i just find it more acceptable!
im odd tho i dont really like her daddy to change he bum i dont know why lol
i just think little girls should be private!

I don't change Hannah in private but I think it's your decision where you feel most comfortable changing your child and your MIL should respect that

Me neither. I change Ethan in the lounge wherever I am! They're only teeny and have nothing to hide. If you don't feel comfortable changing her in front of ppl because you don;t like ppl watching YOU and how you do it then that's understandable, but I don't understand what it is that you would be uncomfortable with ppl seeing on a little baby girl. ott in my opinion but it's up to you where you change her and what you feel comfortable with and I think your mil should respect that - she was just being arsey!

yes i'm with this.

Hi ladies,
I'm a very private person and I didn't feel there where peeping toms or anything its just the fact that is my business where I change my daughter and should have been respected. Her bathroom by the way was perfectly clean. To explain his mom odd behavior I would have to start a long thread in the family section lol. It shouldn't have esclated where everyone stopped and was staring at us, it made us feel so uncomfy. My sister in law has two daughters she the same way but she changed her two boys wherever...

So maybe is my own thing lol, I'm glad to read I'm not the only one who changes her daughter in private.

Oh and honstly when I have a boy I'll also change him in private at other peoples homes.

Is the a complaint form for mother in laws rolf.

If I am at a friends house or my mums I don't mind doing it in the front room...but no way would I do it in public at a party for goodness sake

Anyway it is non of her business what reason you had - if you want to change her in the bathroom then she has absolutely no right to say you cant!

I change my kids anywhere, I don't mind if there are people around, no one stares or anything and if they did they'd get nasty look and a few words from me (unless its a preggy woman because she might just be curios about how to change a diaper). However if we are at a family party at someone's house or something we will take them to a bedroom if they are poopy but thats more so that people don't have to look at/smell poo!

The only reason I wouldn't change on a sofa is because my LO would probably wee everywhere.