well i havent been on posting for a while ladies and i would like to apologise, all i can say is the sqigy stuff has really hit the fan lately when it comes to mine and the oh relationship.

Hes gone back to his old ways, stealing money and treating me like something he has wiped off his shoe, but because of my family being very stricked yesterday became a complete lie!!!

My mum n dad came up and myas god mother was also here. My oh was here to portray the whole everything is ok thing but that was all. Well as usual he didnt want to do anything to help with Mya or the general running of the house, so whilst trying to cook dinner for my family, deal with a cold and running back n forth to the loo because i have a bad tummy upset I also had to look after my lovely daughter. My parents n her god mother are great at the cuddles bt ask them to do a nappy or a feed or try to settel her or play with her forget it!

I didnt get a card from Mya, I didnt get to have a lay in, I didnt get to spend the day relaxing with my LO and i was living a lie the whole time everyone was here. by the time my parents and mya's god mother left at 7.30 i was exhaused, kept being sick and having mega weepoo sessions ( sorry nasty) and was like a snot monster ready to drop.

Now i thought maybe (and this was silly to have even thought) that my oh would have wanted to put mya to bed for me, but no, 10 mins later he said he was going to meet his mates.

I got mya ready for bed and she fell asleep at 9pm, i went down stairs and just looked at the state of my house and burst into tears.

I had an awful day, I was ill (still am), felt like noone would help, didnt get any mothers day treatment at all and no i had to tidy the house and wash up from dinner.

I woke today with mya 'calling me' at 8am bless her she slept so well for me, brought her down stairs fed her and she went back to sleep, she seems as tired as me today and i am now worried i may have passed my cold and bug onto her.

I tell you one thing i wont forget my first mothers day!!!

sorry you're having a crap time.

Ahh So sorry to hear about your horrilbe day hun!

why didn't your mum offer to help you with dinner if she saw you were doing EVERYTHING!!

some people just think your super woman!

Have you talked to your OH about him not helping? or sat down and had a chat about you clearly not working relationship.

i got a bit mad at my OH a few days ago. he doesn't do nappys feeds, and some times cuddles.
hes just got a ps3 and spends all his time on it! (however he doesn make my tea and work all day!) but no excuse!

i had a really big moan and him, and he said he didn't understand how i felt, and since then, hes been helping bath, change and feed him, also spends his time after josh goes to bed with me, and waits till i go to sleep to play his games

maybe something like this woul help your OH? maybe decide times when he see's his friends, cause in the end your not seeing your friends, your stuck at home with your little girl, and she is both your responsibiltys!

xx

Sorry to hear things arent goin well with ur OH. Hope ur feeling better soon.

I'm sorry hun that sounds like a real crap day... your oh could of tryed to make you feel sepecial xx

he doesnt do nething at all. he is 33 jobless n sits on his butt all day playing video games then steals money from my purse, so i had to stop keeping money in the house, when i did that he took my bank card snuck out the house at 3am n took all my money out the bank!!!

he wont spend ne time with mya, spits on food i spend hours making for him, shouts at me 4 no reason n is a general pig to me. no amount of talking helps.

Oh hunny, and you had such a difficult pregnancy and labour. The last thing you need is a lack of support from your OH.

When my LO was born everything went to shit. He did nothing to help and only played happy family when friends or family were over. The first week after LO was born he refused to buy food for the house and I was extremely unwell from the birth and he just let me starve. Didn't help AT ALL with LO and I was so weak I could barely feed her. Three days after I had LO we got into a fight about him not providing for me and LO and he hit me while I was crying on the sofa resulting in the police arresting him and here we are today, team single mummy.

The point of me blabbering on is really just so you know you aren't alone, and I know things get tough and really test your strength. In my case, I had no choice but to end the relationship and move out for LO safety.

But remember the most important key to parenting, a happy mummy is a happy baby. Talk to your family or close friends. I would always suggest to try and work things out first and foremost but I remember how hard it was when OH was around but not helping out, I just felt like I would be better off if he wasn't there at all!

If you need to chat or even just vent to someone who doesn't know you or OH and is completely unbiased, then please PM me.

i dont mean to sound nasty about ur OH but why are u still with him? he's stealing money from YOUR purse and bank account that i'm sure u need for ur beautiful daughter!!! if i were u i would tell him to sort himself out or leave him!!! and hope it all gets sorted for u!! and happy mothers day for yesterday!!

Sorry hun, that sounds awful.....

He took ALL your money?
Jeez, you are incredibly strong to put up with all that!
Im sorry your mothers day went like that, so nice of LO to give you a bit of sleep, hope she doesnt have the bug