I wont forget my 1st mothers day but not for good reasons - Page 2

flowers04 · Mar 15th, 2010, 12:25 PM

ahh bless you - hope you feel better soon - big hugs to you x

BBonBoard · Mar 15th, 2010, 12:35 PM

Awwww. I'm sorry you had such a terrible mothers day. I hope you feel better soon.

Hollys_Twinny · Mar 15th, 2010, 12:38 PM

eddjanuary10 · Mar 15th, 2010, 14:09 PM

awww hun, you shouldnt put up with that you deserve much more and so does your lovely little girl. xx

lyre · Mar 15th, 2010, 14:14 PM

get rid of him, you could be with something who appreciates and looks after you x

Mize1982 · Mar 15th, 2010, 16:55 PM

thank you ladies, n i hear what your all saying on the get rid thing, its not good for mya to be an enviroment like this atm, n i dont want her having a childhood like mine. I just need to find the strengh to do it all but with how crap i feel right now i just havent got it.

he was like this in my pregnancy and i stupidly believed he had changed!!!

i'm off to bed now, feel totally crap x

diz · Mar 15th, 2010, 17:07 PM

oh honey i'm so sorry x

jennifer89 · Mar 15th, 2010, 17:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Mize1982

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Originally Posted by jennifer89

Ahh

So sorry to hear about your horrilbe day hun!

why didn't your mum offer to help you with dinner if she saw you were doing EVERYTHING!!

some people just think your super woman!

Have you talked to your OH about him not helping? or sat down and had a chat about you clearly not working relationship.

i got a bit mad at my OH a few days ago. he doesn't do nappys feeds, and some times cuddles.
hes just got a ps3 and spends all his time on it! (however he doesn make my tea and work all day!) but no excuse!

i had a really big moan and him, and he said he didn't understand how i felt, and since then, hes been helping bath, change and feed him, also spends his time after josh goes to bed with me, and waits till i go to sleep to play his games

maybe something like this woul help your OH? maybe decide times when he see's his friends, cause in the end your not seeing your friends, your stuck at home with your little girl, and she is both your responsibiltys!

xx

he doesnt do nething at all. he is 33 jobless n sits on his butt all day playing video games then steals money from my purse, so i had to stop keeping money in the house, when i did that he took my bank card snuck out the house at 3am n took all my money out the bank!!!

he wont spend ne time with mya, spits on food i spend hours making for him, shouts at me 4 no reason n is a general pig to me. no amount of talking helps.

I Know its the last thing in the world you want to do right now, but is there anyones house you could stay at for a few days? just while you get rid of your sickness, someone who can help you out with Mya?

You clearly need your rest, and you don't need some lazy man taking all your money off you that you earn and draining you for no reason hun!

if you lived near me i'd take you in and help you! ban you too bed rest and look after your LO while you get better!

Change the PIN on your bank card too!

Your OH sounds like a real Jerk and you deserve soooo much better!

Hugs!

Mize1982 · Mar 16th, 2010, 07:39 AM

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Originally Posted by jennifer89

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Originally Posted by Mize1982

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Originally Posted by jennifer89

Ahh

So sorry to hear about your horrilbe day hun!

why didn't your mum offer to help you with dinner if she saw you were doing EVERYTHING!!

some people just think your super woman!

Have you talked to your OH about him not helping? or sat down and had a chat about you clearly not working relationship.

i got a bit mad at my OH a few days ago. he doesn't do nappys feeds, and some times cuddles.
hes just got a ps3 and spends all his time on it! (however he doesn make my tea and work all day!) but no excuse!

i had a really big moan and him, and he said he didn't understand how i felt, and since then, hes been helping bath, change and feed him, also spends his time after josh goes to bed with me, and waits till i go to sleep to play his games

maybe something like this woul help your OH? maybe decide times when he see's his friends, cause in the end your not seeing your friends, your stuck at home with your little girl, and she is both your responsibiltys!

xx

he doesnt do nething at all. he is 33 jobless n sits on his butt all day playing video games then steals money from my purse, so i had to stop keeping money in the house, when i did that he took my bank card snuck out the house at 3am n took all my money out the bank!!!

he wont spend ne time with mya, spits on food i spend hours making for him, shouts at me 4 no reason n is a general pig to me. no amount of talking helps.

I Know its the last thing in the world you want to do right now, but is there anyones house you could stay at for a few days? just while you get rid of your sickness, someone who can help you out with Mya?

You clearly need your rest, and you don't need some lazy man taking all your money off you that you earn and draining you for no reason hun!

if you lived near me i'd take you in and help you! ban you too bed rest and look after your LO while you get better!

Change the PIN on your bank card too!

Your OH sounds like a real Jerk and you deserve soooo much better!

Hugs!

thank you hun your really sweet, unfortunatly my nearest friend is over 90 miles away i moved to luton a couple of years back and really want to make the move back south but financially its not possible.

Also this is my house, the tenancy is in my name so i dont really wanna leave its him that should go you know, when i was pregnant i moved here after me n oh split due to his behaviour but after a while i took him back as i thought he had changed.

I have changed my pin number and spent yesterday ringing round all my income people and changing payments into another account i have that he doesnt know about. I wouldnt mind giving him the odd bit of cash if he asked its the fact he steals it n the incident with the 3am cash machien trip left me with nothing and when i went to get teething gel i couldnt.

lalitas charm · Mar 16th, 2010, 08:09 AM

Awww mize I remember what your oh did while you were preg. I really think you need to throw him out. Stealing your money is unacceptable at any time but right now priorities are different and you need your money for your gorgeous baby. It is completely wrong that he took money and a little baby had to do without relief for her sore mouth, that is the height of selfishness. I think you need to tell your mum and mya's god mother what is happening, all you are doing is making him look like he is a better dad and oh than he really is and perhaps by hiding the situation with your oh you are denying yourself some help and support.

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flowers04 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 270	ahh bless you - hope you feel better soon - big hugs to you x

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BBonBoard Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Central California Posts: 2,981	Awwww. I'm sorry you had such a terrible mothers day. I hope you feel better soon.

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eddjanuary10 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Glasgow Posts: 2,087	awww hun, you shouldnt put up with that you deserve much more and so does your lovely little girl. xx

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lyre Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 735	get rid of him, you could be with something who appreciates and looks after you x

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Mize1982 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Chessington, Surrey. Posts: 1,379	thank you ladies, n i hear what your all saying on the get rid thing, its not good for mya to be an enviroment like this atm, n i dont want her having a childhood like mine. I just need to find the strengh to do it all but with how crap i feel right now i just havent got it. he was like this in my pregnancy and i stupidly believed he had changed!!! i'm off to bed now, feel totally crap x

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Mar 15th, 2010, 17:07 PM	#17
diz Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: North Wales Posts: 1,574	oh honey i'm so sorry x

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Mar 16th, 2010, 08:09 AM	#20
lalitas charm Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 3,415	Awww mize I remember what your oh did while you were preg. I really think you need to throw him out. Stealing your money is unacceptable at any time but right now priorities are different and you need your money for your gorgeous baby. It is completely wrong that he took money and a little baby had to do without relief for her sore mouth, that is the height of selfishness. I think you need to tell your mum and mya's god mother what is happening, all you are doing is making him look like he is a better dad and oh than he really is and perhaps by hiding the situation with your oh you are denying yourself some help and support.

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