Sorry ladies, this is a bit of a whining thread but I'm feeling pretty miserable right now and I have nobody else to talk to about it

So yesterday was my first ever mothers day and I'd been looking forward to it for ages hoping my DH was going to spoil me just a little bit and make me feel special - he knows I've been having a really hard time recently (starting to think I may have a bit of PND), I've been full of cold all week, baby has been miserable and I've been feeling very alone as not really got any friends up here and my family all live miles away.

All I got from for mothers day was a card and a bag of chocolate buttons Now I know he only got the card on Saturday as he went off for 2 minutes whilst we were out shopping and I suspect the buttons were bought as a last minute thought from the local shop on the way to the pub on Saturday night. Now the local shop has lots of lovely "mothers day" chocolates on display so it's not like he had no choice

And then to top it off he then spent all day in his office working (I know he is very busy at work at the moment) but he still found time to go for a run, ring his mum for half an hour, his brother for an hour and he spent no time with me whatsover. I spent the entire day just by myself with Z - we went to the shops together and I felt so sad as everywhere I looked were happy families out together and I was just by myself with my baby - same as every other day.

I feel horribly ungrateful but it just seems wrong that he made absolutely no effort to make me feel the slightest bit special yesterday - it's fine for him to spend £30 on a big bunch of flowers for his mum but I get a £1 bag of chocolate buttons!

I spoke to my mum yesterday and she was asking if Z had for me any nice flowers etc so I just told her she had got me some lovely chocolates as I felt I was being disloyal to DH by saying anything else. My entire family (2 sisters with their partners and kids, 2 brothers with partners) were all together yesterday for a family meal 200 miles away and it sounded like they were having a lovely time and I was stuck here miles away from them by myself with baby whilst DH was in his office working.

I'm so upset right now and I just don't know what to do about it

Thanks for listening - I just needed to get it off my chest to at least someone

Aw hun, big hugs!!
My OH didn't do anything for mother's day either - all I got was a phone call in the morning (he was in work overnight on Saturday night). I thought he might be planning to cook me a nice dinner when he got home but no such luck, we had frozen pizza. He is very busy at the moment too as he is entering a classical guitar competition this Wednesday and he spent the whole evening upstairs practicing. It does make me feel a bit sad that there was no-one to make a fuss of me and it was just a day the same as any other day.

Yes u have the right to be upset, but some men doesnt really knw what to get u (DH never knew). Our mother's day is on the 21st, so we went out yesterday & showed him what I want, & asked him to book in a nice restuarant (I might choose it myself) to celebrate with our LO.

I did the same for our anniversary last yr, & i also chose my delivery present.

Dont be so hard on him, I think he really doesnt knw, u can pointed out but in a nice way. & my advise dont go through the MIL comparison.

poor you hun
Men really don't think the same as we do.
It's horrible when our expectations aren't met : (
It is our special day and we do deserve a bit of TLC.

I only got a card but my OH doesn't get a prezzie for his own mum. I did get a lie though which was better than a present!

I'd tell him senstively that you are disappointed and you woul dlike a bit more next time.
May be he didn't realise how much it meant to you.

Men do need things spelling out in black and white...

give him a chance to make up to you , perhaps next weekend?


big hugs
xxx

Aww Hun I would be upset too, I think sometimes men don't think, my mum got me some pressys of kam because martn wouldn't (I'm not his mum apparently!) I think the bit I'd be most upset about is him buying the flowers for his mum and not me too. I hope ur ok and I'm sure as ur LO gets older You will enjoy all the lovely pressys she picks for you xxx

Well he could of just got two £30 bunches of flowers, i see your point. I would feel sad if the day had gone like that for me too. Maybe just talk to him about it, men do need 'guided' at times.. teehee, Hope today is a bit better, and if you think you have PND maybe go see your doctor or speak to HV.

aww hun, i know how you feel as i only got a card and a pair of socks lol. You have every right to be upset as it was your 1st mothers day and you deserved to be spoilt!! Silly OHs they are clueless i think xxx

awwwww well i think i would be quite unimpressed too. I do understand when people are working and things its hard to get time but if he can make time for his mother to have flowers then he can make time for you!! Id be letting him know that aswel

xxx

I think you have every right to be upset! Mine was much the same, we went out and DH asked me to help pick flowers for HIS MUM, didnt bother about me!!

Men, their all pigs at times!! *hugs*

aww hun, my day was just the same as any other day aswell. the same with xmas - didnt even get a card from lo - nothing! men just dont think/feel the same as us. my oh thinks getting a card for someone is pointless as 'you read it then chuck it' MEN EH!!