Mothers Day - Am I an ungrateful cow or do I have a right to be upset by this? - Page 5

sobersadie · Mar 16th, 2010, 10:58 AM

Aaw, thats crap

If he has the money to get his mum flowers then he should have got you some too at the very least!! My hubby is redundant at the moment so i wasnt expecting to be bought anything but he made me breakfast in bed, did all the housework and did lunch and dinner for us all then bathed the 3 kids for bed (which to be honest i wud rather have anyway). My 2 eldest had made me mothers day cards at school and nursery. I think you shud be honest with him and tell him how hurt you are by what he did and if he doesnt get the message then make sure on Fathers Day that you leave the baby with him all day and go out enjoy yourself!

Oushka · Mar 16th, 2010, 11:59 AM

Our day was pretty similar

you definately have a reason to be upset - men just dont understand. N mentioned how he hadnt had to buy the ex-wife a card this year as the kids are old enough to sort it themselves... he said this at 3.30pm on sunday, when Id not even had a card. He did dash out and bought things but the damage was done & he's still paying for it now

Even tho he's trying to make up for it I still feel like he tarnished my first mothers day & should have made an effort.

We've been saying for ages we should meet for coffee, I dont have any friends with babies so quite often feel like you, alone & a bit forgotton.

I will msg you and we will make a firm date - maybe venture over to the metro centre? (for a bit of plastic fantastic?!)
re: PND Dont let yourself become too down, Ive had depression in the past and its easy to let the little things mount up - def see GP if you feel you need support, dont put it off, the sooner you talk to someone the sooner you can start to feel better.

Foogirl · Mar 16th, 2010, 19:58 PM

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Originally Posted by sobersadie

Aaw, thats crap

If he has the money to get his mum flowers then he should have got you some too at the very least!! My hubby is redundant at the moment so i wasnt expecting to be bought anything but he made me breakfast in bed, did all the housework and did lunch and dinner for us all then bathed the 3 kids for bed (which to be honest i wud rather have anyway).

That's what mothers day is about for me. Not so much cards and flowers, but a day off from doing everything you would normally do!

Tsia · Mar 16th, 2010, 21:03 PM

no I would be upset too.

My OH is KNOWN for unthoughtfullness.. so on the lead up to mothers day I kept asking mylo out loud so OH could hear what he was getting his mummy and would he make her feel special etc etc.. knowing OH could hear me.

Cos I knew FOR A FACT that if I didnt do that.. I wouldnt have got much at all.

I got a bunch of £3.99 flowers from sainsburys ( yes he left the tag on!)
a cvard.. with scribble from a 7 month old son! lol- (so cute) and a mini teddy bear saying mum.
That was enough for me.. i cried i did! then he tookj me , myloo and his MUM for a meal all together! fine.. it was ok I spose.. would rather just us three if was honest.

nice mothers day for my first.. could have been alot worse.. all birthdays and xmases and valentines are always crap so he surcommed himself! (is that a word? had too many baileys now! lol )

porkypig · Mar 17th, 2010, 09:15 AM

i only got a card too i was really angry as it was my first mothers day i thought he would have made an effort, what made it worse was that sunday morn we spent £50 worth of flowers for our mums and nans and i didnt even get so much as a petal. i let him know big time but its past now, still really angry, my revenge will be not getting anything for fathers day, ill try and find the smallest card i can find xxx

Mar 16th, 2010, 10:58 AM	#41
sobersadie Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: East Kilbride Posts: 901	Aaw, thats crap If he has the money to get his mum flowers then he should have got you some too at the very least!! My hubby is redundant at the moment so i wasnt expecting to be bought anything but he made me breakfast in bed, did all the housework and did lunch and dinner for us all then bathed the 3 kids for bed (which to be honest i wud rather have anyway). My 2 eldest had made me mothers day cards at school and nursery. I think you shud be honest with him and tell him how hurt you are by what he did and if he doesnt get the message then make sure on Fathers Day that you leave the baby with him all day and go out enjoy yourself!

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Mar 16th, 2010, 11:59 AM	#42
Oushka Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Durham UK Posts: 1,220	Our day was pretty similar you definately have a reason to be upset - men just dont understand. N mentioned how he hadnt had to buy the ex-wife a card this year as the kids are old enough to sort it themselves... he said this at 3.30pm on sunday, when Id not even had a card. He did dash out and bought things but the damage was done & he's still paying for it now Even tho he's trying to make up for it I still feel like he tarnished my first mothers day & should have made an effort. We've been saying for ages we should meet for coffee, I dont have any friends with babies so quite often feel like you, alone & a bit forgotton. I will msg you and we will make a firm date - maybe venture over to the metro centre? (for a bit of plastic fantastic?!) re: PND Dont let yourself become too down, Ive had depression in the past and its easy to let the little things mount up - def see GP if you feel you need support, dont put it off, the sooner you talk to someone the sooner you can start to feel better.

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Mar 16th, 2010, 21:03 PM	#44
Tsia Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Spalding, Lincs UK Posts: 5,124	no I would be upset too. My OH is KNOWN for unthoughtfullness.. so on the lead up to mothers day I kept asking mylo out loud so OH could hear what he was getting his mummy and would he make her feel special etc etc.. knowing OH could hear me. Cos I knew FOR A FACT that if I didnt do that.. I wouldnt have got much at all. I got a bunch of £3.99 flowers from sainsburys ( yes he left the tag on!) a cvard.. with scribble from a 7 month old son! lol- (so cute) and a mini teddy bear saying mum. That was enough for me.. i cried i did! then he tookj me , myloo and his MUM for a meal all together! fine.. it was ok I spose.. would rather just us three if was honest. nice mothers day for my first.. could have been alot worse.. all birthdays and xmases and valentines are always crap so he surcommed himself! (is that a word? had too many baileys now! lol )

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Mar 17th, 2010, 09:15 AM	#45
porkypig Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 3,309	i only got a card too i was really angry as it was my first mothers day i thought he would have made an effort, what made it worse was that sunday morn we spent £50 worth of flowers for our mums and nans and i didnt even get so much as a petal. i let him know big time but its past now, still really angry, my revenge will be not getting anything for fathers day, ill try and find the smallest card i can find xxx

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