Mothers Day - Am I an ungrateful cow or do I have a right to be upset by this? - Page 2

laurajo24 · Mar 15th, 2010, 07:36 AM

my OH did lots of lovely things for me yesterday but i've been saying for weeks that all i wanted was a mug thats says mummy on it as he already as one with daddy on. I know its really silly but i was really upset when he gave me a cheapo photo album (with no pics in it!) instead. I have been banging on about this mug for weeks!!!! seriously - they're only a couple of pounds from the supermarket.

i know i'm lucky that OH bothered at all but i just wish he'd listen and also realise when i'm upset. he didn't realise at all that i was gutted.

i want my mug!!!! i think i'll have to get it myself now....

angelae36 · Mar 15th, 2010, 07:45 AM

I have 3 children - 4 if you count hubby.
Not 1 thought to get me anything and my eldest children are 18 and 13!

amazed · Mar 15th, 2010, 07:48 AM

I'm sorry hun... i think its pretty mean of him xx

topazicatzbet · Mar 15th, 2010, 08:04 AM

awe hun, i would be upset too given that he got his mum such an expensive bunch of flowers.

as you know i dont have an oh so mum stepped up and got me something bless her.

does hubby know how you are generally feeling can you talk it all through with him.

Bingo · Mar 15th, 2010, 08:05 AM

Yes you have every right to be upset. I tell you if my other half doesn't get me a pressie, flowers or lovely chocs for my first mother's day next year he will know about it. I will be hinting well in advance! I think next time you should say to your baby when other half is in hearing distance "what have you and daddy got planned for mummy on her special day next week?" or something similar.

milkmachine · Mar 15th, 2010, 08:43 AM

i didnt get anything for either of the mothers days that i have had and i would have been happy with the choc buttons. at least you were thought about :-)

suzib76 · Mar 15th, 2010, 08:48 AM

i think he probably didnt realise - they are proper muppets when it comes to things like this

i was in tesco with my dh the other day and i actually put things in the trolley for the kids to give me and told him to sort it out - so yeah i bought my own lol

but it wasnt becasue i wanted anything, but Jack & Leah wanted to give me something iykwim

anita123 · Mar 15th, 2010, 08:59 AM

i think u have every right to be upset about it!! men just dont seem to understand. i dont have kids yet but i'd like to think my OH would do somethin special!!! all u can do is remember the way he was with u when it comes round to fathers day and just do the same to him!!! if he says anythin about it just say "now u know how i felt"!!!

Connah'sMommy · Mar 15th, 2010, 09:01 AM

Aw hun i can sypathise. My OH got me a card from connah but nothing else. I mean,im greatfull for it,i really am but i though he was going to make an effort since it was my first one

sometimes men dont realise how much it means to us. With my OH,i doesnt mean much to give cards and gifts on mother/fathers day etc but to me it does and when you have everyone asking 'what did you get for mothers day?' i was a little dissapointed to only be able to say...'a card'

Bumpontherun · Mar 15th, 2010, 09:03 AM

It's funny, my OH is so rubbish at these things that I was over the moon to get a card with my tea and toast in bed! He'd signed it from Helen in little wobbly writing and I have to say it brought a wee tear to my eye!

TBH I don't really believe in mothers day, my mum doesn't either. When Helen is older I would love a home made card but I don't really expect a big fuss. I would have been sad to spend any Sunday all by myself though, I really value our family time and love having company at weekends.

Mar 15th, 2010, 07:36 AM	#11
laurajo24 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 927	my OH did lots of lovely things for me yesterday but i've been saying for weeks that all i wanted was a mug thats says mummy on it as he already as one with daddy on. I know its really silly but i was really upset when he gave me a cheapo photo album (with no pics in it!) instead. I have been banging on about this mug for weeks!!!! seriously - they're only a couple of pounds from the supermarket. i know i'm lucky that OH bothered at all but i just wish he'd listen and also realise when i'm upset. he didn't realise at all that i was gutted. i want my mug!!!! i think i'll have to get it myself now....

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Mar 15th, 2010, 07:45 AM	#12
angelae36 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Sunny Doncaster Posts: 376	I have 3 children - 4 if you count hubby. Not 1 thought to get me anything and my eldest children are 18 and 13!

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Mar 15th, 2010, 07:48 AM	#13
amazed Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Warwickshire,uk Posts: 5,379	I'm sorry hun... i think its pretty mean of him xx

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Mar 15th, 2010, 08:04 AM	#14
topazicatzbet Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: leeds Posts: 6,905	awe hun, i would be upset too given that he got his mum such an expensive bunch of flowers. as you know i dont have an oh so mum stepped up and got me something bless her. does hubby know how you are generally feeling can you talk it all through with him.

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Mar 15th, 2010, 08:05 AM	#15
Bingo Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,667	Yes you have every right to be upset. I tell you if my other half doesn't get me a pressie, flowers or lovely chocs for my first mother's day next year he will know about it. I will be hinting well in advance! I think next time you should say to your baby when other half is in hearing distance "what have you and daddy got planned for mummy on her special day next week?" or something similar.

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Mar 15th, 2010, 08:43 AM	#16
milkmachine Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 2,450	i didnt get anything for either of the mothers days that i have had and i would have been happy with the choc buttons. at least you were thought about :-)

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Mar 15th, 2010, 08:48 AM	#17
suzib76 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 4,695	i think he probably didnt realise - they are proper muppets when it comes to things like this i was in tesco with my dh the other day and i actually put things in the trolley for the kids to give me and told him to sort it out - so yeah i bought my own lol but it wasnt becasue i wanted anything, but Jack & Leah wanted to give me something iykwim

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Mar 15th, 2010, 08:59 AM	#18
anita123 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Manchester Posts: 627	i think u have every right to be upset about it!! men just dont seem to understand. i dont have kids yet but i'd like to think my OH would do somethin special!!! all u can do is remember the way he was with u when it comes round to fathers day and just do the same to him!!! if he says anythin about it just say "now u know how i felt"!!!

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Mar 15th, 2010, 09:01 AM	#19
Connah'sMommy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: South Yorkshire Posts: 5,667	Aw hun i can sypathise. My OH got me a card from connah but nothing else. I mean,im greatfull for it,i really am but i though he was going to make an effort since it was my first one sometimes men dont realise how much it means to us. With my OH,i doesnt mean much to give cards and gifts on mother/fathers day etc but to me it does and when you have everyone asking 'what did you get for mothers day?' i was a little dissapointed to only be able to say...'a card'

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Mar 15th, 2010, 09:03 AM	#20
Bumpontherun Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Inner Hebrides Posts: 1,205	It's funny, my OH is so rubbish at these things that I was over the moon to get a card with my tea and toast in bed! He'd signed it from Helen in little wobbly writing and I have to say it brought a wee tear to my eye! TBH I don't really believe in mothers day, my mum doesn't either. When Helen is older I would love a home made card but I don't really expect a big fuss. I would have been sad to spend any Sunday all by myself though, I really value our family time and love having company at weekends.

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