This is going to sound silly but leaving her is too hard :(

Mum2b_Claire · Mar 10th, 2010, 03:22 AM

I'm going back to work at the end of April, 3 days a week, and we have found a nice childminder to look after her.

We've visited her a few times, and I'm supposed to go out and leave Ruby for a bit....but I can't do it! My childminder now thinks I'm having doubts about her suitability which I'm not. I just can't bear to leave Ruby! I cry my eyes out at the thought of Ruby being upset and me not being there.

Did anyone else feel like this at the start? Please tell me you get used to it and it feels ok eventually! I don't think I'd be any use at work feeling completely devastated.

Mummy~L · Mar 10th, 2010, 03:28 AM

No advice hun but just wanted to give you

I dread the thought of going back to work and leving Bobby! It makes me upset thinking about it. Sad I know!

xxxxxxxxx

LouiseClare · Mar 10th, 2010, 03:47 AM

I started back at work on Monday, I work 2-3 days aweek, 7am until 3pm. I was dreading coming back, I felt really emotional over the weekend and had a little cry when I put Ben to bed on Sunday night, but it's ok now, it does get easier, today is my 3rd day of working and I can't wait to finish at 3pm and pick my little boy up, then I've got 4 whole days to spend with him until I come to back work on Monday but it's only for 2 days next week so it's not too bad. So yes it does get easier, just amuse yourself on baby and bump, that's what i'm doing at the moment.

anothersquish · Mar 10th, 2010, 03:47 AM

Oh lordy, all the time! I was so upset the first time I left my son at nursery, I cried for about three hours, just couldnt get a grip at all! I rushed back to pick him up early that first day and he looked up, smiled at me and carried on playing with his new friends, I felt like a right plonker as Im stood there sobbing and apologising to him for leaving him and hes having a GREAT time! It was pretty rough but you do adjust, once you see them making friends and having a lovely time you realise its good for them to be in a happy environment without you. We suffer WAY more than they do!!!
I still get the odd pulled heart string moment when my son goes to school and comes to give me a kiss and hug goodbye and does his "love you mummy" bit as I just want to hug him and not let him go but really Im just proud that he enjoys himself

Lucy_lu_84 · Mar 10th, 2010, 04:12 AM

its normal Im back now 5 days a weeek 4 hours a day and every day i HATE leaving him but it gets easier and tbh I am kinda enjoying all the adult conversation. Had such a giggle yesterday that it makes it easier. Coming home and seeing him is the BEST bit tho

Kitten · Mar 10th, 2010, 04:15 AM

Yeah I've been having panic attacks. I took him to the childminder for an hour last week and he didn't even notice I'd gone!! He cries if I leave the bloody room at home. I've come round to thinking that he needs to socialise & he'll enjoy the change of scenery etc. I'll tell myself anything lol.

pinkmummy · Mar 10th, 2010, 04:52 AM

Its totally normal hun

I am looking for an apprenticeship which will be 5 days a week 9-5 and I am dreading it

But I know it will help Thomas as he is a really clingy baby and he needs to interact with other kids I think xx

flower01 · Mar 10th, 2010, 04:57 AM

im going back in May but in the evenings so i wont even have to put Willow in a nursery she will be at home with her daddy but im still dreading it! i dont want to miss out on 4 hours a day everyday! now thats mad! lol

i hope it will get easier hun and im sure it will, but it will be hard for the first few weeks at least!
xx

Mum2b_Claire · Mar 10th, 2010, 05:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Kitten

Yeah I've been having panic attacks. I took him to the childminder for an hour last week and he didn't even notice I'd gone!! He cries if I leave the bloody room at home. I've come round to thinking that he needs to socialise & he'll enjoy the change of scenery etc. I'll tell myself anything lol.

Ruby's childminder said a lot of children are like that! I'm worried that won't be the case with Ruby because she isn't clingy to me at home AT ALL but she can be when we're out. It's so random. Some days she wants to go to anyone but other days she just buries her face into me and hides!

I guess that shows she's got stranger anxiety rather than separation anxiety which should mean that her being upset at the childminders won't last long. I hope anyway!!

Thanks for the support girls.

EmilyBDS · Mar 10th, 2010, 05:32 AM

It is hard at first but it does get easier. I only had 3 months maternity leave so Lena was to be put in nursery from 12 weeks old so that I could return to work from 8-5 five days a week. My mum took vacation for 3 weeks so that she entered when she was 15 weeks instead. I cried my eyes out the night before while packing her nursery bag and I was a wreck at work that first day but things slowly improved. Now, she loves going and holds out her hand to the 'aunties' when I drop her off and is the most social lil creature. The best part of the day is coming home to her though but I must admit the adult interaction is great for me too.

Mar 10th, 2010, 03:22 AM	#1
Mum2b_Claire Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Kent Posts: 13,907	This is going to sound silly but leaving her is too hard :( I'm going back to work at the end of April, 3 days a week, and we have found a nice childminder to look after her. We've visited her a few times, and I'm supposed to go out and leave Ruby for a bit....but I can't do it! My childminder now thinks I'm having doubts about her suitability which I'm not. I just can't bear to leave Ruby! I cry my eyes out at the thought of Ruby being upset and me not being there. Did anyone else feel like this at the start? Please tell me you get used to it and it feels ok eventually! I don't think I'd be any use at work feeling completely devastated.

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Mar 10th, 2010, 03:28 AM	#2
Mummy~L Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 3,365	No advice hun but just wanted to give you I dread the thought of going back to work and leving Bobby! It makes me upset thinking about it. Sad I know! xxxxxxxxx

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Mar 10th, 2010, 03:47 AM	#3
LouiseClare Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Melton Mowbray Posts: 784	I started back at work on Monday, I work 2-3 days aweek, 7am until 3pm. I was dreading coming back, I felt really emotional over the weekend and had a little cry when I put Ben to bed on Sunday night, but it's ok now, it does get easier, today is my 3rd day of working and I can't wait to finish at 3pm and pick my little boy up, then I've got 4 whole days to spend with him until I come to back work on Monday but it's only for 2 days next week so it's not too bad. So yes it does get easier, just amuse yourself on baby and bump, that's what i'm doing at the moment.

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Mar 10th, 2010, 03:47 AM	#4
anothersquish Mum (Mom) Inactive Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 5,415	Oh lordy, all the time! I was so upset the first time I left my son at nursery, I cried for about three hours, just couldnt get a grip at all! I rushed back to pick him up early that first day and he looked up, smiled at me and carried on playing with his new friends, I felt like a right plonker as Im stood there sobbing and apologising to him for leaving him and hes having a GREAT time! It was pretty rough but you do adjust, once you see them making friends and having a lovely time you realise its good for them to be in a happy environment without you. We suffer WAY more than they do!!! I still get the odd pulled heart string moment when my son goes to school and comes to give me a kiss and hug goodbye and does his "love you mummy" bit as I just want to hug him and not let him go but really Im just proud that he enjoys himself

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Mar 10th, 2010, 04:12 AM	#5
Lucy_lu_84 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Rugby Posts: 3,622	its normal Im back now 5 days a weeek 4 hours a day and every day i HATE leaving him but it gets easier and tbh I am kinda enjoying all the adult conversation. Had such a giggle yesterday that it makes it easier. Coming home and seeing him is the BEST bit tho

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Mar 10th, 2010, 04:15 AM	#6
Kitten Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Crawley, England Posts: 6,343	Yeah I've been having panic attacks. I took him to the childminder for an hour last week and he didn't even notice I'd gone!! He cries if I leave the bloody room at home. I've come round to thinking that he needs to socialise & he'll enjoy the change of scenery etc. I'll tell myself anything lol.

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Mar 10th, 2010, 04:52 AM	#7
pinkmummy Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: UK Posts: 7,417	Its totally normal hun I am looking for an apprenticeship which will be 5 days a week 9-5 and I am dreading it But I know it will help Thomas as he is a really clingy baby and he needs to interact with other kids I think xx

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Mar 10th, 2010, 04:57 AM	#8
flower01 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Fleet, Hampshire Posts: 2,935	im going back in May but in the evenings so i wont even have to put Willow in a nursery she will be at home with her daddy but im still dreading it! i dont want to miss out on 4 hours a day everyday! now thats mad! lol i hope it will get easier hun and im sure it will, but it will be hard for the first few weeks at least! xx

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Mar 10th, 2010, 05:32 AM	#10
EmilyBDS Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 61	It is hard at first but it does get easier. I only had 3 months maternity leave so Lena was to be put in nursery from 12 weeks old so that I could return to work from 8-5 five days a week. My mum took vacation for 3 weeks so that she entered when she was 15 weeks instead. I cried my eyes out the night before while packing her nursery bag and I was a wreck at work that first day but things slowly improved. Now, she loves going and holds out her hand to the 'aunties' when I drop her off and is the most social lil creature. The best part of the day is coming home to her though but I must admit the adult interaction is great for me too.

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