This is going to sound silly but leaving her is too hard :( - Page 2

lisac25 · Mar 10th, 2010, 05:38 AM

YES!!! with my first, it broke my heart the day i had to go back to work, i was convonced i would be fine, she was with my MIL so not a stranger, i also worked in a nursery so i saw children that were fine with us every day, but none of it helped, needless to say i was very lucky in that i was only going back part time anyway, and that we could survive off my OH's wages, day 2 i handed my notice in.
even though you know that your LO will be fine without you it doesnt make it any easier, hope things work out for you hun x x x

NIfirsttimer · Mar 10th, 2010, 05:54 AM

'i So feel your pain claire.. im in the middle of rubys 'settling in' period with her new childminder, and its by far the hardest and most horrible thing ive done with her so far.. it breaks my heart each and every time i walk away and leave her there.. and its not helped by the fact that shes not settling fast, and gets very upset most days....
that said, she is slowly getting better, so im just taking it one day at a time, and hoping that things get easier soon, for both of us!

Emma1980 · Mar 10th, 2010, 06:13 AM

My mums a childminder, has been since i was a few months old, so ive seen many a child come and go...
95% of them are not bothered, they love playing with kids, their mind is constantly occupied with all this new stuff thats going on around them
the other 5% cry as their mummy leaves, but the second shes out of that gate, they turn around and start playing...
Never ever in the 30 years that shes done it for as she had a baby cry for their mum all day, kids love the new stuff thats their and they develop friendships with the other kids..

You need to feel completely comfortable with your childminder to do this... you really need to leave her for an hour and come back, it will make you feel tonnes better that when you walk thru the door shes all gummy smiliing at you & you know shes had a fantastic time

Hugs hun, i know it cant be easy - luckily i never hafta do it, i'll just send him to grannys!

huggybear · Mar 10th, 2010, 06:21 AM

these threads make me feel sick to the pit of my stomach, I am soo in denial, I am due back at the end of May and I am lucky I have had over a year but its not enough, I dont wanna leave him (even though my mum is having him) I am going back five days but reducing my hours and it makes me upset just thinking about it..... I suspect it will be like this until we actually do return to work but I put it to the back of my mind everytime it crops up!!!

joeyjo · Mar 10th, 2010, 06:34 AM

no advise just hugs

I'm working some saturdays & leave G with his dad for the day - that was hard enough the first couple of times; it's better now I'm used to it though!

Connah'sMommy · Mar 10th, 2010, 06:50 AM

aw hun,i know its hard. I have gone back to college 2 days a week and i leave Connah with MIL. I know its not the same but is still hard to leave them. At the end of the day,we know whats best for our LO's and were biund to worry.

It will get easier though

x

loopylj · Mar 10th, 2010, 07:03 AM

Big hugs!!
oh I know how you feel, I'm not due to go back until June but I'm in the process of sorting a childminder and I'm hating every minute of it, I can't imagine going to work and leaving him, I keep pushing it to the back of my mind. xx

Rebaby · Mar 10th, 2010, 08:37 AM

No advice but lots of hugs

I feel sick every time i think about going back to work and it isn't even happening until the summer

And i'm sorry Ruby is having a hard time settling in with the childminder Kat, i hope things get easier for you soon

littlebabyboy · Mar 10th, 2010, 08:42 AM

unfortunately it never ends...i pine for DS every time he's not around. however it's espcially when i'm at home and he is out. when i'm out during the day and he's a home its not so bad. i think when you are at home its hard not having them round you get so sad as it feels weird. i feel like that even when OH just takes DS out for a couple of hours! but when i'm out for hours during the day (college) i'm ok. i mean of course i miss him but i have so many distractions and stuff so its not too bad. u'll be ok hun. xxx

JShaw · Mar 10th, 2010, 09:15 AM

I'm not going back until the end of June but I feel the same way. I'm not an emotional person, but I get tears in my eyes just thinking about leaving him alone with someone else.... I've developed a worrying mind since having LO.

Mar 10th, 2010, 05:38 AM	#11
lisac25 Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: kent, uk Posts: 1,367	YES!!! with my first, it broke my heart the day i had to go back to work, i was convonced i would be fine, she was with my MIL so not a stranger, i also worked in a nursery so i saw children that were fine with us every day, but none of it helped, needless to say i was very lucky in that i was only going back part time anyway, and that we could survive off my OH's wages, day 2 i handed my notice in. even though you know that your LO will be fine without you it doesnt make it any easier, hope things work out for you hun x x x

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Mar 10th, 2010, 05:54 AM	#12
NIfirsttimer Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Northern Ireland Posts: 4,357	'i So feel your pain claire.. im in the middle of rubys 'settling in' period with her new childminder, and its by far the hardest and most horrible thing ive done with her so far.. it breaks my heart each and every time i walk away and leave her there.. and its not helped by the fact that shes not settling fast, and gets very upset most days.... that said, she is slowly getting better, so im just taking it one day at a time, and hoping that things get easier soon, for both of us!

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Mar 10th, 2010, 06:13 AM	#13
Emma1980 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Ashton Under Lyne Posts: 3,405	My mums a childminder, has been since i was a few months old, so ive seen many a child come and go... 95% of them are not bothered, they love playing with kids, their mind is constantly occupied with all this new stuff thats going on around them the other 5% cry as their mummy leaves, but the second shes out of that gate, they turn around and start playing... Never ever in the 30 years that shes done it for as she had a baby cry for their mum all day, kids love the new stuff thats their and they develop friendships with the other kids.. You need to feel completely comfortable with your childminder to do this... you really need to leave her for an hour and come back, it will make you feel tonnes better that when you walk thru the door shes all gummy smiliing at you & you know shes had a fantastic time Hugs hun, i know it cant be easy - luckily i never hafta do it, i'll just send him to grannys!

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Mar 10th, 2010, 06:21 AM	#14
huggybear Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: London Posts: 1,045	these threads make me feel sick to the pit of my stomach, I am soo in denial, I am due back at the end of May and I am lucky I have had over a year but its not enough, I dont wanna leave him (even though my mum is having him) I am going back five days but reducing my hours and it makes me upset just thinking about it..... I suspect it will be like this until we actually do return to work but I put it to the back of my mind everytime it crops up!!!

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Mar 10th, 2010, 06:34 AM	#15
joeyjo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Herts Posts: 4,386	no advise just hugs I'm working some saturdays & leave G with his dad for the day - that was hard enough the first couple of times; it's better now I'm used to it though!

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Mar 10th, 2010, 06:50 AM	#16
Connah'sMommy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: South Yorkshire Posts: 5,667	aw hun,i know its hard. I have gone back to college 2 days a week and i leave Connah with MIL. I know its not the same but is still hard to leave them. At the end of the day,we know whats best for our LO's and were biund to worry. It will get easier though x

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Mar 10th, 2010, 07:03 AM	#17
loopylj Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Stockport Posts: 299	Big hugs!! oh I know how you feel, I'm not due to go back until June but I'm in the process of sorting a childminder and I'm hating every minute of it, I can't imagine going to work and leaving him, I keep pushing it to the back of my mind. xx

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Mar 10th, 2010, 08:37 AM	#18
Rebaby Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 4,699	No advice but lots of hugs I feel sick every time i think about going back to work and it isn't even happening until the summer And i'm sorry Ruby is having a hard time settling in with the childminder Kat, i hope things get easier for you soon

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Mar 10th, 2010, 08:42 AM	#19
littlebabyboy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 1,481	unfortunately it never ends...i pine for DS every time he's not around. however it's espcially when i'm at home and he is out. when i'm out during the day and he's a home its not so bad. i think when you are at home its hard not having them round you get so sad as it feels weird. i feel like that even when OH just takes DS out for a couple of hours! but when i'm out for hours during the day (college) i'm ok. i mean of course i miss him but i have so many distractions and stuff so its not too bad. u'll be ok hun. xxx

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Mar 10th, 2010, 09:15 AM	#20
JShaw Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 754	I'm not going back until the end of June but I feel the same way. I'm not an emotional person, but I get tears in my eyes just thinking about leaving him alone with someone else.... I've developed a worrying mind since having LO.

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