At the end of my tether

Lucy_lu_84 · Mar 4th, 2010, 04:12 AM

I don't come on to moan very often, and I always feel guilty when I moan about LO but honestly this week I feel like I can't take any more.

Sleep times have became a major battle, he's never been a great sleeper and has slept through about twice. I could cope and didn't mind when he was waking up for a bottle but he doesnt have one any more.

He wakes up every hour until about midnight, ans then every couple of hours after that and I have no idea why. We part co-sleep and bringing him in with me always got him straight back to sleep.

I feel like i've got a newborn again and I'm shattered. Its like he's punishing me for going back to work

Nao times i wont even get started on them.

Tired and feelin hormonal. OH was on sofa last night (doesnt finish work till 2am) Last nigh at 4am i could take no more and put joshua on lounge floor witth a toy told oh he was there and went for some sleep. Feel really guilty cos i know he'd not long gone to sleep... tell me its such a phase

juliespencer9 · Mar 4th, 2010, 04:17 AM

You poor thing, I know how you feel, im still going through it, my lo still wakes for 2 hrs some nights, but i co sleep now ive given up with getting up and down all night!
Mine doesnt want milk either just wants to mess about!
Im back at work next week boo hoo!
Have you tried CC?

Jody R · Mar 4th, 2010, 04:20 AM

If he's awake and happy can you leave him to play in his cot while you sleep?

There have been a couple of times when Joseph would not go back to sleep and I found the best compromise was to let him play in his cot while I slept on the floor next to it, I got some rest (not great but better than nothing) and he was comforted to see me there and happy to do his own thing.

I know that if he is awake and crying or only happy while you are holding him then you must be feeling terrible, I can remember times when I felt dizzy with exhaustion and desperate for a different pair of arms to put Joseph in and I wasn't at work in the morning.

Perhaps your health visitor will have some suggestions about how to get him out of this.

I know this isn't much help but I didn't want to read and run, I really hope he gets out of the habit again soon.

Lucy_lu_84 · Mar 4th, 2010, 04:35 AM

Thanks girls, I know there's not much advice to offer I just felt like I needed to get it out!

That's the problem he won't be happy in his cot... mind you haven't tried sleeping next to it! That's a possibility!

Thankfully I work afternoons so not needing to get up and go work early. Can have lots of coffee and wake up before I go!

Julie..I don't really feel comfortable doing CC or CIO to be honest. I let him cry for about five minutes the other morning when he was trying to nap and I ended up sitting on the stairs crying to! So it's just not for me!
Good luck for going back to work!

Lucy_lu_84 · Mar 4th, 2010, 04:40 AM

Argh and why are there suddenly lots of threards about young babies sleeping through

That so doesn't make me feel better!

juliespencer9 · Mar 4th, 2010, 05:19 AM

Im not too good with CC either, I put her to bed and half hr later shes crying, i go back settle her down and half hr later crying, this goes on till i give in and put her in my bed and go to bed myself, then she wakes fidgetting and cries cos she cant get cosy....bloody kids! hehe!
I know it defo helps to know your not the only one.

Mum2b_Claire · Mar 4th, 2010, 05:23 AM

The young babies sleeping through may well not be sleeping through in a few weeks/months.

You know that 8 months can often be a really bad time for sleep? Ruby has always been a great sleeper but between 8 and 9 months she woke up at night quite a bit. She's settled down now though. Apparently their sleep cycles change in length at 8 months and that can be unsettling for a little while.

Hugs

Jody R · Mar 4th, 2010, 09:26 AM

That's right, what they do one night can be completely different the next.

I thought Joseph was sleeping through at 12 weeks but really he was lulling me into a false sense of security before starting to wake up two or three times a night, sometimes for hours at a time. He slept through for a few weeks and then that was it, we were up several times every night.

He did settle again but he only really started to get a good sleep when he went to his own room at 9 months old but as I said, there have been times when I've slept on his floor because he's woken up and just will not sleep again. He even stands up in his cot some nights, it's like he's warning me, don't get comfortable tonight because I'm not laying down!

The only thing I can say is that it will pass. It's no help or comfort to know that but one day it will and when that day comes don't be surprised if you are awake all night wondering what's wrong.

Lucy_lu_84 · Mar 4th, 2010, 13:32 PM

Thanks girlies and yes it helps to know Im not alone, have some ladies at work whos kids are older but all i hear is how early they slept thru! Bleugh! lol

Claire I had no clue about that... would make sense tho. Hoping it passes then once he's past 9 months! how do there cycles change btw?

honey08 · Mar 4th, 2010, 14:00 PM

morgans doing it ! hes been up everyday at 3/4am and demanding to get up at 5am

he use to sleep till 6/7am , and im knackered, hes hardley napping ,jsut in the buggy really, but i remember reading posts bout 7/8mth not sleeping when morgan was 2mth old thinking " oo im glad he does" lol and now he doesnt xx

dont feel guilty do wot u need to to get some kip x

Mar 4th, 2010, 04:12 AM	#1
Lucy_lu_84 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Rugby Posts: 3,622	At the end of my tether I don't come on to moan very often, and I always feel guilty when I moan about LO but honestly this week I feel like I can't take any more. Sleep times have became a major battle, he's never been a great sleeper and has slept through about twice. I could cope and didn't mind when he was waking up for a bottle but he doesnt have one any more. He wakes up every hour until about midnight, ans then every couple of hours after that and I have no idea why. We part co-sleep and bringing him in with me always got him straight back to sleep. I feel like i've got a newborn again and I'm shattered. Its like he's punishing me for going back to work Nao times i wont even get started on them. Tired and feelin hormonal. OH was on sofa last night (doesnt finish work till 2am) Last nigh at 4am i could take no more and put joshua on lounge floor witth a toy told oh he was there and went for some sleep. Feel really guilty cos i know he'd not long gone to sleep... tell me its such a phase

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Mar 4th, 2010, 04:17 AM	#2
juliespencer9 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: South of England Posts: 1,696	You poor thing, I know how you feel, im still going through it, my lo still wakes for 2 hrs some nights, but i co sleep now ive given up with getting up and down all night! Mine doesnt want milk either just wants to mess about! Im back at work next week boo hoo! Have you tried CC?

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Mar 4th, 2010, 04:20 AM	#3
Jody R Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 3,028	If he's awake and happy can you leave him to play in his cot while you sleep? There have been a couple of times when Joseph would not go back to sleep and I found the best compromise was to let him play in his cot while I slept on the floor next to it, I got some rest (not great but better than nothing) and he was comforted to see me there and happy to do his own thing. I know that if he is awake and crying or only happy while you are holding him then you must be feeling terrible, I can remember times when I felt dizzy with exhaustion and desperate for a different pair of arms to put Joseph in and I wasn't at work in the morning. Perhaps your health visitor will have some suggestions about how to get him out of this. I know this isn't much help but I didn't want to read and run, I really hope he gets out of the habit again soon.

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Mar 4th, 2010, 04:35 AM	#4
Lucy_lu_84 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Rugby Posts: 3,622	Thanks girls, I know there's not much advice to offer I just felt like I needed to get it out! That's the problem he won't be happy in his cot... mind you haven't tried sleeping next to it! That's a possibility! Thankfully I work afternoons so not needing to get up and go work early. Can have lots of coffee and wake up before I go! Julie..I don't really feel comfortable doing CC or CIO to be honest. I let him cry for about five minutes the other morning when he was trying to nap and I ended up sitting on the stairs crying to! So it's just not for me! Good luck for going back to work!

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Mar 4th, 2010, 04:40 AM	#5
Lucy_lu_84 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Rugby Posts: 3,622	Argh and why are there suddenly lots of threards about young babies sleeping through That so doesn't make me feel better!

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Mar 4th, 2010, 05:19 AM	#6
juliespencer9 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: South of England Posts: 1,696	Im not too good with CC either, I put her to bed and half hr later shes crying, i go back settle her down and half hr later crying, this goes on till i give in and put her in my bed and go to bed myself, then she wakes fidgetting and cries cos she cant get cosy....bloody kids! hehe! I know it defo helps to know your not the only one.

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Mar 4th, 2010, 05:23 AM	#7
Mum2b_Claire Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Kent Posts: 13,905	The young babies sleeping through may well not be sleeping through in a few weeks/months. You know that 8 months can often be a really bad time for sleep? Ruby has always been a great sleeper but between 8 and 9 months she woke up at night quite a bit. She's settled down now though. Apparently their sleep cycles change in length at 8 months and that can be unsettling for a little while. Hugs

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Mar 4th, 2010, 09:26 AM	#8
Jody R Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 3,028	That's right, what they do one night can be completely different the next. I thought Joseph was sleeping through at 12 weeks but really he was lulling me into a false sense of security before starting to wake up two or three times a night, sometimes for hours at a time. He slept through for a few weeks and then that was it, we were up several times every night. He did settle again but he only really started to get a good sleep when he went to his own room at 9 months old but as I said, there have been times when I've slept on his floor because he's woken up and just will not sleep again. He even stands up in his cot some nights, it's like he's warning me, don't get comfortable tonight because I'm not laying down! The only thing I can say is that it will pass. It's no help or comfort to know that but one day it will and when that day comes don't be surprised if you are awake all night wondering what's wrong.

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Mar 4th, 2010, 13:32 PM	#9
Lucy_lu_84 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Rugby Posts: 3,622	Thanks girlies and yes it helps to know Im not alone, have some ladies at work whos kids are older but all i hear is how early they slept thru! Bleugh! lol Claire I had no clue about that... would make sense tho. Hoping it passes then once he's past 9 months! how do there cycles change btw?

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Mar 4th, 2010, 14:00 PM	#10
honey08 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: north yorkshire,uk Posts: 28,663	morgans doing it ! hes been up everyday at 3/4am and demanding to get up at 5am he use to sleep till 6/7am , and im knackered, hes hardley napping ,jsut in the buggy really, but i remember reading posts bout 7/8mth not sleeping when morgan was 2mth old thinking " oo im glad he does" lol and now he doesnt xx dont feel guilty do wot u need to to get some kip x

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