one thing I have learned (since it plagued me the first few weeks) is that you should always take all advice with a grain of salt. I had a lot of trouble at first being a first time mom and I felt like all of the people I talked to were saying that they didn't have teh same problems as me and so my little girl was different and I wasn't good at being a mom. Of course, this wasn't true, and not the intention of others, but I was sleep-deprived and down on myself. Now, every day is a huge learning curve for me, especially with my husband at work all hours of the day. I get upset when our routine gets disrupted, but my LO is only 10 weeks old and she doesn't follow a routine most of the time. She sleeps twice during the day, once from about 12 to about 3 and then later in the evening from around 6-9, then she is up for an hour and goes to sleep at 10. She can't go very long without eating....she is a little piggy, so she can usually make it from 10pm to 5am, but sometimes she is up at 1 as well. I get very down on myself when she doesn't make it through the night. Sometimes we rock, sometimes I have her in my bed till she falls asleep, whatever works! The bottom line is, we both need to sleep in order to function. All advice is welcomed, and we try new things all the time. We wouldnt have read this post if we weren't looking for hints, but there is no right or wrong way to put your baby to sleep if he or she is sleeping then you are doing something right!

i don't think anyone was jumping on the OP (it's very awesome of her to share what worked for her as in helping others), just also sharing what worked for them. at least, that is how i read it. like, all the mamas are banding together to say what worked for them in their adventures with their own sleeping babies.

I dont need to pat him before every sleep, it's just when he's frustrated & sometimes a hug or some kisses would do & it's only during the night sleep. When they grow up, like around 6-7 mnths old, I dont think it's easy to hold a 7 kg baby & rock him or hold him to sleep. I have a small frame, & it's not easy for me.

I dont totally dim the light during the day. & he knws the difference between day & night. As for sleeping in his pram, or car seat, never had any problems. I didnt mention anything about noise during day. I can dry my hair during daytime, & he's still sleeping. At night, there r no noises, & v. low light.

thnk u

Omar suffers frm colic, reflux, & had v. bad eczema on his face. He's not an easy going boy, & needs lots of attention.

I had to find solution to all those problems, swaddling, struggling between formulas, bottles, teats, gripe water, then infacol then again gripe water, anti-reflux formula, etc.

I didnt even knw what colic means! I knew he was crying for a reason & holding or rocking will not solve it.

Now everything is under control & he doesnt cry, & gives me signals when he's ready to sleep.

Btw, I mentioned in my post that babies are not the same & was just sharing my experience as I thought it might help some ladies who r still struggling with sleep esp. during nap time.

Well done on getting things sorted so well with your LO. It doesn't sound like you have had an easy time of things, right from the birth onwards, trying to recover from a c section and then coping with a very needy baby. I am so impressed that you have managed to crack the sleep issue. You sound like someone who is very dedicated and determined and a good problem solver. I'm glad that you have found good strategies that work for you.

my points werent specifically refferring to you, your baby, or your post. Just my opinion on daytime and what i do.

Im sure there are definately people who have taken your advice and works for them too, think the other girls were just saying what works for them aswell. Glad youve got things working for you now and you get some sleep now!

Thnks for ur reply. I wasnt really giving advise, I was just sharing experience. I'm new at being a mother & I knw how frustrating it can be. I used to cry when Omar was struggling with colic & everytime he vomits.

I hate seeing moms & babies suffering frm lack of sleep. This is why I posted this thread.

I knw what works for me might not work for others, & it might not even work for me with my next baby.

I just believe that everything will get better