Anyone been put off having more kids? - Page 4

nataliecn · Feb 20th, 2010, 20:15 PM

I wasn't a fan of pregnancy, except the eating whatever, whenever.. which I'm now paying for! My c-section went brilliantly, and my recovery couldn't have been any better!
But I had really bad PND, which I still struggle with.. and because of it, I really don't want another one.. I could change my mind, but I don't really see it happening..

T-Bex · Feb 21st, 2010, 00:33 AM

I'm honestly terrified of getting pregnant ever again. Bethan was REALLY not planned (very glad though), and she's a pretty fantastic baby, and the pregnancy, delivery and recovery were all problem free and pretty easy, but I'm just not a baby person...
Like I said, love her to pieces, but I'm quite looking forward to when she's a little person that talks and has more interests, I guess. I'm not a fan of her being totally dependent on me.

I think I'm slightly unnatural.

charliesmom · Feb 21st, 2010, 02:04 AM

Nope. We're already planning on the next... and the next.. and the next.

We're aiming for 4. Babies grow up so quick.. you really only get a year or so of them being infants and so darn cute. I can't imagine getting enough of babyhood by having just one. I'd like to space them out by 2 years, so I'll have a baby around for about 8 years. I just really really love babies, esp ones my hubby and I make.

AtomicPink · Feb 21st, 2010, 04:37 AM

Do you know wht, this thread has made me feel like what I am feeling is normal, but at the same time I have realised I shouldn't write anything off.

I know I can only TTC if Alex grows up strong and healthy, for now we dont know what will happen because of her prematurity and medical history. But if shes ok, why knock that chance of number 2?

I constantly(inc. this morning) say I'm never having anymore, and I know it hurts OH.

Ive then got to think about what if I have another preemie. Noone knows why I had Alex so early but what if that was to happen again?

Maffie · Feb 21st, 2010, 04:50 AM

I always wanted loads of kids (well 4) oh always said 2 max ( he already has 2) I love having Noah and can not imagine having loads of kids. im enjoying having Noah and not sure how id cope with another, i think broody moments are normal with all these hormones.

Mynx · Feb 21st, 2010, 04:55 AM

I definately dont want anymore! I said that after my 17 year old tho, and bang, Evie comes along to surprise us

She is DEFINATELY my last tho, my 2 girls are my world and I love the huge age gap between them. Besides, OH had a vasectomy on Thursday

Blondie2008 · Feb 21st, 2010, 05:35 AM

I felt the same as you once the baby was born and people just laughed at me when i said i didnt want another. Well 8.5 months later and i still dont want another. No desire at all. I'm lucky in that my husband does not want any more. He only ever wanted the one.

Perhaps in years to come we will feel differently. You never know! xx

Nic1107 · Feb 21st, 2010, 07:10 AM

As hard as it's been with C, it seems her first month just flew by and, which gives me hope that the difficult phases won't seem to last forever. Our circumstances will also be entirely different by the time the next kid would come around, especially since DH will be out of the military and home to help with the new baby. I definitely want more kids, and so does my husband, so we'll see how things go and time our TTC based on whether C is low-maintenance enough to bring another baby into the house

My pregnancy wasn't too bad, the first three months were bad from the MS but not bad enough to never want to do it again, and labour and delivery was definitely something I could do again. But my baby did manage to injure- possibly fracture- my tailbone on the way out, so that definitely has to heal before I'm pushing out any more babies!

alibaba24 · Feb 21st, 2010, 07:18 AM

Right now i definatly dont want to have another. Rosalie is amazing but still the thought of it again and im scared of having another prem baby if i was to fall pg again. Im getting the contraceptive implant this week

xx

loz · Feb 21st, 2010, 09:00 AM

when i had my daughter i didnt want another, the thought of it upset me because i love her that much i couldnt possible love another one as much iykwim but after 5 years i started to feel broody and knew i could love both the same

Feb 20th, 2010, 20:15 PM	#31
nataliecn Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 11,874	I wasn't a fan of pregnancy, except the eating whatever, whenever.. which I'm now paying for! My c-section went brilliantly, and my recovery couldn't have been any better! But I had really bad PND, which I still struggle with.. and because of it, I really don't want another one.. I could change my mind, but I don't really see it happening..

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Feb 21st, 2010, 00:33 AM	#32
T-Bex Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: North Easterner in Cornwall Posts: 1,993	I'm honestly terrified of getting pregnant ever again. Bethan was REALLY not planned (very glad though), and she's a pretty fantastic baby, and the pregnancy, delivery and recovery were all problem free and pretty easy, but I'm just not a baby person... Like I said, love her to pieces, but I'm quite looking forward to when she's a little person that talks and has more interests, I guess. I'm not a fan of her being totally dependent on me. I think I'm slightly unnatural.

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Feb 21st, 2010, 02:04 AM	#33
charliesmom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: California Posts: 863	Nope. We're already planning on the next... and the next.. and the next. We're aiming for 4. Babies grow up so quick.. you really only get a year or so of them being infants and so darn cute. I can't imagine getting enough of babyhood by having just one. I'd like to space them out by 2 years, so I'll have a baby around for about 8 years. I just really really love babies, esp ones my hubby and I make.

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Feb 21st, 2010, 04:37 AM	#34
AtomicPink Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 19,122	Do you know wht, this thread has made me feel like what I am feeling is normal, but at the same time I have realised I shouldn't write anything off. I know I can only TTC if Alex grows up strong and healthy, for now we dont know what will happen because of her prematurity and medical history. But if shes ok, why knock that chance of number 2? I constantly(inc. this morning) say I'm never having anymore, and I know it hurts OH. Ive then got to think about what if I have another preemie. Noone knows why I had Alex so early but what if that was to happen again?

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Feb 21st, 2010, 04:50 AM	#35
Maffie Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 5,028	I always wanted loads of kids (well 4) oh always said 2 max ( he already has 2) I love having Noah and can not imagine having loads of kids. im enjoying having Noah and not sure how id cope with another, i think broody moments are normal with all these hormones.

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Feb 21st, 2010, 04:55 AM	#36
Mynx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: NW London, UK Posts: 8,298	I definately dont want anymore! I said that after my 17 year old tho, and bang, Evie comes along to surprise us She is DEFINATELY my last tho, my 2 girls are my world and I love the huge age gap between them. Besides, OH had a vasectomy on Thursday

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Feb 21st, 2010, 05:35 AM	#37
Blondie2008 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Wales Posts: 460	I felt the same as you once the baby was born and people just laughed at me when i said i didnt want another. Well 8.5 months later and i still dont want another. No desire at all. I'm lucky in that my husband does not want any more. He only ever wanted the one. Perhaps in years to come we will feel differently. You never know! xx

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Feb 21st, 2010, 07:10 AM	#38
Nic1107 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: USA Posts: 4,300	As hard as it's been with C, it seems her first month just flew by and, which gives me hope that the difficult phases won't seem to last forever. Our circumstances will also be entirely different by the time the next kid would come around, especially since DH will be out of the military and home to help with the new baby. I definitely want more kids, and so does my husband, so we'll see how things go and time our TTC based on whether C is low-maintenance enough to bring another baby into the house My pregnancy wasn't too bad, the first three months were bad from the MS but not bad enough to never want to do it again, and labour and delivery was definitely something I could do again. But my baby did manage to injure- possibly fracture- my tailbone on the way out, so that definitely has to heal before I'm pushing out any more babies!

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Feb 21st, 2010, 07:18 AM	#39
alibaba24 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: edinburgh Posts: 3,489	Right now i definatly dont want to have another. Rosalie is amazing but still the thought of it again and im scared of having another prem baby if i was to fall pg again. Im getting the contraceptive implant this week xx

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Feb 21st, 2010, 09:00 AM	#40
loz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: manchester Posts: 4,685	when i had my daughter i didnt want another, the thought of it upset me because i love her that much i couldnt possible love another one as much iykwim but after 5 years i started to feel broody and knew i could love both the same

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