I started my second period yesterday since having Ava and my cramps this time around are HORRIBLE. My legs ache, my arms ache, and my back especially. I have the worst cramping in my lower abdomen/pelvis area and it was so bad last night I couldn't sleep hardly.

Then I am bleeding REALLY bad (TMI) and I am soaking through a super tamp within 45 mins at a time and because Ava hasn't been napping much today I have bled through my pants twice (sorry it's gross I know) because she would scream when I would set her down to go to the bathroom.

Plus it's hard for me to lift her/cuddle/be as quick with this nagging pains in my entire body.

How do you girls cope? I have no help from FOB so I am on my own as far as tending to Ava.

Tips would be appreciated!

(FYI advil, motrin, etc has never worked for my cramping and it's almost impossible to use a heating pad with a baby in my lap.)

I'd say regular painkillers every 4 hours (these generally work best when built up so must be taken every 4 hours for any effect.) Have a nice hot cup of tea after them as it helps them dissove plus warms your tum nicely.

Honestly though, go to the toilet when you need to, LO won't hurt herself having a moan for a few minutes while you're in the bathroom. If it makes you feel better put the monitor by her or take her up with you. She must get used to not being held by mommy all the time otherwise you're going to have one spoiled little girl

Other than that I guess not doing too much in the way of exercise and not getting yourself stressed as this will only make you more tense and so have more cramps

I would go and see your doctor hun as that sounds quite bad to me. I've suffered a lot worse than pre-pregnancy since having my c section and I'm hoping it will get better with time but I've managed so far with regular painkillers and just having a lie down. I'm on my own as well so I just put Brady on the bed with me and I can still play with toys with him.

I spoke to my gyno my first period and was told it was normal to bleed very heavy and not to be concerned unless I was passing clots (which I am not). As far as the cramping I have always had VERY bad cramps but since my pregnancy their a lot worse now.

Thanks for the tips though. I think I am going to just have to set the baby down when I need to cleanse myself. I don't think 2 mins of her screaming will hurt. And I actually just had a cup of hot tea and it was nice. It's cold here where I live and it did help with the cramping a tad bit.

Any other suggestions?

get a big sock and fill it with uncooked rice. tie the sock at the end and throw it in the microwave to warm it up. it doesnt get as hot as a heating pad and you can move it wherever you have to when you hold ava

oh hun xx

Mine have got worse too
Its awful i know hun

when you need to go to the loo,take Ava's changing matt in there with you if you can and she might not scream as much/at all.

also take regular painkillers
xxx

Honestly, don't worry about leaving Ava to cry while you go to the toilet - as long as she's fed and clean she's fine! If I stayed with Aiden everytime he cried, I would have starved to death/be living in a flat full of rats and mice and be sitting here in trousers stained with poop and pee!

Dunno why people must say "oh dont carry them everywhere they will end up spoilt!" RUBBISH...please can people STOP spreading such crap. Holding a baby doesnt "spoil" them, ever. Oh and I never leave my LO to cry except for very short times when say I am using the toilet or taking a shower or taking something very hot out of the oven etc, he is ALWAYS picked up at the very first opportunity and carried as much as he wants to be carried, my house is clean, tidy and so am I, I speak highly of carriers/wraps and slings to enable you to hold baby and do housework at the same time!
On the other hand if you need to go to the loo then take her up, place her on a bath mat or towel and if she cries she cries and she will have to wait for two minutes, you can talk to her to soothe her and then pick her back up when you are done. Its difficult when they are grumpy but you need to deal with yourself as well on occasion!
Id go and see a doctor, there should be something that can be done, many types of contraception will help with severe symptoms like yours, appreciate you arent jumping in bed with anyone but it would be worth it to help you out whilst you are in such pain and bleeding so heavily, I can imagine it will make you feel shite.

I just finished my second period & it was horrible. Omar loves to move on my belly, & was really painful . I tried to keep him on my bed as much as I can as I couldnt play on the floor with him. When I need to go to the toilet, I keep him on his cot with his mobile on. If he cries abit, I try to ignore it, but I keep the bathroom door open & it's in my room & not far away from the cot. I took voltarine every 4 hrs (I used the same after my CS), & camomile tea before bedtime, after Omar sleeps.