My aunt is 3 yrs older than me. She has 4 kids, the youngest is 2 wks younger than mine. 2 days back she came for a visit, & she was really surprised by the time I spend with my LO.

I was surprised to knw that the only time she spend with her LO is when she's BFing, changing or putting in bed. When he's awake, she puts him in his bouncy chair & talk to him fr time to time. She'd spend her free time talking on the phone or having visitors (which she really really likes). They dont have tummy time, playtime..none!

Her LO doesnt have a cot mobile/play mat/baby gym - nothing. Even clothes, she just got him the minimum. When I asked her why, she told me this is her last baby & she won't SPEND on things that will not be used again!

She doesnt have any financial problems, & this is why I was really surprised & to be honest, I was shocked!

Is it common? I just want to knw..

My mom had 4 kids, & she gave us equal attention when we where little

Thats kinda mean :\ I'll treat all my other children the same as I treat Amelie although my attention will obviously need to be shared.

Thats a bit odd.
It does sound (and I dont mean to offend) like she cant really be bothered.

I'll be telling visitors and the phone to sod off so I can spend as much time with LO as possible because before you know it theyr growing up.

Saying that this isn't my last (I hope) as we are planning another in a year or so, so I will keep as much as possible so I don't have to buy everything again, but I certainly be making sure the next one has as much as this one!

Hmm, sounds like sheJohn is my 2nd and last LO, and I'm giving him as much attention as possible! I want to enjoy the cuddles and everything while I can, I'll never get to do it again. I do put him in his bouncy chair and playmatt when he'll let me, my DD needs lots of attention too after all (we'll often all sit on the couch, me BFing John and reading to Kathryn at the same time), but I enjoy every second with both of my kids because they will never be this little again and before I know it they'll want nothing to do with me!

I guess your friend has a point about buying things for her LO, but only if she's kept things from the other kids. Like if John was a girl I wouldn't have needed to get much, but since he's a boy I got new clothes (between what I got and what I was given he has too much now! haha). But she just doesn't seem all that interested in her LO.

I have to say, I've learnt from Theakston what not to buy next time, and obviously a lot of stuff we have already so if we were to have another, there's stuff I'd just let the new baby have like his old rattles and toys that he didn't have interest anymore, and I guess if you've done it 3 times before there is very little you need to buy!

However, in terms of spending time with the baby, I'd be with it as much as I am with him. I'd aim to breastfeed for as long and spend as much quality time with them as I have with him.

I treat mine all the same... this baby is my #4th and i have brought just as much sure i have tryed to find them at cheaper prices than i would of with my 1st BUT this baby has just as much as my 1st one did... the pushchair we got this time we spend just under £600 thats the most i have ever spent on a pushchair/pram!.... i think its pretty cruel to be honest not to give him attention or buy him the things that the first one had.
I should point out though if things are used ot just go buy stuff just because....

I feel so sad that he aint getting the attention that he deserves though bless him....x

She had NOTHING! this baby was unplanned. SHe wanted to stop at no. 3. She didnt even want to buy a baby cot, but her OH found a cheap one in sale & got it.

All children should be treated equally. Yes you may not do EVERYTHING the same as you do with your first LO as you learn from your mistakes

But when it comes to play, cuddles etc they should have the same
xx

Well I think that you learn from your first one pretty much what you don't need to get.

I got loads of little outfits for Jack was given loads, and he pretty much wore most of the stuff maybe once - and some not at all. He was just more comfortable and it was easier to keep him in baby grows. I only tend to put him in a proper "outfit" if we are going out to visit people, or if I just fancy seeing him in something out that a baby grows.

I also would bother buying stuff like a star lite swing, as although he will go in it for a few minutes a day, he isn;t really that fussed by it and it was very expensive.

So I guess I would buy less, but not because I wanted to save money - but because I wouldn't buy stuff that would go to waste.

But I certainly wouldn't spend any less time with a 2nd LO (if we have another). I can't imagine sticking Jack in his bouncy chair all time. I love cuddles and chatting and playing with him. On the other hand I wouln't mind if he would still longer in his bouncy chair. Ten minutes tops and then screaming.

Does her baby not cry being left all day?

He cries all day. He' suffering from colic, so I went and got her infacol, gripe water & infant fennel tea!

He's very loud & most of the time restless. He also have craddle cap, & when I recomended a good shampoo we'r using, she said it's a waste & it will go when the baby is 6 mnths old.

She doesnt even wind him properly, & when I commented on it, she told me that she's used to sicky babies.

When he cries, she just hold him to her breast to give him a soothing suck, which makes him more sick.