Parents how to handle? - Page 2

Katieeeee · Feb 12th, 2010, 11:04 AM

My god....what if they just walked in when you and OH were mid pump?

inxsmhpy · Feb 12th, 2010, 12:19 PM

Katieeeee! Maybe thats the answer, it might put them off!

Rachel_C · Feb 12th, 2010, 12:23 PM

I hate it when people turn up unannounced! My MIL and SIL did it once when I was home alone, enjoying a lovely relaxing afternoon... after the frosty reception they got and the grudgingly made cup of tea, they haven't done it since

I'd probably do something awful like pretend to have been having sex next time they turn up!!! If you can make it embarrassing enough for them, they'll ALWAYS call before they come over, even for pre-arranged visits!

If that's not for you, would it work for your family to have set days when you see your parents? Then you could tell your mum that you're trying hard to get LO into a routine (even if you're not) and that you want to make sure he gets enough time with them, so can you 'book' regular times instead of seeing them at random times. If you put it forward as if you're trying to make sure he gets enough of them rather than making sure they don't turn up as much, I think that would go down ok.

Oh and I would put a bolt on the inside of your door and lock it when you're in the house. Then when they try to let themselves in (even if it's an arranged visit) they'll find that their key is just for emergencies, not letting themselves in.

Rebaby · Feb 13th, 2010, 07:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Katieeeee

My god....what if they just walked in when you and OH were mid pump?

This had me seriously pmsl

Although i'm not sure which is funnier- the look of horror i can imagine on their faces or the idea of people actually managing to have sex with a new baby

Joking aside though i can imagine how difficult the situation must be for you hun

my folks are funny about 'stuff' too and i don't know how i'd handle it if i was in your shoes, but i do know that compared to most people i know, your parents see quite a lot of your LO, so don't feel bad about suggesting they let you know in advance before they come over, it's not like you're excluding them, just asking them to respect your space and the fact you have your own thing going on.

Hope you figure something out.

Kit · Feb 13th, 2010, 08:02 AM

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Originally Posted by bloodbinds

My dad is always dropping by, but he does always text me first! My mum see's LO once every two weeks... if that!

I'm trying to think what you can say... my family our quite different and very up front about things. If i had a problem with mum or dad coming over i would say something and know they wouldn't be offended. But because your family seems quite different i'm not too sure how you should go about it.

Maybe try and make a joke out of it? Like 'Wow, no one i know has their parents over this often! You guys are lucky seeing so much of LO!' and 'Whoa, the key was for emergences, please knock cuz i don't want you guys to catch me when i'm walking around naked!'

OR

you could go the complete opposite, and if you know how sensitive your mum is you could sit her down and tell her 'i really dont want to upset you but i know you will respect me being honest with you, but please try and call before you come over as i'm very often busy, or enjoying alone time with LO. I know you want to spend more time with him, but we're in a routine i need to keep to and you guys popping over randomly keeps messing it up. I'm sure you understand. etc etc' and just be really gentle and sensitive about it?

All i can suggest! Good luck!! x

I was going to suggest some casual comment about how lucky they are too! My MIL and I always have to make a big effort so she can see my LO even once a month due to the distance and work committments of my OH and my FIL. We do our absolute best and visits are still few and far between - she would love to see him once a week!

Mummy~L · Feb 13th, 2010, 10:34 AM

Could you not just ask them to call first before they come over as you may have other plans?? xx

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Rachel_C Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 6,839	I hate it when people turn up unannounced! My MIL and SIL did it once when I was home alone, enjoying a lovely relaxing afternoon... after the frosty reception they got and the grudgingly made cup of tea, they haven't done it since I'd probably do something awful like pretend to have been having sex next time they turn up!!! If you can make it embarrassing enough for them, they'll ALWAYS call before they come over, even for pre-arranged visits! If that's not for you, would it work for your family to have set days when you see your parents? Then you could tell your mum that you're trying hard to get LO into a routine (even if you're not) and that you want to make sure he gets enough time with them, so can you 'book' regular times instead of seeing them at random times. If you put it forward as if you're trying to make sure he gets enough of them rather than making sure they don't turn up as much, I think that would go down ok. Oh and I would put a bolt on the inside of your door and lock it when you're in the house. Then when they try to let themselves in (even if it's an arranged visit) they'll find that their key is just for emergencies, not letting themselves in.

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Mummy~L Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 3,365	Could you not just ask them to call first before they come over as you may have other plans?? xx

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